Excuses people make to justify their short and/or damaged hair

[natura87]

This is exactly how my sister's hair is like.

Thing is if somebody want to have jacked up hair that i s their buissness i just don't like them sharing their ignorance with everybody else. My sister going on about how her hair won't grow because her hair is "stunted" you know like how your height growth gets stunted or that she is not mixed . She shares that mess with her friends and all her friends have long pretty hair.

I BC'd in Sept09 and we had the same length fastfoward to Jan 2010 my hairmy hair is almost shoulder length.

Funny excuse I heard was my hair doesn't break as much because I have tough Nigerian hair and that it was quite long . My friend will listen to Lil Wayne but not me and my advice

OMG....do we have the same sister!!??!!

 

[**SaSSy**]

Some of the excuses I hear from my own family about my love of oils, and DC and just general hair care:

1. You like using those rich people things that are unnecessary.
2. Stop using those white people products, they don't work
3. My hair grows too fast and is too thick to go past 8 weeks.
4. I don't have hair like you.
5. I have other things to do with my money then use it on hair products.
6. I'll just put in box braids to help it grow
7. Putting a piece in is just easier
8. I don't like my hair all long and straight

And many more

 

[Bosslady1]

It takes time and dedication. Most people don't have that.

 

[teacherjess]

I'm more curious to find out why so many women on forums like lhcf still have chewed up short hair . . .

It's one thing if you've BC'ed but there are a lot that just have raggedy arse hair and still post 50-11 times an hour in the hair forums

Maybe they're like that now, but wait and see if their hair condition improves and if their hair grows healthier after being on LHCF. When I started lurking, I had thin, mid NL chewed up hair...and I didn't post for this very reason. I was embarrassed and felt like I didn't belong here, but yet I needed to learn how to get my hair healthy. erplexed You've got to start somewhere. Maybe its just the teacher in me, but I never discourage people from getting knowledge.

Now, if someone's been on the hair boards for some years and still got that chewed up broke off hair, then...thats another story

 

[complexsimplicity]

Maybe they're like that now, but wait and see if their hair condition improves and if their hair grows healthier after being on LHCF. When I started lurking, I had thin, mid NL chewed up hair...and I didn't post for this very reason. I was embarrassed and felt like I didn't belong here, but yet I needed to learn how to get my hair healthy. erplexed You've got to start somewhere. Maybe its just the teacher in me, but I never discourage people from getting knowledge.

Now, if someone's been on the hair boards for some years and still got that chewed up broke off hair, then...thats another story

I've seen a few like this...
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[hair4romheaven]

one girl told me her hair just doesn't grow ;(

 

[Chaosbutterfly]

Some of the excuses I hear from my own family about my love of oils, and DC and just general hair care:

1. You like using those rich people things that are unnecessary.
2. Stop using those white people products, they don't work
3. My hair grows too fast and is too thick to go past 8 weeks.
4. I don't have hair like you.
5. I have other things to do with my money then use it on hair products.
6. I'll just put in box braids to help it grow
7. Putting a piece in is just easier
8. I don't like my hair all long and straight

And many more

I love hearing that one.
People will ask me what they should do about their breakage and thinning, and I'll just be like....you can start with spacing out your relaxer more. Instead of four weeks, wait six or eight. And only relax your new growth, not root to tip.

They'll look at me like I done killed their puppy. Talking some..."oh my hair is too thick and grows too fast to wait so long. I HAVE to relax every 4 weeks."

So I look at them like: ohwell:

Mkay...so if your hair is so thick and grows so fast, then where the hell is it?
Cuz it's certainly not on your head.

 

[Junebug D]

Never wish bad stuff on others. It may come back on you.

Yeah, she might find those shears and use them while you sleep...

These are very recent examples from family members who were amazed at how my hair has grown from my baldie over the last few years:

- "I've tried everything already, nothing works!" Recently I told one to simply use a real deep conditioner, and she went "I have, they don't work!"

- "But you were natural all that time!" So why don't you try it if you think that's the only reason my hair grew?

- "You have a good grade of hair, I don't." So says the very 2 people who actually managed my hair up through high school, and complained about how "difficult" my hair was all that time.

 

[Uber]

This chick was just telling me the reasons her hair broke off and won't grow back:

-if you didn't have long hair as a child you'll never have long hair as an adult.

-I don't have time to waste or spend on my hair.

