who to stop caring what others think about me

[Plenty]

who to stop caring what others think about me?

I am consumed with how people feel, think, and act toward me

this is serverly compromising my happiness

I know that this is not normal

I want to be one of those people who are happy going and not seem to have came in the world

or not afraid to be themselfs

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[foxybrownsugar]

You Know What I Dont Know How Old You Are But I Imagine That You Younger Than 25. When I Was Really Young It Bothered Me Too I Was Always Felt Self Conscience About What Others Thought Of Me. I Had An Older Friend Who Told Me Once I Reached 25-30 Something Happens To Most Women. Its Like You Dont Give A Dayum Anymore And You Will Speak Your Mind. And My Friend Was Right. I Dont Need Anyone To Think For Me And One Day The Same Will Happen For You Esp If You Are A Follower And Not So Much Of A Leader. In Other Words, You Get Sick And Tired Of Other Peoples Bs.you Sound Like A Tendered Hearted Person. Anyway My Sis Is The Opposite That ***** Has Never Cared What People Thought Of Her. She Just Brushes It Off.you Will Find There Are People Doing Way Worst Things Than You Are Doing, So They Cant Judge. Well Im Finished My Sermon. Hth

 

[star]

The devil knows your area of weakness and he has went after it and trust me he will keep it going. You can only combat a weakness with Jesus. You must and I say must seek God about your self-image. Once you fall in love with who God made you then you will set free from this bondage. You are a designers original God does not make any junk. Seek after books and information to help build up your self-worth. In stay in God's face through prayer asking Him to build you up where you are weak. Pray for the people who hurt you and ask God to surround you with positive people.

 

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[Plenty]

thank you so much

 

[shunemite]

Good post. I'm over 25 (26) and even though my self-consciousness is not as bad as it was before, it still exists. What's helped me as the years went by is knowing that it's okay not to pease everybody, and it's okay if people don't like you. If you think about it, Jesus was PERFECT; how many people liked him? Not many! I can't think of a verse right now since it's late but if I find one I'll post it.

I still admire people that don't care about other people's opinions AT ALL, like my best friend. But I try to remind myself that you can't read people's minds, and pleasing God is better than pleasing man.

The Purpose Driven Life talks about this if you haven't read it yet.

 

[BMoreFlyy]

I am 22. I say that I care about what others think and their feelings, but I haven't been able to prove that to anyone, not even myself. The way I look at it, you have to keep you in good health. Which means your happiness. There will always be someone or something to try and make you feel bad about who you are and what you do, but don't get caught in the hype. Some affirmations I'll share with you:

I give myself permission to do what I know is best for me.
I give myself permission to not care what others think.

 

[BabeinChrist]

This is an issue that has been haunting me for about as long as I can remember and I still haven't reconciled it yet. It's something I want to desperately leave behind. I'm reading up on this and have found a lot of encouraging information but in the end I think that God will be the one to help me overcome. It's not that I haven't been praying about this for a long time either, because I have. At this point I have simply resolved to let things be. I can't make God heal me for past hurts--It will only come in time. Just want to let you know that you are not alone in your endeavors!

 

[Honeyhips]

This is an issue that has been haunting me for about as long as I can remember and I still haven't reconciled it yet. It's something I want to desperately leave behind. I'm reading up on this and have found a lot of encouraging information but in the end I think that God will be the one to help me overcome. It's not that I haven't been praying about this for a long time either, because I have. At this point I have simply resolved to let things be. I can't make God heal me for past hurts--It will only come in time. Just want to let you know that you are not alone in your endeavors!

This bothers me for some reason, it sounds like you have given up. Or you don't know how truly powerful God is. Please know I'm not trying to condemn you, your statement just made me sad.
You don't have to make God heal you, he wants to. All you have to do is ask. Because Jesus died on the cross you have every right to ask him to do so. YOu He might have alreayd healed you and you are holding on to the past hurts. I'm going to dig around for some scriptures for you and come back.

