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Who or what has been your biggest support in your journal to natural hair?
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crazydaze911
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unfortunately no one IRL. This board has been more supportive than anyone in my life when it comes to transitioning. Pple had nothing to say except 'arent u gonna do ur hair'?
But now that my hair is past BSL, pple are paying attention and asking me for advice. When i tell them no longer relaxing was the major thing that lead me to retain length - i get that 'well u have good hair' excuse but they cant transition with their type....blah, blah, blah
But now that my hair is past BSL, pple are paying attention and asking me for advice. When i tell them no longer relaxing was the major thing that lead me to retain length - i get that 'well u have good hair' excuse but they cant transition with their type....blah, blah, blah
PPGbubbles
Well-Known Member
This board is the only support I have. Most of the ppl around me dont understand why my hair always hidden.
My mother thinks im crazy because I I wash my hair and care for it like a "white girl".
The only time I get compliments is when I straighted my hair and I dont do that often usually just to trim. And thats discouraging because I feel like all the ppl around me must think I look a hot mess every other day.
Honestly if it wasnt for this forum I would probably go back to the press and curl every 2 weeks at the shop because that would be the only way I would feel like my hair was fly) :/
My mother thinks im crazy because I I wash my hair and care for it like a "white girl".
The only time I get compliments is when I straighted my hair and I dont do that often usually just to trim. And thats discouraging because I feel like all the ppl around me must think I look a hot mess every other day.
Honestly if it wasnt for this forum I would probably go back to the press and curl every 2 weeks at the shop because that would be the only way I would feel like my hair was fly) :/
KrystalClear
New Member
hair care forums and my mom!
BlackMasterPiece
Well-Known Member
Well I've been natural going on 5 years now and only joined the boards like 2 months ago so I had to teach myself most of what I know. My mom was probably one of my biggest inspirations and supports seeing her be natural all my life showed me the beauty in it and I no longer wanted to continue to put harsh chemicals in my hair I felt my hair would thrive the most in its natural state and I was right.
I'm also blessed to live in a very pro-natural city, the friends I surround myself with are all encouraging and love it they compliment me on it all the time.
But really, its been the fact that I was determined, that I was always trying to find solutions, when I ran into an issue or obstacle with my hair, I said to myself I need to change up my products or technique rather then blaming it on my hair. Being solutions oriented and being dedicated to embracing the real me were two of the biggest factors
I'm also blessed to live in a very pro-natural city, the friends I surround myself with are all encouraging and love it they compliment me on it all the time.
But really, its been the fact that I was determined, that I was always trying to find solutions, when I ran into an issue or obstacle with my hair, I said to myself I need to change up my products or technique rather then blaming it on my hair. Being solutions oriented and being dedicated to embracing the real me were two of the biggest factors
dymondgurl
New Member
My family supported me from Day 1,when I decided to cut off all my relaxed hair. My ex-boyfriend was my biggest cheerleader.On the days I felt less than fly,he was the good angel onmy shoulder.
LHCF..I joined the board as a relaxed head and one of my stretches turned into my natural journey. There were countless women,whose own courage enabled me to be bold enough to chop off all my relaxed hair. I've lurked for a longtime and alot of YOU wonderful ladies in this thread.Also insipired me to keep going and growing.
LHCF..I joined the board as a relaxed head and one of my stretches turned into my natural journey. There were countless women,whose own courage enabled me to be bold enough to chop off all my relaxed hair. I've lurked for a longtime and alot of YOU wonderful ladies in this thread.Also insipired me to keep going and growing.
JayAnn0513
I make 30 look good!
my mom and sister! We all transitioned together! I'm the only one still transitioning. They both already BC'd. My sister after 18+ months and my mom after 12. I'm still hanging in there for a 2 yr transition but I'm getting weak and wanna cut so I can do WNG's.
BlkOnyx488
Well-Known Member
My Hubby, he watches me slap one concoction after another in my hair in the pursuit of getting it long, and he never makes me feel weird or unsexy, especially when I am coming to bed with some of the craziest things tied to my head.
He let's me talk non stop about my hair issues
and most importantly he has never cut off my money supply LOL.
Most importantly when I decided to go natural, he totally had my back, even when my mother was calling my names for going natural, He told me I am beautiful no matter what and the he loves my natural hair!
He let's me talk non stop about my hair issues
and most importantly he has never cut off my money supply LOL.
