Why do some people spend their lives with their soulmates, while.....

I think some people just get it right first time....well I'm inclined to say lucky actually. What I mean by that is there are some men from a young age who are not out to play and are looking for long-term...like it's just in their DNA to be good men. Those women met them at the right time.

Then there are men that are just b*stards and move from one woman to the next and not give 100% to a relationship/are disordered/have issues. Those are the men I meet!!!
 
I don't believe we only have 1 soulmate honestly. It all depends on a person's dating style, their interests, seeing red flags early on, et cetera.
 
I really wish I knew the answer to this. My guess is that we have different life lessons to learn and that some of us are better suited to learning those lessons while with a mate while others are better suited or most receptive to those lessons while alone.
 
I think we all have a path and some found a wonderful mate for them at the time they were supposed to meet. I agree with a PP that said we all have lessons to learn, things to experience, and personal growth that involve us being independent at that particular time.

It's all fascinating, but very weird when you are conscious of these life enigmas... but how boring would it be if we knew the answer to every question? :spinning:
 
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I think you have to really figure out your own soul before you can even begin looking for its mate. Everybody's different, it takes some longer than others. I see now that when I became more comfortable and confident about who I truly am (flaws and all), it was easier to find a soulmate.
 
I think most of it is luck. I really don't believe that you have to have 100% together/understanding before you meet that person.

I think that at times humans give themselves way too much credit for things that happen by chance or God involved (however you believe that).
 
I've learned that your soul mate(s) aren't neccesarily meant for you marry. I believe G-d bring people in your life for various purposes and life lessons that you wouldn't learn otherwise. Anybody read that book Between Lovers? Nick and Nicole were soul mates but they both ended up marrying other people. Seems as though G-d brought them together to teach them how love unconditionally thus preparing them to better mates for the people they did end up marrying. I've found my soul mate but unfortunately he's not the man G-d's picked out for me to marry. Sucks but those are the breaks.
 
I think it's all about energy. Those who give off positive energy and are open to truly finding a mate are usually the ones in long term relationships...from my observation anyway. I see women and men all around me with mates that suit them well (maybe not a soul mate) but they are the type who I consider positive people. The people around me with various insecurities and hangups are usually the ones alone.
 
Plus, soulmates aren't always spouses, potential marriage partners, or significant others...they can very well be best friends, siblings, cousins, co-workers, colleagues, etc.

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I don't think most people marry their soul mates. But if you are fortunate enough to meet your soul mate early, it may make it easier for you to be in a long term loving relationship or marriage.
 
yeah my soulmates are my friends. they hold me down and truly love me unconditionally (i have not always been the greatest friend). and its crazy how they are all water signs and i'm a fire sign. they extinguish my flames when i need it. it definitely how samantha said in sex in the city (the girls were each others soulmates)

not sure if i will ever find my life partner. and thats more because i need to be more open to accepting healthy love.
 
Not everyone is meant to meet a soulmate in this life.

Not everyone is open to meet a soulmate.

I don't know if my SO is my soulmate, but it feels like it. I know that I laughed so much the first time we spoke, I even questioned myself...why the heck do I laugh so much? Sometimes the soul is happy when we meet someone that we connect with. We may not understand why to begin with.
 
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I don't think most people marry their soul mates. But if you are fortunate enough to meet your soul mate early, it may make it easier for you to be in a long term loving relationship or marriage.
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Agreed. I was just saying this in that soul mate thread a few weeks ago. I believe very few people are married to their soul mate.
 
Interesting perspectives. Some believe people are lucky, some believe in order to attract a soul-mate one has to put out positive energy and some believe not everyone is meant to have a soul-mate. Interesting perspectives and I do appreciate your input. To be honest, I'm not sure how I feel about the whole thing. I do believe some people are just lucky while some are just unlucky. I guess it's just the way the world is meant to be. My experience has been rather interesting as I do not believe I am with my soul-mate but I do feel I met at least two of my soul-mates a long time ago but unfortunately there were both married............and no I didn't have an affair. I met them about 4 years apart and our connection was on point like no other. Both guys told me had they met me years earlier, they'd be married to me.
 
i believe one of my exes was my soulmate. the way we met, the way we clicked, the way one could be thinking something and out of nowhere the other would say it. we just KNEW each other, almost immediately. i knew for a fact that i knew him in a past life. in the end i think the intensity was too much for him. i was ready for that type of connection, it was one i always dreamed of and one i always wanted. he on the other hand.. i dont think he ever did, i mentioned once the intensity of a relationship that i used to have and he said he couldn't handle something like that. so it's no surprise that when our rlshp began to become that intense he couldnt deal with it. in the end, i learned that just because you meet your soulmate doesn't mean you're going to end up with them. not everyone is ready for that type of connection.
 
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I've learned that your soul mate(s) aren't neccesarily meant for you marry. I believe G-d bring people in your life for various purposes and life lessons that you wouldn't learn otherwise. Anybody read that book Between Lovers? Nick and Nicole were soul mates but they both ended up marrying other people. Seems as though G-d brought them together to teach them how love unconditionally thus preparing them to better mates for the people they did end up marrying. I've found my soul mate but unfortunately he's not the man G-d's picked out for me to marry. Sucks but those are the breaks.
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Same here. The love is real, and VERY strong but we found each other too late. After 2 years, it's really starting to hit me that it just wasn't meant to be, not on that level.
 
The soulmate theory is confusing to me and that's why I don't believe in it for the most part. Or maybe I don't understand what a soulmate really is. I mean, if only one person is supposed to be a soulmate, shouldn't you end up with them no matter what?

I think several people can be a soulmate to any one person. As long as you love each other, they treat you well, make you happy and have the same principles, values and goals.
 
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The soulmate theory is confusing to me and that's why I don't believe in it for the most part. Or maybe I don't understand what a soulmate really is. I mean, if only one person is supposed to be a soulmate, shouldn't you end up with them no matter what?

I think several people can be a soulmate to any one person. As long as you love each other, they treat you well, make you happy and have the same principles, values and goals.
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This statement assumes that your soulmate is going to be the opposite sex as you which is not always the case. And in the event your soulmate is the opposite sex of you, that doesn't necessarily mean that you are supposed to be involved in a romantic relationship with them.

I think your first sentence in the second part happens more often than people think. You can have a deep soulmate connection with more than one person at various points in your life. Also, all your soulmates may not be in your life at the same time.
 
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