-I just need to start going to the salon every week like I used to and my hair will grow. <--- sounds like wasting time and money to me.

-I don't care about hair. <--- yeah right. then why do you buy weaves?

-I'm not obsessed with hair like you are. <-- she got me there


When she was done I told her that her excuses were just that, excuses. I showed her before and after pictures on Reniece.com and she was still skeptical.

Some people will never get it. Save your breath and move on.

I can't believe she didn't get. I thought it made so much sense that my hair could grow. I thought all i needed to do is get some length on my hair and every chick I know would rush to this forum....guess i was wrong

 

[MsSonya]

"I used to have long hair but I cut it." Ummm....you cut it 5 years ago boo boo. Why is it still the same length it was when you cut it?​

Awww, that's cold......

 

[shopgalore]

Maybe they're like that now, but wait and see if their hair condition improves and if their hair grows healthier after being on LHCF. When I started lurking, I had thin, mid NL chewed up hair...and I didn't post for this very reason. I was embarrassed and felt like I didn't belong here, but yet I needed to learn how to get my hair healthy. erplexed You've got to start somewhere. Maybe its just the teacher in me, but I never discourage people from getting knowledge.

Now, if someone's been on the hair boards for some years and still got that chewed up broke off hair, then...thats another story

I agree, I actually started lurking in 2007 for a very short while and was just too ashamed, so I went back to BHM and learnt about weaves, LF etc. I am now back for good and hopefully to stay

 

[aquajoyice]

I was one of those women and honestly if they have that many excuses they are just as obssessed with hair as we are they just have wrong or bad info. They just wont admit becuase they've been told they can't have long hair unless they buy it. It's actually kind of sad.

 

[caribeandiva]

Ok, you guys. I don't mean to come back in here and vent.

But the roommate who has the hair problems, the one who "lost" my shears. We just got into it (over another matter; I feel that she's a user, but that's a different story). She told me that I was the Devil, and that I was evil.

So, I told her she was never gonna grow any hair..... I know that was mean

maybe you should think about getting a new roomate. If she's a user who knows what else she'll try to use you for.

 

[caribeandiva]

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8. I don't like my hair all long and straight
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Are they serious? Then what's why the box braids?

 

[caribeandiva]

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Mkay...so if your hair is so thick and grows so fast, then where the hell is it?
Cuz it's certainly not on your head.

 

[beans4reezy]

I used to have long hair, but a bad relaxer made it all fall out. Which I can understand, because it happened to my aunt, but why not try and grow it back?

 

[LadyPaniolo]

I'm more curious to find out why so many women on forums like lhcf still have chewed up short hair . . .

It's one thing if you've BC'ed but there are a lot that just have raggedy arse hair and still post 50-11 times an hour in the hair forums

Girl.... we are >>>>>>>>>>>>right here<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< LMFAO! And people stay listening to what they say works on some hair!!! No ma'am.

Maybe they're like that now, but wait and see if their hair condition improves and if their hair grows healthier after being on LHCF. When I started lurking, I had thin, mid NL chewed up hair...and I didn't post for this very reason. I was embarrassed and felt like I didn't belong here, but yet I needed to learn how to get my hair healthy. erplexed You've got to start somewhere. Maybe its just the teacher in me, but I never discourage people from getting knowledge.

Now, if someone's been on the hair boards for some years and still got that chewed up broke off hair, then...thats another story

And there are people in this exact situation too. SMFH.

There's nothing wrong with getting knowledge. But if your hair hasn't improved in at least a year of LHCF.... what are you doing? Cuz you sure aren't applying healthy hair care practices. I dont' get it.

BTW, MY hair used to look like that Reniece pic.... it was awful. I just didn't know what I was doing... but now I think I've come really far

 

[locabouthair]

Girl.... we are >>>>>>>>>>>>right here<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<< LMFAO! And people stay listening to what they say works on some hair!!! No ma'am.



And there are people in this exact situation too. SMFH.

There's nothing wrong with getting knowledge. But if your hair hasn't improved in at least a year of LHCF.... what are you doing? Cuz you sure aren't applying healthy hair care practices. I dont' get it.

