Mynappturalme
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I get this phone email from my ex sister in law about my exhusband, he pissed her off so she is telling all!
She let's me know that he has graduated from being a smoker of the herb to a powder head. Well, i'm not really surprised. She then tells me how is planning on taking me to court to get custody or visitation rights of our kids. (He has told me "in advance" that this is what he was planning to do and I should get prepared).
Let me give you a short history, we were together on and off from 14-28 married 7yrs and 7mths (the number of completion
). All 7 yrs he was physically, verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive. He cheated as well.
During the last two yrs of our marriage he met this girl and they began seeing each other, I guess she did not know he was married and had kids at first. Eventually he told her he was married and then she found out he had kids, but she continued to see him (no telling what lies he told her on top of that).
Eventually, I finally caught a clue before I caught a case and left him and took me and my children to another state. We have been living happily ever since.
During our divorce proceedings, this girl testified for him and said that they were friends for two yrs and he was a good man and father even though she had only seen him with his kids twice supposedly (first, how are you going to be my husband's friend, a female at that for two years and I have never heard of you). The judge saw through all of this bull.
From the time our divorce was granted, he kept me in court for two yrs straight trying to have child support reduce, showing false documentation, trying to get custody,etc and she was in court with him helping.
Eventually, she had a child by him and decided that since she was pregnant, she couldnt show up in court but would help him at all cost.
If I talk to him re: our children, school, clothes etc. that's it. She is in the background crying. He has admitted and ex sis in law and other family members have confirmed that he tells her he is getting me and the kids back and he does not love her and that she is just rebound. He has been beating her and put her through the same type of abuse that I went through if not worse.
Well, he bought another house and will not put her name on the deed, says it's for me and the kids. Told her he would only marry her so that it would look good to the courts so that he can take my kids away from me, She is willing to do this so that they can be married, even though she is going through hell.
My ex-sis in law asked me if I could talk some sense into her so that she would leave before she gets killed. She gave me the girls number. Now, I am currently going to school (psych) to work with women in this situation.
Part of me wants to talk with her to help her, as I know what type of low self esteem she obviously has and what her mental state must be and I feel for the child. The other part of me says, why should I, she said she wanted to be me, now deal with it, she knew what she was getting into, she was at the court hearing, the proof is in public records, and everyone has tried to talk to her and she still remains, scared or not. She knows this man is dangerous, but she is willing to keep her child in this situation and doesn't not mind if my children are put back in harms way (even though I know he would not win and they are now old enough to speak up for themselves) knowing he does not have their best interest at heart.
Please tell me ladies what would you do?
She let's me know that he has graduated from being a smoker of the herb to a powder head. Well, i'm not really surprised. She then tells me how is planning on taking me to court to get custody or visitation rights of our kids. (He has told me "in advance" that this is what he was planning to do and I should get prepared).
Let me give you a short history, we were together on and off from 14-28 married 7yrs and 7mths (the number of completion
). All 7 yrs he was physically, verbally, emotionally, and mentally abusive. He cheated as well.During the last two yrs of our marriage he met this girl and they began seeing each other, I guess she did not know he was married and had kids at first. Eventually he told her he was married and then she found out he had kids, but she continued to see him (no telling what lies he told her on top of that).
Eventually, I finally caught a clue before I caught a case and left him and took me and my children to another state. We have been living happily ever since.
During our divorce proceedings, this girl testified for him and said that they were friends for two yrs and he was a good man and father even though she had only seen him with his kids twice supposedly (first, how are you going to be my husband's friend, a female at that for two years and I have never heard of you). The judge saw through all of this bull.
From the time our divorce was granted, he kept me in court for two yrs straight trying to have child support reduce, showing false documentation, trying to get custody,etc and she was in court with him helping.
Eventually, she had a child by him and decided that since she was pregnant, she couldnt show up in court but would help him at all cost.
If I talk to him re: our children, school, clothes etc. that's it. She is in the background crying. He has admitted and ex sis in law and other family members have confirmed that he tells her he is getting me and the kids back and he does not love her and that she is just rebound. He has been beating her and put her through the same type of abuse that I went through if not worse.
Well, he bought another house and will not put her name on the deed, says it's for me and the kids. Told her he would only marry her so that it would look good to the courts so that he can take my kids away from me, She is willing to do this so that they can be married, even though she is going through hell.
My ex-sis in law asked me if I could talk some sense into her so that she would leave before she gets killed. She gave me the girls number. Now, I am currently going to school (psych) to work with women in this situation.
Part of me wants to talk with her to help her, as I know what type of low self esteem she obviously has and what her mental state must be and I feel for the child. The other part of me says, why should I, she said she wanted to be me, now deal with it, she knew what she was getting into, she was at the court hearing, the proof is in public records, and everyone has tried to talk to her and she still remains, scared or not. She knows this man is dangerous, but she is willing to keep her child in this situation and doesn't not mind if my children are put back in harms way (even though I know he would not win and they are now old enough to speak up for themselves) knowing he does not have their best interest at heart.
Please tell me ladies what would you do?
Honestly, that was my first thought! Now, I know Karma is kicking her butt, but when is he gonna get it.
