You fiance wants a......

Hmmm what's more important..

My Ego or a new motor.

I'll go with the latter because I'm not really into bling bling that much. Apart from making my girlfriends, and other ladies jealous a ring doesn't serve that much purpose to me. If he loves me, and I know it.. I don't need a piece of jewellery for him to prove it, wedding vows would be enough. We can get a ring another day...

So yeah, I'd be cool with it.
 
DejaVu2 said:
Hmmm what's more important..

My Ego or a new motor.

I'll go with the latter because I'm not really into bling bling that much. Apart from making my girlfriends, and other ladies jealous a ring doesn't serve that much purpose to me. If he loves me, and I know it.. I don't need a piece of jewellery for him to prove it, wedding vows would be enough. We can get a ring another day...

So yeah, I'd be cool with it.
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No, this is HIS wedding ring. Not yours.

DejaVu2
 
Meaning he wants me to give him money for a car and he wouldn't wear a wedding band at all? No, that wouldn't fly with me.
 
You can get a wedding band for practically nothing on ebay or walmart or something. If he's trying to get out of wearing a wedding band and using the car as an excuse, that's sad.
 
U should get both..he can have a cheaper ring....and still do the down payment..a simple band shouldnt cost that much..
 
A lot of men dont wear wedding bands. Wedding band actually attract a lot of scandalous women. I know men who cheat with them and with out them. I have a cousin who wears one, he cheats constantly but my homeboy doesn't wear one, he is super faithful.

Personally, I would buy him a cheap one, so he could have it.

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I was gonna be like nah... at least get a cheap one, then I remembered that neither of my parents wear wedding rings and they've been married 25+ yrs. Those things only mean something when you want them to mean something.

Either way, I feel like we should be able to afford both.
 
So he wants me to make a down payment on his car... Maybe I'll change my mind when I'm getting married but this isn't sitting well with me now and it wouldn't sit well with my parents if I tell them that while planning the wedding.
 
This dude sounds money hungry to me, as if he’s trying to get over (e.g., ease ol’ girl’s mind by proposing, then find a way to finagle large sums of money and big ticket items out of the deal).

At any rate, my response to the OP: I cannot see any purpose in marrying a man that cannot come up with a down payment for a car on his own, and who appears to have no reservations with asking a woman for money. Men who ask women for money = a huge deal breaker for me. My advice to her would be to t’row dis one back, yo.
 
I don't like the idea of this. One thing has nothing to do with the other IMO. I don't like men asking for things like that from a woman. I would be weary of a man who 1. Would have the nerve to ask me for a car downpayment. And 2. Wanted to get married but can't afford a car.
 
Something like this was on Suze Orman last night. A woman told her boyfriend no, that she wouldn't lend him $500 before they got married to fix something at his house. He broke up with her. Suze was like, thank your lucky stars. The woman said she didn't believe in loaning men money. I was like, "Way to go Becky".
 
So shes buying his ring? I thought he was buying his own ring, but wanted to use his money for a car instead. I would absolutely not give him money for a down payment. What kind of crap is that? I hope she's buying his ring because she wanted to and not because he suggested it.

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FoxxyLocs said:
So shes buying his ring? I thought he was buying his own ring, but wanted to use his money for a car instead. I would absolutely not give him money for a down payment. What kind of crap is that? I hope she's buying his ring because she wanted to and not because he suggested it.

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Traditionally, the woman buys his wedding band.
 
I know (although I didn't and I don't know anyone who did) - I guess I should say I've heard of people doing that. Because he's talking about a car instead, I assumed he was buying his own ring. I think its ridiculous to expect her to give him the cash. Plus he's making an assumption about how much she was going to spend. And if he's the one who suggested that she buy his ring, only to turn around and ask for the money, I think that's shady.

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vevster said:
I think he was trying to get the $$
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Ooohhhh.... Well this is different! I thought he just didnt want to wear a band My answer is still the same, buy a cheap band. I dont believe you should do the car payment, period. So have you spoken with him about it? Do you think its a scam?

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The car is gonna lose value (monetary and sentimental) before the wedding ring is. As for my reaction, I wouldn't marry him.

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I ain't even know the woman bought his wedding band, but that's besides the point. If he doesn't have the money to buy his own car, we probably wouldn't be getting married in the first place. That's just me though. I ain't trying to go into a marriage with financial problems, that's just stupid. If he can't front the cash for his own ride, wth is he gonna do for me?
 
ThickHair said:
Then he isn't ready for a wife either. Sounds like his priorities are all messed up. Why can't he get a car on his own?
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I agree and I would also think that the future wife would be more informed about her future husband finances before saying yes.

I'm assuming that if she has agreed to marry him she is informed of his finances and has accepted his level of financial responsibility; based on that she should give him the down payment for his car.
 
I think that's crazy I want my fiancée to just go buy my ring without any input from me.

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