BronzyBella
Well-Known Member
Hi everyone,
I've been casually seeing someone for several months now. We kind of have a history together, meaning he's my ex from YEARS ago (please hold your boos and hisses til the end. LOL)
Anyway, we've somewhat settled into a routine where we're doing the same things over and over like an old couple. He'll always make time for me but all we do is chill (watch TV or movies) or hit up the mall/grocery store.
He identifies as single and so do I. We are in no way a couple/committed to each other.
I love him to death. He's sweet, easygoing, sensitive, funny, etc. I'm just tired of things being so casual (we aren't even close enough to talk on the phone daily/every other day ). I'm also somewhat bored w/ the level of routine we've settled into. Lastly, it hurts me to know he's sleeping with and flirting with other women.
Basically, I want to talk about these feelings without scaring him off/putting him on the defensive. I can't see myself doing this for the long run and feel like if he won't express his core feelings for me/work on being closer (IF he even wants that) that I don't want to spend time with him anymore.
How do you start the "How do you feel about me?" "How do you see us?" "Where are we going?" conversation? Is this type of conversation even appropriate?
I've been casually seeing someone for several months now. We kind of have a history together, meaning he's my ex from YEARS ago (please hold your boos and hisses til the end. LOL)
Anyway, we've somewhat settled into a routine where we're doing the same things over and over like an old couple. He'll always make time for me but all we do is chill (watch TV or movies) or hit up the mall/grocery store.
He identifies as single and so do I. We are in no way a couple/committed to each other.
I love him to death. He's sweet, easygoing, sensitive, funny, etc. I'm just tired of things being so casual (we aren't even close enough to talk on the phone daily/every other day ). I'm also somewhat bored w/ the level of routine we've settled into. Lastly, it hurts me to know he's sleeping with and flirting with other women.
Basically, I want to talk about these feelings without scaring him off/putting him on the defensive. I can't see myself doing this for the long run and feel like if he won't express his core feelings for me/work on being closer (IF he even wants that) that I don't want to spend time with him anymore.
How do you start the "How do you feel about me?" "How do you see us?" "Where are we going?" conversation? Is this type of conversation even appropriate?