 

[Iluvsmuhgrass]

In my honest opinion... you're sensitive. And there's nothing wrong with that as long as you keep it healthy. Girl I've been there, done that, burnt the t-shirt and matching thong. Someone will ALWAYS have something negative to say. I'm 30. I'll be 31 in December and it amazes me how catty some women can be. Even ones hiding behind the veils of God and sisterhood. I'm not talking about anyone here, just speaking from experience. When your heart is wounded it takes time to heal. My views differ because I'm a firm believer in free will. You can take things to God but ultimately it's YOUR decision whether to hold on or let go. Take your time to heal properly, be honest with yourself as to why it bothers you so. Took me years to get over the damage that jealous heffas dished out.... but I'm a better person. The Almighty is so good. I was SHOWN just how much I had grown.... and THAT'S power. Other people can talk until they're blue in the face but until you have that epiphany, they're just words of wisdom to be gleaned. Best wishes to you. Find your worth. Know what you do and don't deserve. Please your Creator and later for everyone else.

 

[BabeinChrist]

This bothers me for some reason, it sounds like you have given up. Or you don't know how truly powerful God is. Please know I'm not trying to condemn you, your statement just made me sad.
You don't have to make God heal you, he wants to. All you have to do is ask. Because Jesus died on the cross you have every right to ask him to do so. YOu He might have alreayd healed you and you are holding on to the past hurts. I'm going to dig around for some scriptures for you and come back.

That would be much appreciated. At times I do feel very discouraged because I can't get past my issues. It seems as if I have all of the ingredients to bake the cake (the eggs, flour, sugar, even a hot, pre-heated oven, etc.) but not the recipe. So I understand intellectually that I have Jesus and the promises of the Father but I don't know how to digest them (hence the moniker, BabeinChrist); I don't know how to give up the past, yet, that's what I long for. I've been attempting this for years now and I keep coming back. Needless to say, I become frustrated and discouraged because I would like to move on.

I feel better now, however. When I wrote that I was at a low point.

 

[Honeyhips]

That would be much appreciated.

I feel better now, however. When I wrote that I was at a low point.

I was busy today and will be tomorrow, but I will come back to you. I so understand low points. At one point it seemed like I was going through highs and lows daily.

 

[czyfaith77]

You Are Somebody ​

(Based on Genesis 1:27 in WTAL- Bishop T.D. Jakes)

"So God created man in His own image;in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them.


God looked out across eternity. He saw you. He saw everything He had created and everything He would create around you . He saw the specific need on this earth that would make you to meet. He saw the full set of traits and abilities that you would need in order to complete His purpose for your life. He knew what kind of environment that would be necessary for you to properly develop the gifts He would give you.

God looked...and then He created. He created you. You! And looked at you and said, "This is good."

Do you have the same opinion of yourself? Do you agree with God's opinion of you? It is important that you appreciate the way God created you because other people are going to treat you the way you treat yourself. They will respect you only to the degree that you respect yourself.

If you are attracting people who don't treat you well, I'm sorry but you are the prime suspect in that case. What kind of message are you sending that allows them to treat you poorly?

In order for people to treat you well, there must be something deep inside of you that sends out a signal saying, "I am somebody because God made me to be somebody. I may not be twenty-one and wear a size seven. I may be seventy-one and wear a size twenty-seven. But I am somebody." When you send out a signal like that, other people pick up on it.

There's something your spirit exudes that gives you presence with others. There's a quality of inner strength that makes you attractive. It causes other people to recognize you, to pay attention to you, to ask when you walk into a room, "Who is she?" They won't be asking because your dress is so stunning, but because your character is so magnetic. Projecting that kind of strength is not arrogance or pride. It is healthy self-esteem and the power of God's spirit within you.

The way you appreciate yourself impacts everything you do. It affects the way you sit in a classroom, or apply for a job, or talk to people at a social function, or go about the ministry God has called you to undertake. It even affects the way you pray and the way you study God's Word. If you think that you are nobody with no future and no value, you are going to pray with less power and suspect that the promises of God are for everybody else but you.

God wants you to appreciate who He has made you to be and to develop what He gave you. He doesn't want you to try to exchange what He gave you for what He gave someone else. You are a unique blend of talents and giftings and character, and you have a unique destiny upon this earth. You are somebody!

And Plenty don't you ever forget that. Know your worth girl, you're priceless! Much love...

 

[Plenty]

Thank you so much czyfaith77

This is a beautiful message, thank you for bring this to my attention.

I am printing this up right now!

You are so encouraging

 

[czyfaith77]

Thank you so much czyfaith77

This is a beautiful message, thank you for bring this to my attention.

I am printing this up right now!

You are so encouraging

No prob. Just keep your head up. I pm'ed you