You cheated on your man!

bimbabe

bimbabe

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Would you confess your sins and tell him OR Take it to the grave?

Would your answer be different if your little tryst left you with an STD?
 
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I WOULDNT TELL HIM S**T!!!! ONE THING THAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT WHAT HE DOESNT KNOW WONT HURT HIM AND WHEN YOU REVEAL THINGS LIKE THAT TO PEOPLE IT IS A SELFISH ACT BECAUSE U FEEL BETTER YEAH CAUSE U GOT IT OFF YOUR CHEST BUT NOW U HAVE JUST CRUSHED SOMEONE ELSE. TAKE IT TO THE GRAVE AND CONFESS YOUR SINS TO THE LORD!!
 
DIDNT SEE THE LAST PART, IF YOU ARE LEFT WITH AN STD TELL IF HE TRIED TO GET SOME NOOKIE I WOULD TELL HIM THAT I HAD A YEAST INFECTION AND WAS ON MEDS AND CANT HAVE SEX FOR TWO WKS, GET THE MEDS TO CLEAR UP THE STD AND LEAVE THE NASTY TRIFLING NEGRO ALONE THA IS A WALKING DISEASE!
 
I'd like to think I wouldn't do it in the first place... however if I was in this predicament, in reality I probably wouldn't tell him for fear of hurting him and destroying our relationship.
My problem with this is, my relationship would just be 'tainted' with a big lie. What kind of 'relationship' would it be then?
 
I wouldn't cheat, but you can never say never so I wouldn't say anything. It would probably taint and end our relationship. I'm assuming I care about this dude. I would learn from my mistakes, vow to never cheat again, take the meds to get rid of the std and keep lovin my man.
 
Iwouldn't cheat. But hypothetically (sp?) I'd be scared to cheat. I can't lie well at all and my husband can pretty much read me like a book and has been able to since we met. I wouldn't be able to hide it if I ever did cheat
 
Ms. Vea said:
DIDNT SEE THE LAST PART, IF YOU ARE LEFT WITH AN STD TELL IF HE TRIED TO GET SOME NOOKIE I WOULD TELL HIM THAT I HAD A YEAST INFECTION AND WAS ON MEDS AND CANT HAVE SEX FOR TWO WKS, GET THE MEDS TO CLEAR UP THE STD AND LEAVE THE NASTY TRIFLING NEGRO ALONE THA IS A WALKING DISEASE!
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Hmm...
I hate to stir something up here but:
The same way you would have caught a disease off of the guy you cheated with, he obviously caught it off someone else.
So would he really be the only nasty and trifling one? Surely, you would both be in the same boat if you catch my drift. On the flip side, it doesn't make you nasty and trifling just because you caught a disease from someone else. I think it only makes you so if you're promiscuous and/or know your STD status is not negative (whatever you have) and you continue to sleep around like nothing ever happened.

Another thing is, there are some diseases you just can't get rid of... :ohwell:.
These are usually life threatening too. You'd probably have to say something then :look:.
 
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I would tell him. If I'm going to have the balls to cheat, then I get to deal with all the consequences even if that means divorce and/or HIV.
 
I wouldn't cheat, but if I did I would tell and suffer the consequences. I would want him to do the same.
 
Take it to my grave. If it left me with a lil package, I'd tell him. :look: Suddenly demanding we wear condoms would look far too suspicious, and while I might be enough of an imperfect person to cheat on him, I'm not low enough to knowingly infect him.
 
Humm... from my stance now.. I wouldn't ever cheat on anyone. I am too open and honest with pretty decent communication... therefore I would let them know that I wasn't feeling them like that versus cheating on them.

People don't fall into cheating...there are several incidents prior to the actual occurance.

It would be very foul if one decided to cheat AND brough home an STD.. that's F'ed up. Don't cheat and be out there nasty. :nono:


bimbabe said:
Would you confess your sins and tell him OR Take it to the grave?

Would your answer be different if your little tryst left you with an STD?
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I wouldn't cheat, although if I did I would end it before telling him. I wouldn't want to hurt him, but I'd never be able to have a healthy relationship knowing something like that happened and not telling him. The secrecy would eat me up inside.
 
Ms. Vea said:
I WOULDNT TELL HIM S**T!!!! ONE THING THAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT WHAT HE DOESNT KNOW WONT HURT HIM AND WHEN YOU REVEAL THINGS LIKE THAT TO PEOPLE IT IS A SELFISH ACT BECAUSE U FEEL BETTER YEAH CAUSE U GOT IT OFF YOUR CHEST BUT NOW U HAVE JUST CRUSHED SOMEONE ELSE. TAKE IT TO THE GRAVE AND CONFESS YOUR SINS TO THE LORD!!
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How about keeping your bloody legs shut/penis in your pants and not crushing someone by being unfaithful? How about not even TAKING it to a point where you do something that you'd have to "take to your grave?" Cheating isn't "Oops...he was lying with an erect penis and I just happened to slip and land on it" or "Well, you know, she juss' was lyin there naked and my pants just HAPPENED to be off and I just a slid and landed in her.

How about the fact that it's freaking selfish to even DO something like that to someone? Feel better to "get it off your chest?" I swear, some people and their logic disgust me to the core sometimes. You're man/woman enough to step OUT? Then you're man or woman enough to step UP and be truthful about what YOU did when you was "doing you" without thought of your mate. Should have been thinking about "the Lord" before a thought of that mess even came to mind.

