Live.Laugh.Love
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thoughts??? LOL
She has no self respect and will be pursuing him for the duration of the marriage
I find it interesting that as women that promote equality between genders, we still insist that the only one who has the right to ask for the other's hand in marriage must be the man. Doesn't it sound odd that we want women to get the same education, make the same money, work the same jobs as men, but leave the responsibility of asking for the other's hand in marriage to the man?
Don't get me wrong, I've not done this before.. I dont think I could even if I wasnt married... just a foreign concept culturally.. but I find it interesting to see how we pick and choose where we want equality, and where we want men to preserve their dominant roles.
Also curious, how does it work in homosexual couples? Can anyone ask the other since there is no gender difference?
I find it equally interesting that people don't get the concept that having equal rights doesn't mean we forego the intimate relationship dynamics between a man and woman that makes it so uniquely appealing.
I am independent, but that doesn't mean I don't want to to be courted and protected. He may even be the lead in the relationship.
One of the great dynamics between a man and a woman is for him to show chivalry and for me to show appreciation.
Sure it does...I find it equally interesting that people don't get the concept that having equal rights doesn't mean we forego the intimate relationship dynamics between a man and woman that makes it so uniquely appealing.
I am independent, but that doesn't mean I don't want to to be courted and protected. He may even be the lead in the relationship.
One of the great dynamics between a man and a woman is for him to show chivalry and for me to show appreciation.
I have recently been dating a guy who is chivalrous (I'm sure it has to do with his father and the fact that his parents have been married for 50+ yrs). Although he is not completely old fashioned , he definitely has the protector and provider part down. Over the years I have evolved to allow men to treat me like a lady. It has taken years for me to get here but it is one of the best life choices, I've made. I suggested we go away for the weekend and without any questions this guy planned the entire trip... from the restaurants to the hotel to the entertainment, it was a wonderful, drama free, fulfilling weekend. I didn't have to think about anything... AND I DIDN'T.One of the great dynamics between a man and a woman is for him to show chivalry and for me to show appreciation.
This is sooo good to hear. Sounds like a great experience for you.I have recently been dating a guy who is chivalrous (I'm sure it has to do with his father and the fact that his parents have been married for 50+ yrs). Although he is not completely old fashioned , he definitely has the protector and provider part down. Over the years I have evolved to allow men to treat me like a lady. It has taken years for me to get here but it is one of the best life choices, I've made. I suggested we go away for the weekend and without any questions this guy planned the entire trip... from the restaurants to the hotel to the entertainment, it was a wonderful, drama free, fulfilling weekend. I didn't have to think about anything... AND I DIDN'T.
Sure it does...
Women who think this is achievable are suspending reality. Intimate relationship dynamics are the reason for why men choose to treat women differently/ not equally. We cannot have it both ways. We cannot expect men to treat women one way in public and another way in private. Human dynamics do not work that way. Men who are protective of their SO's are generally protective of women in general. Men who are inconsiderate of the femininity of their partner are the same way with women they work with. We see examples of this everyday.
Men court and protect women because they think we need them to do it. Why? Because we are unable to do these things for ourselves. When you show them that you can indeed do everything they can do they wonder what exactly is their purpose in your life. Heck it is unreasonable to ask your fellow women to turn this off and on depending on the setting.