Most importantly when I decided to go natural, he totally had my back, even when my mother was calling my names for going natural, He told me I am beautiful no matter what and the he loves my natural hair!
UrbainChic
Well-Known Member
Hi Everyone, I'm a long time lurker, I finally decided to subscribe and emerge!
For me, its really just sheer laziness, and my career. I spend a lot of time traveling and going to remote places in developing countries, and its hard to keep a fresh perm or blowout when you are riding in a canoe in the jungles Southeast Asia. Its so much easier to just work with my hair than against it.
The way I knew the difference in effort required was that I didn't get a relaxer until my Freshman year of high school, and had a huge bushel of hair --nearly waist length.
By the summer before I started college, I realized I was just too damn lazy to keep up the work, and since I am one of these people who can barely part my own hair, I realized it would cost a lot of money on my own to keep going to the salon. Then I BC'd twice in college, (after brief relaxer relapses) and once more last year.
The ease is what does it for me. Overall, I've spent only about 5 years of my life relaxed, and it was too much time effort and money!
Also the compliments I get. I swear to God, my life is 100 times better when my hair is nappy. Its probably psychological, but everything goes right. Its like the story of samson and delilah, except its not cutting the hair that makes me lose my powers, but relaxing it! Straight hair is fun once in a while, but I really feel like my personality shines through when my hair is big and wild.
For me, its really just sheer laziness, and my career. I spend a lot of time traveling and going to remote places in developing countries, and its hard to keep a fresh perm or blowout when you are riding in a canoe in the jungles Southeast Asia. Its so much easier to just work with my hair than against it.
The way I knew the difference in effort required was that I didn't get a relaxer until my Freshman year of high school, and had a huge bushel of hair --nearly waist length.
By the summer before I started college, I realized I was just too damn lazy to keep up the work, and since I am one of these people who can barely part my own hair, I realized it would cost a lot of money on my own to keep going to the salon. Then I BC'd twice in college, (after brief relaxer relapses) and once more last year.
The ease is what does it for me. Overall, I've spent only about 5 years of my life relaxed, and it was too much time effort and money!
Also the compliments I get. I swear to God, my life is 100 times better when my hair is nappy. Its probably psychological, but everything goes right. Its like the story of samson and delilah, except its not cutting the hair that makes me lose my powers, but relaxing it! Straight hair is fun once in a while, but I really feel like my personality shines through when my hair is big and wild.
Trini_Chutney
Peeing in my shower
My hubby has been my greatest support. When I told him that I was thinking of going natural he told me to go for it, he's been wonderful. My mom is also very encouraging, she's a natural (formerly dreads).
caligirl2385
New Member
Your natural hair is soooo pretty. I luv it!
As for me, my DH has been my biggest support. I've been wanting to transition for years but never followed through. Hubby encouraged me to just do it- I'm currently 6months post and can't wait to be 100% natural
Anew
New Member
I am my biggest supporter. No one understands why I do what I do. People keep telling me how I need to wear my hair down, its getting longer and I'm crazy for hiding it. They laugh at my explanations for protecting my hair or when I tell them my wash routine. They say its too much, or it doesn't take all of that to grow or that they know a woman with hair down her back and she wears it down every day.
You ladies keep me inspired. I have been at this off and on since 2006 and I'm finally staying on track with real process. Now that I'm APL I do not see myself falling off again, I really wanna see Full BSL.
You ladies keep me inspired. I have been at this off and on since 2006 and I'm finally staying on track with real process. Now that I'm APL I do not see myself falling off again, I really wanna see Full BSL.
MummysGirl
New Member
IRL - My friend who was natural for a little over a year (who then curly permed earlier this year). She's always saying the right things - my hair looks pretty, she loves my hairstyles, she can't wait to see me all natural, etc.
My sister is slowly warming up to it... she saw my 'Story of Transition' on curlynikki.com yesterday and she sent the link to 5 of her friends within minutes of me sending to her
Soooooo many people on this board! I have learned, and am still learning, A LOT since I finally paid for membership in February. I've been inspired by soooo many transition stories, BCs and naturals...
My sister is slowly warming up to it... she saw my 'Story of Transition' on curlynikki.com yesterday and she sent the link to 5 of her friends within minutes of me sending to her
Soooooo many people on this board! I have learned, and am still learning, A LOT since I finally paid for membership in February. I've been inspired by soooo many transition stories, BCs and naturals...
