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My Step-Mom's Natural Hair.....
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MsLizziA
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Lol..... She is amazingly young. She's only like 31 or 32 but im 22. Yea... i know but she has an old soul. My dad will be 50 this year. He's not old at all but u get what im sayn....
Love Always
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Your step mom is very pretty and so is her hair...your sister is cute too 
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MsLizziA
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Hey! We have the same name... lolIt's nice and fluffy
melissa-bee
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Woah, that's fierce. Thanks for sharing
About the underlined, no none "needs" a relaxer, regardless of hair type.
About the bold, all hair is beautiful and to make a comparison where you imply that your sister's hair is just not as pretty as your stepmom's is just perpetuating the idea that looser hair types are prettier than tighter ones. I hope that it isn't something you've said in front of her because little kids pick up on everything and many women grow up with complexes about their hair specifically because of those types of sentiments.
Anyway, you've got some luscious hair in your family and your sis is a cutie pie!
MsLizziA
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No im not saying that at all. Please.... i would never tell her that, she's 7. My sister's hair is highly porous and she just doesn't hold moisture the same. She already thinks her mom's hair is prettier of no doing of my own.
I don't believe in the whole good hair bad hair thing n i don't believe in relaxers (no offense to any relaxed heads that read this). Her mom just has a harder time with her hair because it doesn't behave like her or her's sisters hair. They all have the same type of hair except my sis.
I don't perpetuate any kind of negative stereo types to her, like i said, she's 7. It was just a statement. To be quite honest i never insinuated that one was better than the other. All i said was her hair is nothing like her mother's. That just a neutral statement... but carry on..
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MsBoinglicious
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Her hair is very nice and BIG!!!! How long has she been natural/ stop using relaxers?
MsLizziA
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If i am correct, i think its been since like 2006. Yea because she just completely cut it all off. She had like 3 inches of hair..
***BlessedMom***
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Right on!! I also like the sister's hair better. She is just young but if it is taken care of and gets some length to it, it will be even more beautiful!
blkbeauty
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I also love the lil sis hair! Although both have pretty full hair.
~~HoneyComb~~
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Both have beautiful heads of hair
twinkletoes17
Active Member
I clearly understood what MsLizziA was trying to say. Her little sister didn't get a certain hair pattern. I don't think she ever said it was ugly. She mentioned it was different. Don't jump on her now...
*bows out*
*bows out*
Eritreladiee
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Your step mom is a very pretty lady with very pretty hair. And judging by those pics of your stepsis, she'll grow up to be just as pretty. Thanks for sharing the photos-- I love seeing little girls in cute natural styles.
DDTexlaxed
TRANSITION OVER! 11-22-14
Her hair is seriously gorgeous. I hope baby sis does not get a hair complex. Her hair is gorgeous, too.
MsLizziA
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Yea i tell her all the time that her hair is beautiful and try my best to do styles that will make her see that. I did a twist out on her hair once n she called it the "hanging hair style".Her hair is seriously gorgeous. I hope baby sis does not get a hair complex. Her hair is gorgeous, too.
She wanted me to do it again so bad but i told her if she could take care of it twisted, cuz i would twist it and she would mess it up within a couple of days, then she can have her "hanging hair style" again.
Her hair does some beautiful twistouts.... i just can't seem to get mine to do them.....
I understood her first statement about not getting the mother's specific hair type. But then she went on to say "it's [little sis' hair] still pretty but nothing like this [mom's hair]". I wasn't trying to jump on the OP at all. It's just that sometimes we don't realize that the things we say carry far more meaning than we intend.
That type of comparison is just one of the many ways little black girls form negative views of their own hair. To say that the little girls tightly coiled hair is pretty, but not as pretty as her mom's looser coiled hair feeds into the good hair/bad hair dichotomy. I only said something because the OP clearly feels fine with making that comparison and may not have realized the effect it could have on her sister. Especially since the OP also has a looser hair type.
flowinlocks
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Both of them have pretty hair.
Bluetopia
New Member
ITA!!!
I don't think anyone thinks OP intented to come off with any harm. It's obvious she loves her little sister.
But just because you don't intend to come off a certain way that doesnt stop it from happening. I raised my brow at the original post for all the same reasons maysay did and I'm 100% sure I wasnt the only one.
Like the old saying goes "Comparison is the source of all unhappiness."
If someone was to say "you're still pretty but nothing like your mom"
think about that for a sec...even if they just called you pretty the comparison to your mom adds a potentially off-putting "bite" to it that does insinuate that she is prettier. And imagine how a grown woman would internalize that let alone a child.
We often un-intentionally word things in ways that are accidently hurtful and divisive. It's human nature. We've all done it and hopefully learned from it. And I think it would be a good idea to take note of maysay's feedback regardless of what you meant because IMO she made a very valid point and took time to express it respectfully.
I'm sure people making little comments that they thought meant nothing is exactly why your sister thinks her mom's hair is prettier. Kids are smart. They pick up stuff like that no matter how subtle.
but this is all just my opinion as someone who isnt personally invested either way.
the bottom line is all the 3 of ya'll have really beautiful hair.
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ebaby
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Yeah, it really was! I understand that this is a hair forum but there are way more important matters concerning the welfare of young black girls than hair. I understood what you were saying and so did many more but some people always have to take it there.
MsLizziA
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Yea. I understood what was being sayn, its just didn't think it was all that serious... but thats just me
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