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Cute thread OP. I love these stories! If I really thought I was *thisclose* to getting him and needed him to see my length (this is in the future when I have my WL hair :yep:) then yep, I would. Men are shallow and can be attracted by such things lol.
But so far I haven't met a guy with straight hair :gorgeous:one day, then POW....NATCHRAL ALL UP IN YA FACE:afropick: lol. Mostly because I am transitioning and hide my hair most of the time lol. And I change my hairstyle all the time, via braidouts, half wigs, sew ins, whatev, so he'd just have to get used to it. I would take into consideration his preferences in the *far* future, sometimes straightening if he liked that.
Every guy is different. I told my ex (who I still see all the time via work) I was going to straighten for my bday (haven't done that but once all year) and he got this indegestion look on his face and was all, naw...don't do that:drunk:.
 
I had a guy who kept telling me that he liked straight hair, I wore my hair straight twice around him and he couldnt take his eyes off of me, he thought I was "gorgeous"... would do whatever I asked of him, when I wear my hair in a regular wash n go he would tell me I look "nice" and wouldnt be as mesmerized. I ditched him. Nobody regulates how I wear anything on my body but me. I run this. I told him he needed to transform his mind or get him a white girl (he would say he didnt like white girls) and I told him what he wants I dont have. Said thing is this has happened quite a few times since I been natural...all the men have been BLACK smh.
 
I've always worn big curly hair (whether texlaxed or natural) so most men have met me that way. I have straightened to show off my length (since being a natural), but hubby prefers it curly/kinky. No cute or funny story here. :ohwell:
 
NaturalDetroit said:
I had a guy who kept telling me that he liked straight hair, I wore my hair straight twice around him and he couldnt take his eyes off of me, he thought I was "gorgeous"... would do whatever I asked of him, when I wear my hair in a regular wash n go he would tell me I look "nice" and wouldnt be as mesmerized. I ditched him. Nobody regulates how I wear anything on my body but me. I run this..
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WORD!!!!! I feel you on this!

My DH likes my hair, as he calls it, "poofy" lol. When I straighten it, he's all "where'd the sexypoof go?":lachen:
 
I'm not natural completely (yet!! :grin:) but I would imagine that naturally curly hair intrigues men a little more than straight hair does.

I mean, true straight hair is the "norm" and the "standard of beauty" in many places around the world, but I know that most of my girl friends who have gone natural for years have told me that they actually often tend to STAND OUT more now among other girls because the guys notice that their hair is NOT straight. They tend to get more attention because their hair is "different". :yep:

I would think that guys would see natural hair on a woman and just get the urge to want to touch it. With straight hair....maybe not so much? But with curly/kinky hair (depending on how you style it) I would think that guys would be fascinated with it more and want to touch it just to see how it feels. :look: It's so different from what they're used to seeing I guess.
 
UrbainChic said:
I am always afraid that I will meet a guy when my hair is straight, who will have a preference for straight hair. This is clearly a stupid irrational concern to have.
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I don't think that it is irrational at all...not in the least. Facts are facts and the fact is that there are men who prefer straight hair. I have had this same thought...it would suck to be frank; but at the same time I see it as a way to filter through folks hang-ups. As such, I am better equipped to address or keep it pushing.

I wouldn't purposefully straighten to fool anyone, much less a man. I think anyone interested in me should be cozy with my (ever-changing natural) hair, because it is a big part of me. As simple as I like to keep things, I spend a lot of time protective styling, researching and just reading about hair in general, for it to be a source of disconnect. Long story short, one way or the other, at some point, they will be clear as to how my hair REALLY is…

~S~
 
I've had guys compliment me on my hair when I wear it straight. I'm not sure if they thought my hair's naturally straight or I have a perm though. A few years ago my former stylist was combing my hair after rinsing the conditioner out and this guy walked in and stopped dead in his tracks. I blushed a little but I found out later the guy knew my stylist and after I left had asked her about me!!!:grin: I was in utter disbelief because when my hair's wet it's a real puff ball which surprises even some hair stylists lol.
 
I usually wear my naural 4b hair in two strand twists, pinned up into a nice roll, and for a break will rock a short curly weave to get that curly afro look. One time I wanted to try something different so my sister told me, "Go for a straight look. Experiment. Live a little". So I got this mid back straight weave that nicely framed my face and fell down my shoulders. My friends would not stop staring. Everyone told me how different I looked and how I should keep it. The attention from the guys was unbeweavable! And some of my co workers, some of them younger than me, started flirting with me. One co worker told me he just 'loved a woman with long straight hair'. I told him it wasn't mine and he said it didn't matter, it's just a guy thing. He said he thought there was nothing sexier than waking up next to a woman whose long hair flowed all over the place. I told him when I took out my weave I was going to give him my hair so he could lay it across his pillow, whip it around, or what ever else floated his boat!
When I took my weave out I got NO ATTENTION. You could see the look of disappointment in some of their faces. It was fun and funny, but I honestly do not need attention like that. I am NOT my hair.
 