Supervixen
Well-Known Member
Lots of my friends are natural or transitioning, so they were helpful. Of the main two, one is a pressed natural and the other is a 4b no product/no chemical/never straighten natural--two different sides of the same story! I like both styles on me, so I listen to both of them.
My last hair stylists started going natural around the same time I did, so she was VERY helpful at the beginning. I stopped goign to her b/c my BFF started doing hair...she's a natural too (the straight natural mentioned above).
I used to be a member of BHM and BBBH YEARS and YEARS ago, and I still talk hair with one former member from those boards. She went natural around 2004, and has been a HUGE help. After my BC, she convinced me that hair didn't make my femininity. She also told me that you have to wait awhile after the BC to try a wash n go because your texture has to set. That first wash n go after my BC was HORRIBLE. Now, I really like them!
Like Foufie says, Mr. Cyd tries, but he isn't capable of handling the emotional highs and lows I used to go through (until about 2 weeks ago). When I BC'd he freaked--how I could cut my own hair and then be sad and crying about it. Looking back it's funny, but at the time I was in turmoil.
My last hair stylists started going natural around the same time I did, so she was VERY helpful at the beginning. I stopped goign to her b/c my BFF started doing hair...she's a natural too (the straight natural mentioned above).
I used to be a member of BHM and BBBH YEARS and YEARS ago, and I still talk hair with one former member from those boards. She went natural around 2004, and has been a HUGE help. After my BC, she convinced me that hair didn't make my femininity. She also told me that you have to wait awhile after the BC to try a wash n go because your texture has to set. That first wash n go after my BC was HORRIBLE. Now, I really like them!
Like Foufie says, Mr. Cyd tries, but he isn't capable of handling the emotional highs and lows I used to go through (until about 2 weeks ago). When I BC'd he freaked--how I could cut my own hair and then be sad and crying about it. Looking back it's funny, but at the time I was in turmoil.
**SaSSy**
3rd Big Chop on 7/18/2016
When I was natural no one supported me, actually what's strange is the black I knew asked me why am I doing this. Ask me all tpyes of stupid questions such as why would you cut all of your beautiful (relaxed) hair? It looked so pretty. Then as the longer my "fro" got, people actually started thinking I was spanish. Smh, but I would go back to being natural in a heartbeat.
Southernbella.
Well-Known Member
This board.
My hubby. He always hated weaves and relaxers. So when I told him I wanted to go natural he was very happy and supportive. He tells me how great I look even when I think my hair looks nuts. My family has not been ot supportiive they wish I would straighten my hair or braid it until I have more legnth.
purplepeace79
New Member
All but one of my friends if natural and I've finally convinced her to at least transition. We all support each other. I also find that, in making new friends, I've noticed that I'm drawn more to women with natural hair and men who love and appreciate it.
Aside from my latina friends, I've been natural the longest, but we all bounce off ideas and products, hits and misses, etc. I both inspired one of my sistas to loc her hair, and then comb them out 3 years later lol. We love getting together and the compliments we get as a group for our diverse hairstyles.
My stbxh loves my hair and hates when I straighten it. He's a huge supporter of natural hair as well.
Aside from my latina friends, I've been natural the longest, but we all bounce off ideas and products, hits and misses, etc. I both inspired one of my sistas to loc her hair, and then comb them out 3 years later lol. We love getting together and the compliments we get as a group for our diverse hairstyles.
My stbxh loves my hair and hates when I straighten it. He's a huge supporter of natural hair as well.
purplepeace79
New Member
LunadeMiel
Well-Known Member
I have been my biggest supporter (the board has helped too). I think my hair is the ish so I couldn't fathom changing it.
TaraDyan
Natural again ... this time for good!
Go on, girl. Do your thang!
As for me, this board and my sister have been my biggest supporters and inspirations. Oh ... and me too, of course.
*~*Afrolicious*~*
Well-Known Member
Myself. I didn't need any support going natural.
Diva_Esq
New Member
I figure growing hair is a one day at a time business, much like what I imagine Alcoholics Anonymous to be. So, I found myself a hair sponsor.My b/f is my hair sponsor. Whenever I feel like cutting, I tell him and he talks me down
You'd better not cut that beautiful hair!
Sounds like my hubby!
Go on wit ya bad self!
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