Why men won't/don't commit...post your thoughts

good points on changes need to be made on both ends...however I think its more of a balance natural change .... naturally i think men and women can easily experience different partners in order to find a mate and there wont be men out of control just trying to get notches under their belts to feed their egos and women who are conditioned to believe they only need one man in life and thats it.....and i agree with relationships not being hard work....all relationships go thru their ups and downs however with love those ups and downs aren't work its resolutions and beneficial gains to each other....instead of compromises and sacrifices...commitment is real and of choice to be there and not obligatory if they could leave with no consequences would be out of there...alot of folks who claim relationships are so hard complain its hard when everything is going good...its like workin a job you dont really want to be at....you get good pay, benefits, non stressful, people treat you great and to others it seems like the best job ever...however to you you have to drag yourself in everyday just to be present there and all the perks don't make up for your feeling of wanting to be somewhere else doing something else...its hard work to do be somewhere where you don't want to be even when all the external factors are great.....its hard to be present emotionally even physically in a relationship that is seemingly great but its not where you want to be at for whatever reason...and folks who refuse to look at their own issues have a hard time in relationships as well
 
"It is what it is." I think that's it. Women won't be able to control men, but they can find ones that are looking for what they're looking for. I think that's a lot easier and saner than trying to force him to commit, be stressed out because of the "competition," etc.
 
nicola.kirwan said:
"It is what it is." I think that's it. Women won't be able to control men, but they can find ones that are looking for what they're looking for. I think that's a lot easier and saner than trying to force him to commit, be stressed out because of the "competition," etc.
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I agree.

I didn't watch the video, but really, I think that analyzing the "why he won't commit" issue is a waste of time.

A lot of men will commit. They just might not want to commit to you... which is why you see so many cases of a dude staying with one woman for years and never committing, then wifing up the next woman that comes along after knowing her for just six months.

That's okay though, because there are other men who DO want to commit to you. Focus on them, and wondering about why men don't commit will no longer be a concern.

Some men simply don't want to commit to anyone. Why? Who cares! If you want a commitment, then leave the ones who don't want to commit alone.
 
It's all about timing for them.

Warren Beatty whored around for years, until he got ready to settle down.

With Annette Bening, it was like bing, bang, boom - married. She wasn't the most special female to drop from the sky, IMO. He just got ready.

ITA that if a man won't commit to you, let it go.

Why ask why?
 
Preach Drea, PPPPPPRRRRREEEEEEEAAAAAACCCCCHHHHHH!!!! :amen: She took the words RIGHT out of my mouth. ;) She echoed the first thought that popped into my head with her first comment: Men don't commit because they don't have to. In addition to "other" women who are willing to accommodate men, a lot of women in "relationships" favor settling over letting a guy go. She actually reminds me a lot myself before I got married (single for several years and reserving physical intimacy for relationships). Having standards in a world where so many people are guided by the pleasure principle is frustrating. I do, however, know that there are men who are interesting in committing. Women would save themselves a lot of heartache by focusing on those men and not entertaining dudes who :blah::blah::blah: about what he can get from another woman. :rolleyes: So, he wants to go elsewhere to get *insert accommodation here*? Let him go and don't let your life get off track. :up:
 
men will commit when they are ready, alot of women commit too easily and then don't understand why they are unhappy......why would anybody want a man who wasn't ready to commit and try to force him too.....but also, why would they just commit to a man who wanted to commit... not somebody they wanted to be with...that happens alot
 
I think won't/don't commit because they don't have to. Women will sleep with them, have children with them, move in with them, buy a house with them, all without the promise and committment that comes with marriage.
 
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