I've never done that. If a man can't appreciate my natural hair in all its glory then that's on him. Plus most men I've encountered like my hair in its natural state versus straightened.
 
Shananyganz said:

I don't think that it is irrational at all...not in the least. Facts are facts and the fact is that there are men who prefer straight hair. I have had this same thought...it would suck to be frank; but at the same time I see it as a way to filter through folks hang-ups. As such, I am better equipped to address or keep it pushing.

I wouldn't purposefully straighten to fool anyone, much less a man. I think anyone interested in me should be cozy with my (ever-changing natural) hair, because it is a big part of me. As simple as I like to keep things, I spend a lot of time protective styling, researching and just reading about hair in general, for it to be a source of disconnect. Long story short, one way or the other, at some point, they will be clear as to how my hair REALLY is…

~S~
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Well I mean for myself rather, I already know there are guys who prefer straight hair, and i already know i wont change like that for the sake of getting a guy.

I looooove my hair when its big and natural and every guy I have ever dated has loved my hair this way also, and been totally unexcited about my straighted look.

If someone is not into the way I look most of the time, I don't want to go out with him and get my hopes up that he is a great guy, when he hates the way I just naturally look or isn't attracted to the way i naturally look. If my hair is totally in its natural state when they meet me and ask me out, its safe to assume they like the way I look from the get go. So If you prefer straight hair, and find it more beautiful you will filter yourself out in the first 30 seconds of seeing me and not asking me out in the first place.. I don't have to go on 3 or 4 dates with you only to be rejected for something like appearance, or told you want me to change my appearance on date 3 or 4.

That's what I'm afraid of, wasting time and getting involved with someone who is not into the way i really look. I know I would just keep on moving, but if my appearance is going to be an issue that should be sorted out in the first 5 minutes.

The reason i find it irrational is, that in both scenarios, the guy is not for me, whether he meets me with straight or curly hair, so the end result is the same, so there is really nothing to fear.
 
Nah, I'm too selfish to do any of that for anyone. The way I dress or wear my hair is usually for my own benefit and comfort. If others appreciate it, well good for them. If not, tough! I'm usually having too much fun being whatever I want to be to worry about other folks and their tastes. And so far, it hasn't worked against me so...*shrug*.
 
@motherpopcorn562 That'd I'd do! :grin:
I have never changed my hair for a man and have only had one bf and he loves my hair natural and straight. He really likes braid outs.
But when I was in high school and I wore my hair straight more, I did get more attention. One time a guy asked me if my ponytail was my real hair and when I refused to answer or accept his advances (because asking if her hair is real is not the way to approach a lady) he told me that I looked like a leprechaun. :lachen: Probably one of the funniest things I've heard!
 
i have a friend who did that to trick a future employer. as for a man it wouldn't work for me. i miss my fro after wearing it straight so he would probably know i was natural by our second date.
 
lmao!!! at the title :grin:, I feel it was reverse for me when I was relaxed ,i would wear curlers all the time to make my hair look more full and curly (because it was damadged to death:wallbash:) and when I didn't have curlers and it was straight and broken off and my husband would be like "what happen" :lachen:. now I've learned ....
 
i met a guy while on a straight kick. i wore my hair straight for a month straight through (this was before lhcf but after going natural).

one day i decided to go back to my wng and he was not happy. a) he was in shock that my hair curled in the 1st place and b) unknown to me he had serious hair issues.

he made a comment one time when we were going to a party at his bosses house, he saw me come out the room ready and said "seriously, you're not going to your hair?"

i said "it is done" and flipped my head over and gave it a good shake to make it bigger. funny, cause his boss loved my hair, couldnt get that old decrepit white man off me.

oh, and me and dude broke up shortly after. kinda sad thought because aside from his hair issues he seemed like a really nice good guy. OH WELLS!!!!
 
