Nonie
Well-Known Member
Naheda, no one is trying to make you use the word to describe your hair, but I think what folks are trying to lay out in plain sight is that because the word has the same meaning as the word kinky, it is a word that people will use to describe your hair without any malice whatsoever. Perhaps if they do, to your face, you can explain to them that you do not like it. But rather than have everyone walking on eggshells around you because a simple English word that brings to mind kinky is offensive to you, perhaps you too can make an effort to see from their point of view that when they say it, they mean it in kindness and total neutrality. In other words, they will try not to use it to describe your hair, but should they slip because they are doing unto you as they would like done unto them (in this case, calling a spade a spade) because they'd call their own the same, please note the source and see that no harm is intended.
Naheda, so far, I've assumed I know why the word is negative to you. But I realize that I might not and I'll respect you enough to ask you why it is. What about the word offends you so? You say we might be younger than you so don't understand. Please enlighten us. I mean this with all the respect in the world. When I watched 400 Years Without a Comb, I understood why having nappy hair was a curse. I could see how the word could change from just describing the texture to being a word that meant bad, because nappy hair looked a hot mess back then. So no one wanted to have nappy hair. But outside of that, where meaning went from being a description of texture to a description of state (negative appearance), then I don't think I get it. So please, can you tell us when and why the word became/is negative to you? TIA
Naheda, so far, I've assumed I know why the word is negative to you. But I realize that I might not and I'll respect you enough to ask you why it is. What about the word offends you so? You say we might be younger than you so don't understand. Please enlighten us. I mean this with all the respect in the world. When I watched 400 Years Without a Comb, I understood why having nappy hair was a curse. I could see how the word could change from just describing the texture to being a word that meant bad, because nappy hair looked a hot mess back then. So no one wanted to have nappy hair. But outside of that, where meaning went from being a description of texture to a description of state (negative appearance), then I don't think I get it. So please, can you tell us when and why the word became/is negative to you? TIA