BTW, MY hair used to look like that Reniece pic.... it was awful. I just didn't know what I was doing... but now I think I've come really far

I see what you and others are saying but it's not always that simple. Some people do have setbacks. My first year here on the board, I didnt take care of my hair that well. Then afterwards, my hair broke off to less than an inch in some parts. The nape and the sides were GONE because I went to a stylist that didnt wash out the perm properly. Then I had to cut my hair so I basically didnt retain anything. I was stretching my relaxers to the point people thought I was natural, I moisturized daily, and almost never used heat. But all of that isn't worth anything if you're not neutralizing/rinsing the relaxer properly. I dont know why I felt like sharing that but whatever...

 

[Aviah]

I've heard:
I cut my hair a long time ago and it never grew back
OR
The relaxer cut it out and it hasn't been the same since.

 

[MizAvalon]

I left those folks alone years ago. If they want the information, it's out there. It's not my job to save them.

 

[Bulletproof]

so if your hair is so thick and grows so fast, then where the hell is it?
Cuz it's certainly not on your head.

BEST LINE EVER!

 

[thehairmaverick]

"I used to have long hair but I cut it." Ummm....you cut it 5 years ago boo boo. Why is it still the same length it was when you cut it?
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LOL stop that!

 

[HeChangedMyName]

I had hair down my back when i was a baby. lol

i want to say. . .ok, so you had 8" of hair for your whole entire life then

 

[caribeandiva]

I had hair down my back when i was a baby. lol

i want to say. . .ok, so you had 8" of hair for your whole entire life then

maybe their hair fell out along with their baby teeth but unlike teeth it never grew back. Unless you have alopecia or other health challenges then there's no excuse.

 

[rosalindb]

i was referring to hair like this

and they talk about dax making their hair grow and touchups every three weeks ..........

The lady that used to work in the office below me had hair just like this and said that was how her hair grew due to the texture. I mentioned her in this thread and am just going to post my responses from that thread
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=417062


There was a lady that used to work on the floor below me and I would try not to say anything but just could not help myself in the end. Her colleagues would say stuff behind her back but I would at least try to offer some help and recommendations but she just would not listen at all.

She would boast about her Cartier watch and her expensive shoes etc but she would go to the cheapest people to get her hair extensions done and they looked horrific. It is a shame as she did not take care of her daughter’s hair either and it looked even worse than hers. She told me that she would just buy the cheapest shampoo that she could find for their hair. She would just shampoo their hair and let it dry and then try to comb it. It took me 2 years to persuade her to use conditioner but she still would not take my advice about detangling with the conditioner in their hair.

She was natural for years and then relaxed it and got the strongest relaxer she could find and left it on the little bit of hair that she had left for 40 minutes and left it on her 7 year old daughters virgin hair for 30 minutes. I asked her why she left it on so long and she said that when she used to relax her hair, she always used to leave it long until her scalp burned and would start to peel. She said that she would just switch on the fan and lean forward so the breeze would cool her head.

A few weeks later it just started to break off and she put her hair in extensions. One day she took them out mid week and parts of her hair were eaten down to the scalp. I recommended Aubrey Organic conditioners, oils such as olive as I knew that she would not pay for jojoba oil but she just said that that was the texture of her hair and those items would not work for her.

As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.

say what now? :covereyes What? WHAT?! :burning:

She was natural for 17 years, the week before she relaxed it, she told me that she was bored with her hair, wanted a change and that it had started breaking and she wanted to relax it. I said if your hair is breaking the last thing you should do is relax. Just take care of it and start using a conditioner and give it some treatments.

Also her hair is very fine and feels quite soft so I have no idea why she was frying it like that

As I said before "As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink."

Wow......omg just WOWWWW that would have been too much to take for me, I would have really tried to reason with her and knowing me, I might've even bought her some products or given her my own. That is sooooo serious damn that lady just WANTED to be bald

MBP, seriouly I tried to reason with that woman so many times over the 3 years that we worked in the same building - and it was literally like talking to a brick wall. I think I have discussed her hair with her at least 75 times, probably more and I am not exaggerating. I really, really could not help myself where she was concerned no matter how hard I tried.

I was furious that she had left the relaxer on her daughter's hair especially for so long too. Both myself and her colleague really did tell her off about that as we both told her the week before that she should not relax her daughters hair as she was so young and we thought that she would not do it.

