What's the difference

Settling: I want a man who loves me and only me but I settle for a cheater.
Compromise: He wants Chinese, I want Mexican. He get his way this week, I get mine next week.
Settling: I want to earn a Master's degree, he wants me to stay home and have kids. Settling is me giving up my dreams to keep him.
Compromise: I want to move to another city. He wants to stay put. We compromise and move across town to a new place we both love.
Settling hurts because you are giving up a dream and/or a piece of yourself. Compromise is give and take. Compromise is inevitable and part of being in a relationship.
 
Settling to me is giving in to something you know you don't want and know you won't be happy with but you allow it anyway because you are scared you can't do anything better.

Compromising is when you have a selfish preference that you don't really NEED and it makes more sense/avoids unnecessary conflict to bend to other suggestions or actions.
 
I always thought settling referred to decision making about who you are willing to be in a relationship with, and compromising referred to decision making about issues within a relationship. I have never used the word 'compromise' in reference to a person, only when speaking of conflicts or disagreements with that person. *shrugs*
 
Daeuiel said:
I always thought settling referred to decision making about who you are willing to be in a relationship with, and compromising referred to decision making about issues within a relationship. I have never used the word 'compromise' in reference to a person, only when speaking of conflicts or disagreements with that person. *shrugs*
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I wonder if she means what's the difference between settling and lowering your standards???
 
Hairsnob said:
I wonder if she means what's the difference between settling and lowering your standards???
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Maybe I'm too idealistic, but unless you are determined to marry royalty when you yourself(not the OP, just the general 'you') only have a 4th grade education and look like you've never heard of a dentist (very extreme example but you get what I'm saying) I don't really agree with settling OR lowering your standards :lol: Unless your standards are ridiculously high, or you're not as intelligent, hard working and attractive as the man you want to be with. :look:

I don't really understand the point of the question :spinning: Help me out OP?
 
Settling-dating a kang so you can say you have a piece of dick at home
compromising-he is intelligent,loving,generous but can't dress but you date him anyway-to me compromising is going the half way point on something you want.I find one has to really be able to assess things in order to know the difference.
 
Daeuiel said:
Maybe I'm too idealistic, but unless you are determined to marry royalty when you yourself(not the OP, just the general 'you') only have a 4th grade education and look like you've never heard of a dentist (very extreme example but you get what I'm saying) I don't really agree with settling OR lowering your standards :lol: Unless your standards are ridiculously high, or you're not as intelligent, hard working and attractive as the man you want to be with. :look:

I don't really understand the point of the question :spinning: Help me out OP?
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I understood her post because of the other thread she posted in this forum. If you read it I think you will understand why she posted this thread. Otherwise I understand your confusion.
 
To me, compromising will not leave me bitter or angry or regretful. Compromising is just making sure that we both get a little of what we want.

Settling will do all those things...
 
Settling to me is more about choosing a man who is just not what you want. You're not attracted to him, he behaves badly, treats you badly, or tries to change who you are but you're afraid this is as good as it gets and you'd rather be with anyone then no one.
 
Compromising involves both people sacrificing for the greater good so they can both receive something in return. Settling involves one person abandoning their values with only the other person benefiting.
 
Settling is you two disagreeing on something and instead of coming to an agreement about it, you do what he wants or he does what you want just to make you happy or shut up.

Compromising is meeting in the middle about a situation or problem where both of you agree to make changes for the better.
 
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