Flat Ironing Your Hair to Fool a Man....

[westNDNbeauty]

Just wondering, have any Naturals ever flat ironed their hair to gain the attention of a man (or have gained the attention of a man while your hair was in its straightened state)? If so, what did he say after you washed your hair and the 'fro made it's appearance?




Disclaimer: Thought this would a fun topic with interesting stories. Ladies please keep it light.

 

[rririla]

I never intentionally flat ironed to make him think my hair was straight, it just worked out that the first few times we hung out it happened to be straight....but when he finally saw it in the ''raw'', he was astonished and kept saying.....that is a LOT OF HAIR....IS THAT ALL UR HAIR?...LOL.....we r 7 years in so I guess he didn't 'hate' it, but I know he prefers it to be straight....But I wear it how I want anyway b/c I like it both ways

 

[JFK]

LOL. This is a funny topic. Bumping for some stories.

 

[glamazon386]

Nope... My hair looks better curly. If they don't like it, sucks for them. Straight hair does nothing for my face. Too boring. Haven't worn straight hair on a regular basis since I was like 16 or 17.

 

[CrissieD]

Too funny. Never done this on purpose but guys seem to like my hiar better curly so the reaction is usually "You should leave your hair like that" once the fro makes an appearance.

 

[UrbainChic]

I am always afraid that I will meet a guy when my hair is straight, who will have a preference for straight hair. This is clearly a stupid irrational concern to have.

 

[bride91501]

Too new on my journey to have an answer, but I too am anxiously awaiting the stories....lol

 

[lesedi]

 

[westNDNbeauty]

I am always afraid that I will meet a guy when my hair is straight, who will have a preference for straight hair. This is clearly a stupid irrational concern to have.

........

 

[Eclass215]

I met a guy once when my hair was straight and when we were talking he said "And you have natural hair...." and I was like "What? How can you tell?" lol. He said he could tell a straight haired natural from a perm - I was impressed!

 

[BomBShell♥]

I met a guy once when my hair was straight and when we were talking he said "And you have natural hair...." and I was like "What? How can you tell?" lol. He said he could tell a straight haired natural from a perm - I was impressed!

gay maybe? lol.
Just playing! maybe hes just a real stickler for details...

 

[ctosha]

Well with my ex (soon to be bf again...lol complicated topic that should be in the relashionship forum) he loved my curly hair when it was out not when it was "pressed down" thats what he called my bun. When I did straighten he loved loved loved it. I know he would like my hair straightened but oh well i love my curls and my "press down" if i do straighten its because I want to. When I initially met him my hair was straight i was with him during my transition and fully natural. He did not mind at all really was not that much of a big deal he just likes to see hair out wild and free regardless if its straight or curly

 

[cocomama]

bumping...

 

[davisbr88]

Bumping for more stories!
I have always wondered this too! This was so much easier with my ex, who had curly hair himself, and understood I was transitioning and was excited about being curly-haired twins. Now, my concern is not when I wash and my hair is curly, but when I wash and HALF of my hair is curly and the other half is straight. I look all kinds of crazy when I first get out of the shower... I never wear my hair straight so it's cool, but as soon as it gets soaked... yikes!

 

[Janet']

Yeah, typically they (men) prefer me to wear it curly...although there was this one butthole who told me "In college, I wouldn't have dated you because I only dated light skinned women with long, straight hair"...that was the last thing he said "inside" my house ever again-CLEARLY, you're with the wrong one! Funny thing is, he acts like he cannot understand what happened between us...IDIOT!

 

[Geminigirl]

Since I don't wear my hair straight the answer would be no.

If I did wear my hair straight I wouldn't do it to fool a man. I much rather meet a man with all my bigness going on up top then to fool him and be met with ignorance.

 

[vainღ♥♡jane]

when that guy touched my hair in the club the other night tombout how 'cool' it is, i thought about flatironing next time i go out so i can blend in. i don't really like attention like that. ♥

 

[Sunshine_One]

Deleted...wrong thread sorry!

 

[EccentricRed]

When I wore/wear my hair straight, Fella's liked the length of my hair. When I wear it curly, they like it because it looks like I have a lot of hair...lol. I think that's what men are more concerned about: the length.

But that could just be me!

 

[africanqueen456]

bumping for more stories ...liking this thread

 

[Netta1]

lol, no fortunately for me my husband LURVES my natural hair...however I can recall wearing one of my short straight wigs once and he BEGGED me not to wear it again. He does not prefer straight hair and the wig (he said) looked too real for him.

 

[Yoshi3329]

I met a guy once when my hair was straight and when we were talking he said "And you have natural hair...." and I was like "What? How can you tell?" lol. He said he could tell a straight haired natural from a perm - I was impressed!

@bolded

Me too.

 

[SheenaVee]

My hair was straightened when I met my BF. I kept it straightened for about a week more and then I washed it and wore a wash and go. He was like, "wow, is that your real hair?" I was like, "yeah." He was like, "howcome it was straight before?" (He's white and basically clueless about hair. Thinks all weaves are real.) I was like, "coz I straightened it." And he loves my natural hair. Doesn't like when I do anything but have it out in a wash and go. When I tie it up in a ponytail he's like, "Why aren't you wearing your hair natural?" (see? clueless!) And I'm like, "my hair is still natural, I just tied it back in a ponytail."

 

[SelahOco]

If that happened to me, I'd probably tell him I'm natural if I was gonna see him again. I wouldn't want him to be surprised and try to hide his expression or ask me dumb questions all night.

 

[sweetlaughter]

i haven't had this exact thing happen to me yet but i just this past weekend had the meet a guy when my hair is straight and next time i see him it's in a complete updo PS.

but the bigger reaction i get is from guys when they see me at a party versus at work. i wear glasses and no makeup and dowdy clothes to work then at parties it's contacts, makeup, and cute clothes (mainly consisting of skirts). story time: once i went to the bar with some guy friends and one guys gf came and brought some friends. i felt so underdressed that i went to the bathroom whipped out my contacts and makeup bag and went to town. when i came out one of my friends was like "omg where are your glasses, you lost your glasses". when i explained i slipped in my contacts, the guys made a deal about me getting all dolled up in the bathroom.

 

[VidaStarr]

What dummy over the age of 18 thinks black women have naturally straight hair?

 

[davisbr88]

^^ There are actually people in my family with naturally straight hair. And no, we aren't mixed (at least not in the past 4-5 generations).

 

[Tamster]

I met my BF when I had an apl weave last august. On our second 'official' date I had taken it out and was wearing a bantu knot out on transitioning hair.

He decided he liked it (I guess? Or he just said that cause he liked me? )

A few weeks later I put in another straight sew in and had that for a while, he loved that. He says he likes hair that is 'done' - that put him on rocky waters for a while, because I wanted to know what 'done' meant.

Now I'm natural and wear a shrunken twa. He says he is too used to it and doesn't want me to ever s traighten or wear a weave or a wig. Everytime I mention it he gets all antsy lol

Either way, through all these looks he got used it, and still liked it. Plus we are still together, almost a year later!

 

[westNDNbeauty]

What dummy over the age of 18 thinks black women have naturally straight hair?

Remember, most women are relaxed.

 

[cmw45]

I wasn't straight but I started dating a guy with my hair in twist. (We were in college in different states and saw each other once or twice a month.) I had BC'd a couple of months earlier. The second time he saw me my hair was short and curly (natural hair out)and the third time he saw me my hair was pressed (straight) and the fourth time he saw me my hair was in a braid out. Of all the styles, he preferred the braid out...and so did (do) I. He ended up dating ME and not my fickle hair for a year and a half.