Lylddlebit said:
I wear my hair straight pretty often. I used to only wear my hair straight or in braids. The guys who met me with straight hair always say pretty much the same thing when they see my hair natural...That they can't believe I will comb my hair/take out braids/press my hair ect in front of them or that they can't believe I will let them comb/wet/touch etc my hair and not start trippin'. They get more hung up on me doing my hair out in the open more than anything else. After they get used to that they guys I know don't really focus on my hair other than maybe a suggestion of how they would like me to wear it if they are around the next time I am styling my hair.
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this has been the case with most of my other bf.

in fact i flat ironed saturday and it finally rained on sunday. i decided to go to sallys when it just started raining and ran into my neighbor who is soooo crushing on me. we started talking and then he was like "well i guess i should let you go, i know how you girls are with your hair and rain" and i just smiled and said "oh, i dont care about rain and hair. rain and non-water proof make up is another story and since i dont have my face on it can rain all it wants" he seemed oddly relieved by that comment... that or he farted, i dunno.
 
UrbainChic said:
Well I mean for myself rather, I already know there are guys who prefer straight hair, and i already know i wont change like that for the sake of getting a guy.

I looooove my hair when its big and natural and every guy I have ever dated has loved my hair this way also, and been totally unexcited about my straighted look.

If someone is not into the way I look most of the time, I don't want to go out with him and get my hopes up that he is a great guy, when he hates the way I just naturally look or isn't attracted to the way i naturally look. If my hair is totally in its natural state when they meet me and ask me out, its safe to assume they like the way I look from the get go. So If you prefer straight hair, and find it more beautiful you will filter yourself out in the first 30 seconds of seeing me and not asking me out in the first place.. I don't have to go on 3 or 4 dates with you only to be rejected for something like appearance, or told you want me to change my appearance on date 3 or 4.

That's what I'm afraid of, wasting time and getting involved with someone who is not into the way i really look. I know I would just keep on moving, but if my appearance is going to be an issue that should be sorted out in the first 5 minutes.

The reason i find it irrational is, that in both scenarios, the guy is not for me, whether he meets me with straight or curly hair, so the end result is the same, so there is really nothing to fear.
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I think we agree, I might have just said it differently (blushes). I like that my fro tends to weed folk out...namely men. But, in the back of my mind I wonder if I have stayed away from straightening/straight weaves to avoid attracting the type that likes it straight??? In al reality, I just do not need ANOTHER dude in my life that prefers straight hair. I say another because I just recently parted ways with a young fella who had this (straight) preference and seeing as to how I like my fro...well...you get the picture; there were other issues, but the hair game did play a part.

So yea... I feel you..sorry if it did not initally read as such.

~S~
 
I prefer to meet guys (and go on interviews) with curly hair -- that way, nothing is a secret. However, I met my current boyfriend when my hair was straight. Thank goodness we had a talk about natural hair and he told me his sister and mom were natural...I was less apprehensive about him seeing my curly hair, much for the same reasons UrbainChic listed. (I already liked him by that point -- I would be HEATED if he didn't like my hair and I had to kick him to the curb!)

Two days after I met him, I had sweated out my blowout due to the humidity and he asked to wash my hair. Since he had sulfate free shampoo at his house :grin: I let him do it. It was a great experience for both of us....I'm thinking it DID, in fact, have something to do with the fact that I am a black woman and I let him touch my hair. He was so astonished when my hair curled up into these tiny ringlets. But you know what sealed the deal? He pulled some Kinky Curly out from under his bathroom sink and asked me if I had heard of it....his sister put him onto it back in '08. :love:
 
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lilsparkle825 said:
I prefer to meet guys (and go on interviews) with curly hair -- that way, nothing is a secret. However, I met my current boyfriend when my hair was straight. Thank goodness we had a talk about natural hair and he told me his sister and mom were natural...I was less apprehensive about him seeing my curly hair, much for the same reasons UrbainChic listed. (I already liked him by that point -- I would be HEATED if he didn't like my hair and I had to kick him to the curb!)

Two days after I met him, I had sweated out my blowout due to the humidity and he asked to wash my hair. Since he had sulfate free shampoo at his house :grin: I let him do it. It was a great experience for both of us....I'm thinking it DID, in fact, have something to do with the fact that I am a black woman and I let him touch my hair. He was so astonished when my hair curled up into these tiny ringlets. But you know what sealed the deal? He pulled some Kinky Curly out from under his bathroom sink and asked me if I had heard of it....his sister put him onto it back in '08. :love:
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CUTE!!!! :2inlove:
 
I usually wear wigs, so this hasn't really been an issue.
But I recently tried out the BKT, so I wore my own hair out straight for about a week (the first time SO saw my real hair) and then one day I left his house, washed my hair, came back over and he said "did you cut your hair?"
I had to explain how natural hair coils up like a phone cord.
He was a little confused at first, but he said he liked my natural hair as much as my straight hair and he played in both equally.
 
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