Excuse me Miss.....

[MonPetite]

As other posters have said it depends on her demeanor.

If she appears that she would/could take the note in stride, realize I was trying to be of help, and would appreciate the knowledge then I would discretely mention it to her.

Example: A girl in my chem class, another black woman at that, had on a cute white sundress...with WHITE underwear underneath. It was PAINFULLY OBVIOUS you could see she had on a basic bland sporty bra...and granny-panties...or "Jockeys". I could make out the labels!

As we were leaving class and were alone in a hall I stopped her and gently mentioned that I had made the SAME MISTAKE MYSELF once and no one had told me (I saw myself in a reflection) and how awful I felt (I about cried everyone saw my underwear ALL DAY and said NOTHING) and I wanted to mention it to her so that she'd be aware of it and not make the same mistake twice in case no one told her.

She was extremely appreciative and I knew glad I didn't "call her out". She was another young black woman trying to become educated and look polished while doing it (were both college students) -and thus, appreciated a tip to help her look stay on point.

That said...some people are just...well...immature. It takes maturity to realize someone is pointing out a weakness or flaw...but, for your benefit...not to embarrass you.

Many woman lack the common sense/class/home training to realize this and react in anger.

Something I don't need.

 

[Jetblackhair]

No, I don't think I could tell her, although I once told a lady her under panties were showing. I guess after she used the restroom her skirt got caught in her pantyhose and she was all exposed. She was a mature lady wearing either big panties or the old fashion girdle.

 

[MissNina]

um, i know i'm the last black woman on the face of the planet to not know anything about weaves, but i don't even know what a loose track would look like. is that the same thing as a "weft"? does anyone have a picture with someone's track showing? does it look like a lump? cuz, you know, just in case i see someone i want to have the option, though i doubt i ever would. i can't believe MissNina here has done it often enough to have stats on it like "90% of the time this is how it goes down".

Girl....I live in FL.

 

[GodsGrace]

I'd tell, but I'd be as polite and discreet as possible, if she wants to be salty then I'd let her be salty, but she can't say nobody told her nuthin.

 

[Nonie]

I would tell her. I would like someone to tell me if it happened to me. I wear plastic caps under my head wraps, and time and again the blinking satin scarf will slip and expose my plastic ever so slightly. I am ever so grateful when a friend subtly points it out to me, saving me any further embarrassment. There's something in me that just seeks to help out where I can and to protect folks from humiliation and it'd eat me up if I didn't do unto her as I'd want her to do unto me.

 

[BklynHeart]

I did it before. This girl's weave was bangin' too, I didn't know it was one until the wind was picking it up telling all her business. She was walking with her friend too. I tapped her and just told her to watch her hair because of the wind, and that I didn't even know it was a weave. She thanked me big time. Actually, this happened in Manhattan. Now, in Flatbush Brooklyn? I ain't saying ish!!

 

[phyl73]

NO MAM! Not on a good day or bad day. Well I guess if we were chatting in line and I felt she would not go off on me. But I'd still brace myself for the worst.

 

[*Muffin*]

Sorry but, you're on your own honey . If it was a family member, friend, or co-worker I would discreetly say "Girl, your tracks are EXPOSED!" but if not I won't say anything. For all I know you might get pissy with me because you already know they are showing but can't do anything about it at the moment or, in rare cases, you could very well want those tracks to be exposed because it's a new trend or something (kinda like wearing your pants baggy or your shirt inside out). Long story short, not unless I know you .

 

[*Muffin*]

Girl....I live in FL.

Ain't that the truth . Grown out weaves and exposed tracks are no stranger here.

 

[luvnmyhair99]

Family,Friends, and some associates ! but strangers on the street, heck no. it's none of my business! and man ole' man, i have seen some pretty jacked up tracks before. some women just refuse to take their hair down when it's time. trust me some of them already know their tracks are showing! sad but true

What she said! I am not going there. While there are sisters who would apppreciate it...alot of them would likely think you were insulting them and become defensive aka cuss you out.

 

[joib]

Some things are helpful and some are just rude. People know when wearing weaves that you take that chance of tracks showing. I don't think they want someone pointing that out to them.

