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The BIG CHOP & Your Man's (or Woman's) REACTION?!??!!?!?

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BlackDiamond21

BlackDiamond21

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Now I know we all have that spouse who says they will ride for you on anything but then you do something like the BC and it is like, WHAT THE HELL DID YOU DO? :blush:

I have been talking about going from BSL to a pixie or TWA and my bf swears he will be ok but I am looking like, "Negro pls! You like to pull hair!" lol

So ladies, please share with me your experiences and reactions from your SIGNIFICANT OTHER once you did the BC!

TY - BD21
 
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My SO laughed and said he could not believe I actually did it. Then he got over it and took me to dinner to celebrate
 
My hubby went with me to do it and shook his head the entire time. HE LOOOOOOOVES long hair, so I'm sure he felt like I kicked him in the nads with the heel of my stiletto! :lachen: He loves my natural hair, curls, texture, etc., he's just anxiously awaiting the return of my length and then some. I think he's feeling better now because it is growing back.
 
I didn't tell mine. He knew that I wasn't going to relax any more and that I was contemplating cutting. He went on vacay to visit his sisters. I picked him up from the airport with 2" of hair. He loved it. LOVED.
 
my bestfriend, who will eventually become my SO, doesn't support my transitioning, or my goals of a full head of natural hair. He's the type of guy who thinks straight, neat, and long hair = nice hair.

everytime we're together he says "pleaseee just get a perm, it fits your face" or something of the sort...

i usually just roll my eyes and whatever him, but a few weeks ago, i finally turned to him and said listen up, i will NEVER put a perm in my head again. I'm going to have a head full of beautiful naps, and just so you know, i will never BE with someone who can't accept or appreciate my hair for what it is.

he took a sec to think abt that, then said well i guess its something i could get used to..
and he hasn't mentioned a perm since!

i'm likin this :D
 
My DH HATED it! These past 3 yrs that I have been on my HHJ have been a learning experience for not only me but for DH too. He asked me to relax several times in the early days & months. I told him then & i'll tell him now that he can kick rocks! His mouth says one thing but his hands are always up in my napps...he is one of the reasons I rarely let my hair out/loose; it's like a magnet for him :)
 
discodumpling said:
I told him then & i'll tell him now that he can kick rocks! His mouth says one thing but his hands are always up in my napps...he is one of the reasons I rarely let my hair out/loose; it's like a magnet for him :)
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LMAO!!!! That is hilarious! Kick rocks... I gotta use that saying again. :)
 
I was transitioning when I met my SO at the time. He knew I was eventually going to cut all my hair off and he was supportive of it. Once I was did the deed he told me he liked it and it made me look exotic.
 
My husband did not want me too. I had locs past my shoulders and I (myself) thinned them out. So I had to cut them off. I kept saying I needed to cut them and the derm told me to cut them also. The day I cut them,(my coworkers at the salon did not want to cut my hair. They met me when it was short and they were cutting them when they were long. My boss almost cried) that night, my husband came through the door and said, Noooooo, why did you cut it? My oldest daughter told me a couple of times that I was bald now.
 
I can respond to my own thread now that I have BC'd...

My hair pulling man can't keep his hands out of my newly cropped head. :) He loves it! :grin:
 
Congrats on your chop.

FH was asking me when I was gonna BC. He came home saw me cutting away. He was shocked cause it was a month earlier than expected. He did help me even it out. He cannot keep his hands out my hair. He is used to naturals. Everyone we are close to are life long naturals. His mom, his step mom, my mom my sister, his sister. We are now a natural family.
 
Dominican09 said:
He laughed, rubbed my head, said he likes it and immediatly gave me a nickname :grin:
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lol..mine did almost the same thing. He looked at me..like a dear in headlights..rubbed my head..said it will grow back. Then called me puffball. He has more nicknames like PUff the magic dragon, power PUff girl, cotton ball..q-tip..ay ay ay..the list goes on and on
 
SherylsTresses said:
My DH said, "I don't like bald-headi'med women. If you cut your hair, I will nick-name you bald-headed skally wag!" :look: :ohwell:
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I'm lost. You didn't big chop did you? If not then how is this your mans reaction ONCE YOU DID big chop??? I was trying to be concise by asking for responses for women who DID it, not who are contemplating or talking about it.
 
My friend always had hair past her shoulders, but she did the big chop about 6 months after getting married to her high school sweetheart...her husband helped her do it. However, she said he really prefers long hair and she would have never cut her hair before he married her....IDK, but I found her comments strange. I think, since he helped her do it and everything, that he is more understanding than she gave him credit for.
 
my man didnt notice I cut my hair...I wore wigs and wig caps all the time in the beginning of our relationship...when I took the wig off after months of braiding under the wig..I said to him..look at how much my hair has grown...he said it looks the same as it did last year..I gave him a :perplexed:ohwell: look..I said dont u remember when I cut it to "this" length..He said NO...crazy...oh well he luvs my hair now...
 
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Qtee said:
my man didnt notice I cut my hair...I wore wigs and wig caps all the time in the beginning of our relationship...when I took the wig off after months of braiding under the wig..I said to him..look at how much my hair has grown...he said it looks the same as it did last year..I gave him a :perplexed:ohwell: look..I said dont u remember when I cut it to "this" length..He said NO...crazy...oh well he luvs my hair now...
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This is tooo funny!
 
Well I had been bugging my DH for days to help me cut it. I told him this last time that if he didn't help me I would do it myself. He kept wanting to put it off. So he left to go to the gym and when he came back, my relaxed ends were all gone. His response was "Is that all? I thought you would have less hair than that!" So he loves it natural. He was actually the main person who encouraged me to go natural. So it's all good.
 
I did it late on a random Sunday night and sent DH a blurry phone pic the next morning. When we skyped that night he just started laughing (and I mean laughing, lol). He said he loved it. We'll see how he feels when he's back home and sees it in person...
 
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