Background check. I used to have a list that a male friend asked me to create and i no longer have it but from the top of my head:
-come from a good family
-not a liar(even little white lies)
-nice teeth and hands
-a certain amount of money in the bank and pretty much perfect credit(i have access to this)
-no criminal records
-no children as i don't have any
-loves my dog lol
-introverted (very very important. pretty much the opposite of what i am)
-loves me more than i love him
-in a technical field (IT, engineer etc)
-wants to get married (this was when i decided i wanted to get married)
-no crazy exes and doesn't talk **** about them
-nice and respectful to waitstaff and not an a*hole to people generally
-great in bed and puts my needs first sexually
-respected my wishes about wanting kids
-same political views
-not controlling i.e. doesn't care how much i spend or what i spend it on whether it's my money or his
-doesn't let me walk all over him
-indulges me and also lets me know when to cut it out when i throw tantrums
-came from an intact home (parents or step parents still together and love/respect each other)
-driven
-no drugs
-open minded to other cultures/experiences
-not pretentious or superficial
-believes in God or Allah(same thing) and not an extremist or in a cult
-isnt a spendthrift. i believe relationships cant have 2 spenders.
-is not a general creep (pedo or any other sort of weirdo)
i would say DH met 98% of my wants
my dates were pretty much interviews and my DH still makes fun of me till this day but dating to marry is serious business.