would you pay your SO's child support?

celiabug

celiabug

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not all the time but maybe if they lost their job, low on money etc.... i know people who have done that for their husbands or boyfriends before. idk if i could but then again im not in the situation.
 
I don't think that I could get with that. When I read on this board that people thought that I should :blush: Still don't like the idea. Don't mind helping with the household and if they live with us, but no. But I'm also not the mommy type, so :ohwell: Now that I am aware that this is even a possibility, it definitely will be factored in dating situations.

If some emergency came up and it sounded reasonable I might. Overall, I just came to the conclusion is that I will stay away from men with children because I don't like being mommy, step mommy, child support mommy or nothing else like that.
 
nope. not neva.

you didn't have da chile, so why should u pay. what would he do if you weren't his SO? he'd hafta work it out, right? iight den. tell him to work it out.

if he low on money, get a second job.

if he lost his job, get another one.

ain't no way in da hell would i pay my boyfriend's child support. husband. granddaddy. my daddy. hell to da damn no.
 
SO?! As in boyfriend? Hell naw! I'm married with a child, but if I were to ever find myself single again, I still wouldn't for a husband because I wouldn't marry someone who had kids. All the monies stay within my household. :look:
 
I remember a thread on this before. A LOT of women said they would pay because once married, his kids are her kids. So they can't let their kids go without.


I, personally, won't be paying anyone's child support. That ninja better go to the child support agency and report that loss of income. I'm only financially responsible for the kids with my DNA. Sorry! I wouldn't expect my ex's girlfriend/wife to pay his CS. It ain't right.
 
AHeadOfCoils said:
I remember a thread on this before. A LOT of women said they would pay because once married, his kids are her kids. So they can't let their kids go without.


I, personally, won't be paying anyone's child support. That ninja better go to the child support agency and report that loss of income. I'm only financially responsible for the kids with my DNA. Sorry! I wouldn't expect my ex's girlfriend/wife to pay his CS. It ain't right.
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That is the thread I was referring to. I was like there my kids? what? :blush:

I'm not knocking it for others. I just don't want to do it :ohwell: Your kids are your kids.
 
If he lost his job, that means he can't pay his portion of the bills, so I would have to cover that. Ain't no way I'm taking care of all our household bills AND paying his child support. BMs would be arsed out if she was dependent on that there CS.
 
For the people in situations like these they better be careful how they combine their finances because if they should file a joint tax return together and he is behind on his payments well lets just say that lady in question wouldn't have a choice where her tax refund goes. Another thing to mention is what happens if he should go to jail for non payment of his CS and he's the one helping to support her household? I actually knew a person in a situation like this and she was like she couldn't deal with her SO going to jail for non payment, earning what little he does working construction only to give it to his ex, and this was every year.:ohwell:
 
Absolutely NOT! A man needs to do whatever needs to be done. Go back to court to get it reduced, cut grass, give blood, get a job at McDonalds, etc.... This is somebody's wake up call.:nono:
 
If you're married, it's not a choice. Child support will be coming out of the household which is an 'our' money situation all around.

I was not born with the word FOOL etched into my forehead so there is no way that I'd come out of pocket to pay a boyfriends child support. I have paid a family members child support to keep him out of jail, but that's family.
 
Nope, that's something he will have to figure out on his own. The money I make is for my house. He better call child support and tell them he lost his job and need a payment arrangement set up for when he starts working or use his unemployment to to pay child support and he better be still contributing the house if he getting unemployment.
 
Hell to the no. That is his obligation and his alone. If he wants to keep the man off him tell his behind to pay something on the bill if he doesn't have the total amount and to file those adjustment papers with the court to alleviate his problem.
 
Bicth, please. (Not directed @ OP but imaginary dude) If I wasn't there for conception, I'm not going in on collection.

ETA: A husband is different. If you're married to someone, you're married to their children as well. The law sees it the same way. But the OP said SO/BF so the above answer suits that situation.
 
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Doesn't child support come directly out of the man's pay check if he has a steady job? I don't get how a girlfriend or a wife would have to pay child support for their man if their man stays out of trouble with the law and isn't unemployed.

Now if he ends up in jail or loses his job, I don't see why a girlfriend would pay for it. Girlfriends should not pay it at all. But if the woman is his wife, I could possibly see the wife helping him out, but the child support payments is ultimately his responsibility.

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Boyfriend uuuum NO ! Husband .... Isn't that what you signed up for his debt is your debt if you didn't think it would ever come up clearly you didn't think marriage through .
 
Nope, not a boyfriend or a husband.

And I know people say that his kids are yours yadda yadda, but if he can't contribute to his kid with her, chances are he's not contributing to your household either. So I have to hold mine down AND pay his bills? Nope.

He needs to get a job, something, or go to the court and get a temporary reduction
 
Not for an SO but if my husband was laid off I'd help. You'd end up helping indirectly anyway because if his unemployment does not cover the child support obligation, bills still have to be paid and money is still going to come out of your pocket to offset the cost of him losing his job. I know how the Court system works very well and would rather not spend money hiring an attorney to defend against a contempt motion...or worse...if you own a home or have joint accouns...they could garnish bank accounts, put a lien on your home (lis pendens), throw your husband in jail, revoke his license, garnish tax return refunds, etc. (although you have to be pretty severely in arrears for them to do all of this). You just have to weigh the amount of exposure you have to the consequences and make a wise decision based on your own self-interests.

If I did make any payments towards the support because we were married and it was in my own best interest, I would certainly be doing my own wage withholding once he found another job.

If his losing a job was his own fault, I would not help.
 
Most couples who have a spouse that has a child ouside of the marriage does pay in some way
money that would be going into your household is going towards an outside child---so either way its being done...
 
BEAUTYU2U said:
Bicth, please. (Not directed @ OP but imaginary dude) If I wasn't there for conception, I'm not going in on collection.

ETA: A husband is different. If you're married to someone, you're married to their children as well. The law sees it the same way. But the OP said SO/BF so the above answer suits that situation.
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See that's not true. A step-parent is NOT an obligated parent. They are simply a third party and nothing more. They, legally, are not allowed to make any decisions for the child. Only their parents. The ONLY two people that are obligated to a child are the people that have custody of the child. That being said, they base child support on the husbands income. His wife's wouldn't be touched unless she doesn't have a job and his income is the sole income. It doesn't matter if y'all filed taxes together or not. Whatever is on HIS W-2/1099 is all that is counted.

Either way, people that lose their jobs are able to lessen their child support or even be put in arrears until they find another job, so no I wouldn't be paying ish.
 
I would never marry a man with kids. It crossed my mind before but never. Now i am older, if i was to marry again, maybe i would consider someone with grown kids or a widower with one child. Maybe. but the child support thing would never be me.
 
With a spouse its coming out of your pocket regardless, so yes.

SO nope, nope, nope. And they would not become a spouse or parent to my future kids if they are unable to care for their prior responsibilities.
 
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