One day I gave her 125ml of a home made hair oil concoction I made - it contained oils such as organic jojoba oil, organic EVOO, organic avocado oil, etc and organic essentials oil of lavender and ylang ylang – I only use natural products and try to use organic where possible so it was good quality.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she was using the oil and she told me that she would just put two drops on her hairline. What is the point of that? I told her to use it all over and be consistent to see if it makes a difference and she then did this just a couple of times for her and her daughter and she said that she loved it. A couple of weeks later I asked her if the oil was still okay for them both and she said that it was too nice and she wanted the hair oil to last so she only used it occasionally and then she went and diluted it with some cheap crap she bought and that bottle lasted her and her daughter almost 2 years.

No way was I then going to then give her my Aubrey Organics conditioners – I might have just as well poured them down the drain. I often share products with my friends such as my home made hair oil concoctions and body butters. I gave two of my friends samples of the AO conditioners and one of them is a convert

 

[HeChangedMyName]

i was referring to hair like this

and they talk about dax making their hair grow and touchups every three weeks ..........

i know people like this and it's not short because they cut it either. THIS hair comes from utter lack of care. no scarfs, no conditioner, no DC, no combing.

 

[Kurlee]

The lady that used to work in the office below me had hair just like this and said that was how her hair grew due to the texture. I mentioned her in this thread and am just going to post my responses from that thread
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=417062


There was a lady that used to work on the floor below me and I would try not to say anything but just could not help myself in the end. Her colleagues would say stuff behind her back but I would at least try to offer some help and recommendations but she just would not listen at all.

She would boast about her Cartier watch and her expensive shoes etc but she would go to the cheapest people to get her hair extensions done and they looked horrific. It is a shame as she did not take care of her daughter’s hair either and it looked even worse than hers. She told me that she would just buy the cheapest shampoo that she could find for their hair. She would just shampoo their hair and let it dry and then try to comb it. It took me 2 years to persuade her to use conditioner but she still would not take my advice about detangling with the conditioner in their hair.

She was natural for years and then relaxed it and got the strongest relaxer she could find and left it on the little bit of hair that she had left for 40 minutes and left it on her 7 year old daughters virgin hair for 30 minutes. I asked her why she left it on so long and she said that when she used to relax her hair, she always used to leave it long until her scalp burned and would start to peel. She said that she would just switch on the fan and lean forward so the breeze would cool her head.

A few weeks later it just started to break off and she put her hair in extensions. One day she took them out mid week and parts of her hair were eaten down to the scalp. I recommended Aubrey Organic conditioners, oils such as olive as I knew that she would not pay for jojoba oil but she just said that that was the texture of her hair and those items would not work for her.

As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.


She was natural for 17 years, the week before she relaxed it, she told me that she was bored with her hair, wanted a change and that it had started breaking and she wanted to relax it. I said if your hair is breaking the last thing you should do is relax. Just take care of it and start using a conditioner and give it some treatments.

Also her hair is very fine and feels quite soft so I have no idea why she was frying it like that

As I said before "As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink."


MBP, seriouly I tried to reason with that woman so many times over the 3 years that we worked in the same building - and it was literally like talking to a brick wall. I think I have discussed her hair with her at least 75 times, probably more and I am not exaggerating. I really, really could not help myself where she was concerned no matter how hard I tried.

I was furious that she had left the relaxer on her daughter's hair especially for so long too. Both myself and her colleague really did tell her off about that as we both told her the week before that she should not relax her daughters hair as she was so young and we thought that she would not do it.

One day I gave her 125ml of a home made hair oil concoction I made - it contained oils such as organic jojoba oil, organic EVOO, organic avocado oil, etc and organic essentials oil of lavender and ylang ylang – I only use natural products and try to use organic where possible so it was good quality.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she was using the oil and she told me that she would just put two drops on her hairline. What is the point of that? I told her to use it all over and be consistent to see if it makes a difference and she then did this just a couple of times for her and her daughter and she said that she loved it. A couple of weeks later I asked her if the oil was still okay for them both and she said that it was too nice and she wanted the hair oil to last so she only used it occasionally and then she went and diluted it with some cheap crap she bought and that bottle lasted her and her daughter almost 2 years.

No way was I then going to then give her my Aubrey Organics conditioners – I might have just as well poured them down the drain. I often share products with my friends such as my home made hair oil concoctions and body butters. I gave two of my friends samples of the AO conditioners and one of them is a convert

that woman has some serious self-hatred going on with her hair. I think it comes down to that for a lot of people. The belief that there is something inherently wrong with their hair and it doesn't deserve to be treated with care. They then proceed to abuse it, like it deserves because of it's 'grade'.

