Why marriage is important to me...

[lana]

Wouldn't my husband love to be a fly on the wall for this thread....(lol)

I was giving a young lady some sage advice on relationships and then I realized that others might like to know and share their knowledge. I think this is more "off topic" than "relationship" forum material. But if I'm wrong - someone will point it out. (I love LHCF)

Marriage is important to me for many reasons. But one reason that I value it in particular is that in this world we all need friends....

I've found out that some female friends are good for shopping, some for a glass of wine, some for spiritual encouragement and advice, some for a hug or a wise word, some for an ugly cry, some for just a regular ole day, etc.

But it is a rare friend that is good for every occassion large or small. That's why I'm so glad to have my husband.

He may not always understand. He's a man. He may not want to do the girly stuff. But if I need to go to the mall - he WILL go with me. (lol)

He may not always get my PMS but he may get the brunt of it. (lol)

He may not always understand my need to watch Lifetime. But he will let me watch it while he snores and then joke with me about it. (The woman gets the house and kids and the husband gets got nine times outta ten).

So yes, marriage is important for a wide variety of reasons. But I sooo appreciate the true friendship that it provides.

Now I need to remember to tell him how I feel.

What is one of the many reasons that your marriage is important to you?

 

[DejaVu2]

That young lady was me

Thanks again for the wonderful advice lana.

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[lana]

Girl you are quick! DejaVu2 (lol)

 

[chellero]

I agree with you about the friendship thing, OP. Dh is my best friend and having him around makes all of the boring stuff that people have to do in life more fun. I even enjoy grocery shopping with him.

 

[Windsy]

lana

this is wonderful....please share it with him.

I just had a convo with my SO about the reasons why I'm with him and it made his day....I actually notice a difference in him since that convo.

Just like women loves to hear "I love you" men love to hear why we are with them!!!

 

[snillohsss]

But it is a rare friend that is good for every occassion large or small.

This is a huge reason for me. This line you wrote is so simple, yet it encompasses a lot.

 

[yardyspice]

Like others have said my husband is my best friend and one of the few people with whom I can discuss anything. We can talk about anything from an article in the Times to something I've read on TMZ.

I can count on him to go with me to the Art Walk or a lecture at the university and walking around tourist traps.

 

[MyInvisibleChyrsalis]

Right. My husband and I are best friends and that is a gift from God.

 

[Southernbella.]

ITA about the friendship. I go hard for sisterhood and I love my besties, but my dh knows me inside and out and he's the only person in the world with whom I can be myself. He knows the good and the bad and he's still here. That's priceless.

 

[lana]

This is a huge reason for me. This line you wrote is so simple, yet it encompasses a lot.

snillohsss Glad you like it - I write women's romantic fiction (ebooks) so I think it slipped out.

 

[lana]

@lana

this is wonderful....please share it with him.

I just had a convo with my SO about the reasons why I'm with him and it made his day....I actually notice a difference in him since that convo.

Just like women loves to hear "I love you" men love to hear why we are with them!!!

Windsy - Men love to have their ego uplifted. I will make sure and tell him. I already smother him with I love you's, I miss you's and you are sooo handsome - all day long. I don't think a little more gushing can hurt.

I found out one thing that really gives him a boost: When we're meeting new people and they say: How long have you guys been married?
I tell them how many years and then I say: Each year gets better than the last.

Not only is it true but it makes my hubby try harder each year to be the best husband in the world. I keep trying hard on my end and it works.

 

[Zaynab]

Dh is my best friend. More than he is my husband. I can't explain it. But it's great

 

[nysister]

Lovely OP!

I tried to explain something similar to a former friend of mine, we used to be best friends and she became jealous of my husband because he and I (needless to say) became best friends.

When she remarried and sent me a letter expressing her hurt at our relationship change, I told her that she should be best friends with her husband and while outside out that we could still be best friends, she should really cultivate that relationship with him. Unfortunately she's no longer married to her second husband either.

 

[likewtr4chklit]

Yea he's my male bff and we're a good parenting team.

 

[MariposaSexyGirl]

I can definitely agree about the best friend as a husband.

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[Nix08]

Similarly our friendship is great and does get better each year. Thx for the reminder OP

 

[naijamerican]

I love this! It's great to hear about happy marriages. So many times all you hear is all the nagging and the negative stuff. Thank you for this thread, lana.

 

[lana]

Lovely OP!

I tried to explain something similar to a former friend of mine, we used to be best friends and she became jealous of my husband because he and I (needless to say) became best friends.

When she remarried and sent me a letter expressing her hurt at our relationship change, I told her that she should be best friends with her husband and while outside out that we could still be best friends, she should really cultivate that relationship with him. Unfortunately she's no longer married to her second husband either.

Wow. Lesson learned for her...I hope.

 

[Makenzie]

Great thread and great responses. It's nice to hear of happy marriages. It saddens me greatly to think there are many who don't believe happy marriages exist.