Your hair touch your shoulders? Yo Daddy white?

[vainღ♥♡jane]

Next time you see her, invite her to "feel" your hair for verification, and then tell her to join LHCF.

Hey, spread the word.

i wouldn't spread the word to that hef fa. she was so rude to question janet's growth cuz she is dark skinned. thats crazy. ole girl was bold. ♥

 

[southerncitygirl]

But people, all PC aside, it is true that most non-type 4 hair types have less trouble retaining length than we do. I'm too lazy to post the link but I once started a thread showing the results of a study where Loreal scientists had carried out elasticity tests on Asian, Caucasian and African hair (by placing weights on individual strands to see how heavy they could make the weight before the strand snapped), and no surprise, African hair was the least elastic and Asian hair the most elastic. Sooo, *in general* if we handle our hair with nonchalance, it is very easy to end up with broken off, damaged hair. And yes, this is true for everybody, yada yada, but it is even more so for us, that's just the truth.

And about the mixed thing, not all blacks in the Western Hemisphere have some mixed heritage, but a lot do - the average AA is 12.5% white, and that average varies from region to region up, to nearly 25% white in places like NOLA and LA. And of course it varies from person to person. So, if someone has pale skin and type 3 hair that retains length easily, I don't think we should be so contemptuous when others assume that they are "mixed." They can respond, "No, I'm Black", but Black in America encompasses a wide spectrum of genetic profiles, so the statement "I'm Black" doesn't really reveal everything about genetic origin IMO, and can be kind of disingenuous.

Of course, I do get OP's frustration. For example, I have an African friend who assumes my hair longish because people from the Caribbean are mixed. I keep trying to tell her that looking at the people while walking in downtown Kingston and most places in rural Jamaica you could be in Africa, but she isn't having it. It's just not possible in her mind. It's not even something to discuss. IMO there is a difference between thinking that other races generally have an easier time retaining length (true) and thinking that ALL BW with long hair are mixed with other races or that even with appropriate care BW can't grow their hair long (false).

i'm not from the deep south but am southern, from virginia. my family is mixed up from slavery and even recently( heavy native american ancestry and older relatives that had white parent or were half white) but at the end of the day no matter what i'm black! i get tired of folks trying to probe into my lineage, white or black.....white folks have a tendency once they really get to know you to say "you're not really black"...smdh, it like they are trying to say in rounabout way "why do you want to claim or associate with them?" this boils my blood. africans are a mess and not to get off the subject of hair but colonization in some ways warped their brains in a way that was worse than my ancestors enduring slavery.....all across the board as peoples of ther african diaspora we claim to be proud to be black, but look for any excuse to deny some of it which is both weird, revolting, and sad.

 

[Glamiam]

Omg this post reminds me of when i got stopped in the street the other day by this lady. My hair is 4b relaxed shoulder length, and i also wore a bantu knot out that day. She stopped me in Manhattan and asked
"Where you from!?"
im like...."brooklyn..?"
she laughs then shes like "nooo..i mean your background?"
im like "oooh..well my parents are Jamaican..."erplexed
shes like "What!?You sure?? Jamaicans have pretty hair like this!?"
then she touches my hair! im like "What!..what did you think i was!!??"
shes like "I thought you were Dominican or something with pretty hair like that!"

mind you shes also Black herself smh.

 

[EllePixie]

I just wanted to hop back in this thread and say every time I see the title, I giggle a little - people are a hot mess, lol!

 

[~Sparklingflame~]

I have been told, not asked, that I was mixed before, ESPECIALLY on YT. People dont want to believe that Im black mixed with blackity black. They just dont. Then if they do, my hair MUST be long b/c Im light skindedededed. Like the amount of melanin in my skin has ANYTHING to do with what comes out of my scalp.

Lawd our people need some knowledge. SMH.

 

[$inna-$pice]

I always thought that SL hair was medium length on anyone, regardless of race. Before LCHF I was also one of those who thought that black people just couldn't grow hair, inlcuding myself! This is because growing up I hardly ever saw a black girl with their own hair halfway down their back or even longer than shoulder length. Everytime I would ask my mom why my hair couldn't be that long, she would reply, "It's not going to. You're black." So this is what I grew up thinking because even though it sounded ridiculous to me, seeing black women around me with the same length year after year confirmed what she was saying. If I did happen to see a black girl with long hair I would just think that girl had really good genes! But knowing what I know now I realize that "that girl" just took really good care of her hair.

 

[iri9109]

i had someone assume im mixed b/c of my hair texture/curl pattern, even though its short...im 1st generation nigerian american on my dads side and my mom is what ppl call "regular black" whatever that is, and as far as we know its nothing else added within the last 4 or 5 generations...the girl who said it was so intent on that my mom was mixed because 'you can tell by looking at my hair' SMH and im pretty darn dark skinned, and have a very nigerian 1st and last name so i never thought any1 would say that to me ...when i was younger my hair was down my back (every1 said i had rudy huxtable hair lol) , but when i got a relaxer my hair rarely got past SL but all the black girls i went to school with always talked about how long it was (which i guess it was compared to them) but right now i think apl is long...when i get to apl, i'll probably think bsl is long etc. etc. so i guess it depends on the person

 

[empressri]

coworkers asked me today if i had white in me.

mind you her hair is long too. i looked at her, paused, and told her that she just set us back 500 years.

she kept quiet after that.

 

[omegachick31]

. Everytime I would ask my mom why my hair couldn't be that long, she would reply, "It's not going to. You're black." .

this made me sad