 

[teacherjess]

The lady that used to work in the office below me had hair just like this and said that was how her hair grew due to the texture. I mentioned her in this thread and am just going to post my responses from that thread
http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=417062


There was a lady that used to work on the floor below me and I would try not to say anything but just could not help myself in the end. Her colleagues would say stuff behind her back but I would at least try to offer some help and recommendations but she just would not listen at all.

She would boast about her Cartier watch and her expensive shoes etc but she would go to the cheapest people to get her hair extensions done and they looked horrific. It is a shame as she did not take care of her daughter’s hair either and it looked even worse than hers. She told me that she would just buy the cheapest shampoo that she could find for their hair. She would just shampoo their hair and let it dry and then try to comb it. It took me 2 years to persuade her to use conditioner but she still would not take my advice about detangling with the conditioner in their hair.

She was natural for years and then relaxed it and got the strongest relaxer she could find and left it on the little bit of hair that she had left for 40 minutes and left it on her 7 year old daughters virgin hair for 30 minutes. I asked her why she left it on so long and she said that when she used to relax her hair, she always used to leave it long until her scalp burned and would start to peel. She said that she would just switch on the fan and lean forward so the breeze would cool her head.

A few weeks later it just started to break off and she put her hair in extensions. One day she took them out mid week and parts of her hair were eaten down to the scalp. I recommended Aubrey Organic conditioners, oils such as olive as I knew that she would not pay for jojoba oil but she just said that that was the texture of her hair and those items would not work for her.

As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink.


She was natural for 17 years, the week before she relaxed it, she told me that she was bored with her hair, wanted a change and that it had started breaking and she wanted to relax it. I said if your hair is breaking the last thing you should do is relax. Just take care of it and start using a conditioner and give it some treatments.

Also her hair is very fine and feels quite soft so I have no idea why she was frying it like that

As I said before "As the saying goes – you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink."


MBP, seriouly I tried to reason with that woman so many times over the 3 years that we worked in the same building - and it was literally like talking to a brick wall. I think I have discussed her hair with her at least 75 times, probably more and I am not exaggerating. I really, really could not help myself where she was concerned no matter how hard I tried.

I was furious that she had left the relaxer on her daughter's hair especially for so long too. Both myself and her colleague really did tell her off about that as we both told her the week before that she should not relax her daughters hair as she was so young and we thought that she would not do it.

One day I gave her 125ml of a home made hair oil concoction I made - it contained oils such as organic jojoba oil, organic EVOO, organic avocado oil, etc and organic essentials oil of lavender and ylang ylang – I only use natural products and try to use organic where possible so it was good quality.

A couple of days later, I asked her if she was using the oil and she told me that she would just put two drops on her hairline. What is the point of that? I told her to use it all over and be consistent to see if it makes a difference and she then did this just a couple of times for her and her daughter and she said that she loved it. A couple of weeks later I asked her if the oil was still okay for them both and she said that it was too nice and she wanted the hair oil to last so she only used it occasionally and then she went and diluted it with some cheap crap she bought and that bottle lasted her and her daughter almost 2 years.

No way was I then going to then give her my Aubrey Organics conditioners – I might have just as well poured them down the drain. I often share products with my friends such as my home made hair oil concoctions and body butters. I gave two of my friends samples of the AO conditioners and one of them is a convert

Wow. I guess it is all about priorities for certain women. For me personally, I'd rather rock less expensive clothes and use my money to pay for good quality hair and beauty products. I'm sorry... If I'm wearing Jimmy Choos and have a Gucci purse on my arm but my hair looks to' up from the flo' up I am NOT a happy camper and I would feel far from fierce. Just sayin'

 

[rosalindb]

that woman has some serious self-hatred going on with her hair. I think it comes down to that for a lot of people. The belief that there is something inherently wrong with their hair and it doesn't deserve to be treated with care. They then proceed to abuse it, like it deserves because of it's 'grade'.

Very true and unfortunately she is passing this on to her daughter. I think the way she sees her hair stems from her own childhood. She told me that her sister had lovely hair but she got the bad hair as she takes after her father. She told me and her colleague that she tells her daughter that her hair is bad Both my colleague and I told her not to do that but she thought that it was funny that we were concerned by this.

 

[LadyPaniolo]

Wow... that was really kind and generous to help your co-worker out like that... I probably wouldn't have said anything to her at all... because I remember how attacked and wounded I used to feel if anyone said a word to me about my hair, even if they meant well.