When the Ex bashes you

I'd laugh and hang up on him (or erase the message). Wouldn't give him the satisfaction of a reply. Then proceed to block his messages & keep living my life.
 
I would tell him he can go straight to hell and not to ever contact me again, then go about my business.
 
I don't understand why a person would call if they despised you so much. Sounds like a nutcase, I would just hang up and block his calls. I stay clear of folks I despised.

Also sounds like drunk and dialing.
 
ThickHair said:
I don't understand why a person would call if they despised you so much. Sounds like a nutcase, I would just hang up and block his calls. I stay clear of folks I despised.

Also sounds like drunk and dialing.
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He called. I hung up and then proceeded to send a serious mean spirited text messages.
 
Is he seeing a therapist? I ask because part of therapy involves drudging up past pains and when that happens the pain is as fresh as the day it happened. I went through a period, briefly, of simply avoiding certain people when I saw a therapist. I wrote things I would have loved to do and say to them in a journal.
 
It sounds like his life isn't going well for him so he decided to call and pick a fight with you to make himself feel better. Very stupid and immature of him to do that. He probably realizes that he made a mistake by letting you go. The next time he calls, don't even bother to answer. Save any voicemail and text messages that he sends. If he continues to harass you, call the police.
 
Yemaya said:
He called. I hung up and then proceeded to send a serious mean spirited text messages.
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That's what he wants you to do.... get a rise out of you, transfer his anger/hurt/whatever feelings to you to make himself feel better. When you react in any type of way, it shows you care and that he affected your feelings in some type of way. Don't give him the power! Like others said, block/ignore him.
 
I agree with everyone else. DO NOT give him the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you. Completely ignore him.
 
I meant after I hung up, He then proceeded to send a serious of nasty text messages. I saved them as a reminder. He has since then apologized after I unfortunately went off on him.
 
Yemaya said:
I meant after I hung up, He then proceeded to send a serious of nasty text messages. I saved them as a reminder. He has since then apologized after I unfortunately went off on him.
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What is the purpose of his apology? He just wants to keep in touch with you.
 
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ThickHair said:
What is the purpose of his apology? He just wants to keep in touch with you.
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i dont know. He says that he is committed and engaged to another woman. So I am just confused. I understand he is hurt and so am I. He blames me and says I did all these hurtful things to him.
We did not work out but there is no reason to trash our memories and disrespect my character.
 
Yemaya said:
i dont know. He says that he is committed and engaged to another woman. So I am just confused. I understand he is hurt and so am I. He blames me and says I did all these hurtful things to him.
We did not work out but there is no reason to trash our memories and disrespect my character.
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Yemaya , you let him get that far into conversation with you? I am not trying to be snarky, but I am just in awe\shocked that you actually entertained a conversation with this dude.
 
ThickHair, that's just what happens when you care about someone.

"I'm sorry you feel this way. Thanks for the feedback."
That should really shut him up (a semblance of an apology from you, indifference in wanting to discuss it further. He'll have no choice but to withdraw).
 
Yemaya said:
All texts.
Read too many of his texts :nono:
I dont know how to block them.
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I have learned to avoid a train wreck when I see it coming. I would have never read those texts. Protect your psyche. If you see anger from another is about to unfold, avoid them. That way it has no way of entering your spirit. Like others have said, block him, change your number, ignore.
 
Yemaya said:
i dont know. He says that he is committed and engaged to another woman. So I am just confused. I understand he is hurt and so am I. He blames me and says I did all these hurtful things to him.
We did not work out but there is no reason to trash our memories and disrespect my character.
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From the bolded, please leave him alone as in do not respond to anymore of his text messages. Of course you are going to be confused if you keep reading all the BS that he is sending you. Don't let your feelings or emotions sink deeper into his crap. This is ridiculous. If he doesn't cherish the memories that he has had with you, you cannot force him to care. Just don't internalize his disrespect. He is only one person. He maybe trying to give himself more reason to get over you so he can start his new life with the other woman now. Let him be.
 
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