The hurt of the women that have been recently posting about unfaithful mates and being hurt in relationships makes me so sad for them and then this crap of thinking honestly grates me to the core. None of you who agreed bet' not be mad if you find out your man/woman was sneaking around and "happened" to forget to mention it to you.:rolleyes:

And the disease? You'd LIE? WOOOW...just wow. And the man who'd give it is "a trifling?" HE would be trifling? Wait, let me get this straight. A woman would spread her legs to another man, lie about it, lie about getting a coochie rotting disease to her mate until she got it cleared up and the man who gave it to her, who is in a relationship and lying about what she's doing, mind you, is calling the man she's cheating with trifling?

Wait, what?
~*Janelle~*
 
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Since when did it become a crime to give you input on sumthing. I see why people either never comment here anymore or leave the site all together. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and should not be judged nor ridiculed behind it. I'm not tripping because I'm not the op but it makes me kind of salty that when asked you have to either say your honest opinion or say wat the people "want" to hear. People should not be attacked for speaking their mind.
 
I might tell DH, I might not; I honestly don't know what I'd do unless I was in the aftermath of an affair. That aside, I have to give it to you for giving an honest answer to an honest question.

Ms. Vea said:
I WOULDNT TELL HIM S**T!!!! ONE THING THAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT WHAT HE DOESNT KNOW WONT HURT HIM AND WHEN YOU REVEAL THINGS LIKE THAT TO PEOPLE IT IS A SELFISH ACT BECAUSE U FEEL BETTER YEAH CAUSE U GOT IT OFF YOUR CHEST BUT NOW U HAVE JUST CRUSHED SOMEONE ELSE. TAKE IT TO THE GRAVE AND CONFESS YOUR SINS TO THE LORD!!

DIDNT SEE THE LAST PART, IF YOU ARE LEFT WITH AN STD TELL IF HE TRIED TO GET SOME NOOKIE I WOULD TELL HIM THAT I HAD A YEAST INFECTION AND WAS ON MEDS AND CANT HAVE SEX FOR TWO WKS, GET THE MEDS TO CLEAR UP THE STD AND LEAVE THE NASTY TRIFLING NEGRO ALONE THA IS A WALKING DISEASE!
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We'd all like to think that we'd do the "honorable" thing and fess up, but truth be told, if it was all about honesty and honor, there wouldn't have been an affair in the first place.
 
If ever got to the point where I would cheat, I would confess. I despise liars of any kind. Especially, those who choose to put someonen's life in danger. I have no respect for cheaters.....
 
Ms. Vea said:
Since when did it become a crime to give you input on sumthing. I see why people either never comment here anymore or leave the site all together. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and should not be judged nor ridiculed behind it. I'm not tripping because I'm not the op but it makes me kind of salty that when asked you have to either say your honest opinion or say wat the people "want" to hear. People should not be attacked for speaking their mind.
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It's called an opinion. If you don't like the fact that people may have strong views over what you said, then that's your business. :rolleyes: You gave your view, I gave mine.

Message boards are for that: "DISCUSSION." If someone posts something and someone else wants to give a line by line break down of why they disagree, even using different colored text in the very quote or however they choose tom, put on your big girl pants, dip yourself in some fresh water to get rid of the "saltiness" and come back and back up your views.

Nothing personal against YOU, but when you put you and your opinion out there, and yeah, "especially on these boards" by posting about "your man" or "your hair" "white people and why they don't like me" or even "what you would or wouldn't do," be prepared to back up your opinion if it's what you strongly believe in. Because yeah, don't bet everyone is going to agree.

If you were offended, then I apologize, but I still stand by what I said.
~*Janelle~*
 
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I've cheated - didn't tell. But if i'd caught an STD it would only be right to tell him so he can go to the Dr. to get tested
 
Depends on the situation. Was this a random one night stand or a long term affair? Does my man know the guy? Is the man I'm in a relationship the owner of many fire arms or suffer from severe anger management issues? My knee jerk reaction is that I'd keep it a secret. Is there really a benefit of telling someone you care about that you cheated on them?

But if I got an STD or got pregnant, I'd fess up. I'd feel horribly guilty cheating on a guy, but I'd feel even worse if I cheated on him and then gave him crabs.
 
I would not tell him. It would hurt him and only momentarily ease my conscience. What I would do is reflect on our relationship and focus on what could have provoked me to cheat. If there is an underlying issue that is not resolvable, then we are not meant to be.

As for the STD, I would not be telling him simply to ease my conscience but to look out for his health. So of course I would confess if an STD came into play and face the repercussions of my actions like a woman.
 
Well first, it wouldn't happen (me cheating), but to answer the question, YES, I would tell. And the type of person I am, it's something I just couldn't keep inside if I tried. I would definitely want to know if he ever cheated.
I'm actually surprised at most of the answers....
 
For those ladies that will tell. What are your reasons for coming clean?
Men and women are programmed differently. Men are less likely to forgive you for cheating. Am I wrong?
 
That's a toughie because I can't put myself in that frame of mind. Honestly, if things were at a point as to where i would entertain cheating....I don't need to be there so i'd leave beforehand.

Hmmm, I don't know....I'm still trying to find an answer to that one, I don't think I'd tell, I'd just leave and be with my side-piece. As far as STD's (uhm, if you're gonna creep use condoms) I feel like I'd HAVE to tell then.
 
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