 

[DivaD04]

Sorry but, you're on your own honey . If it was a family member, friend, or co-worker I would discreetly say "Girl, your tracks are EXPOSED!" but if not I won't say anything. For all I know you might get pissy with me because you already know they are showing but can't do anything about it at the moment or, in rare cases, you could very well want those tracks to be exposed because it's a new trend or something (kinda like wearing your pants baggy or your shirt inside out). Long story short, not unless I know you .

.....ITA, although I would always have tell my hubb to tell me!

 

[Sirens_Song]

Hmmm... this is a tough one. Probably not. I live in NYC as well and there are WAY too many sisters with banged up weaves. I guess it would depend on if she looks like the 'I wear busted weaves all the time' type, or if she looks like a sister that just happened to get caught with her pants down.

So, yeah, depends on the person.

 

[PuffyBrown]

This is a tuff question.
My instincts say tell her but my logic is
like everybody elses. For me it would depend
on the situation. If the line I am standing in is short I may say mam, excuse me but blah blah, you know the sneak up

 

[Makenzie]

As mentioned before it would be a case by case. I would want someone to tell me than let me walk around looking foolish. However, the delivery is KEY. I'd write her a note, maybe pull her to the side. Either way I'd find a compliment to give her and segue into the exposed track.

 

[chebaby]

i wouldnt say anything but a woman did come to me today and asked me what the best relaxer was for her hair type. i remember her from a time before in the bss because her son is a bad little.....he was still acting up so i guess i remember him more so than her.

 

[Blossssom]

You are too funny, Kiya

 

[JustKiya]

You are too funny, Kiya

Whaa?? I was stumped, and I came to my hairsistren for help. I knew ya'll would have an opinion, at least.

 

[MekyakaKinkerbelle]

I would say something. Discretely. Because I would want someone to say something to me.

You don't have to be super vocal about it. I think if you quitely say, "Excuse me, just wanted you to know one of your tracks is showing" with sincerity, I really do believe most people would thank you for it. You can't account for salty people that are miserable in life, but for all the folks that really would show gratitude, I think you should say something.

 

[HoneyA]

I saw a young lady three weeks ago with two tracks showing at the crown of her head. She was with a group of friends and they had to see that her hair wasn't fixed properly. I didn't say anything. I assumed one of them had already told her. I wouldn't say anything in any case I don't think...

 

[JustKiya]

 

[beans4reezy]

Oh, no. I employ a strict KIM philosophy. I never offer up unsolicited advice.

 

[beautyaddict1913]

lmaaoooo! I wouldnt tell them just because a person usually knows when they are pushing their install to the limit. Before they left the house I'm sure they tried to stuff or clip that track up under the others and prayed that noone would notice lol

 

[belldandy]

No, I would not, unless it was VERY VERY obvious, like in the front of her head hanging down looking like it just happened

 

[kmn1980]

Nope. I only tell strangers about period leaks.

 

[Love~Above~Color]

I'd tell. Without a doubt and if I had a comb, I'd help 'em if they let me.
Wouldn't do it all out in front of people, but would pull 'em off to the side and let them know. So what if they cuss me out....I feel like it's just the right thing to do. Besides when I used to wear a weave it was one of the things I was ALWAYS paranoid about, a track slipping out and wavin' at people.

 

[dachsies_rule!]

Nope, not saying a word...you'll never get me all cut up over somebody elses weave!

 

[JuiceMobsta]

Well if they did catch an attitude and proceeded to cuss you out after you quietly and politely tried to tell them, then just say "Well you tha one with tha busted hair" and keep it movin...

 

[JuiceMobsta]

Nope. I only tell strangers about period leaks.

 

[LittleLuxe]

ABSOLUTELY NOT.

As a former weave-wearer not too long ago I know just how it feels when your stuffs not on point..and guess what? I KNEW. Like someone said with weave as opposed to a booger there's NOTHING you can do unless you have thread or glue or are ready to tackle that mess. I didn't need anyone to tell me I had an exposed track or loose braid or whatever, I KNEW.

And the truth is while it may be helpful and kind from your angle you don't know what that person's dealing with: lack of finances or other difficulties which are forcing them to make the best of a bad situation. Or if they have been told 850 times that day about their weave and they feel broken down and depressed about it. Or frankly whether they were feeling cute and happy and you, not at all meaning to hurt their feelings, bring em down.

Like when someone kindly tells you your top doesn't flatter you.

DON'T TELL. SHE KNOWS.