What is your reason????

APrayer4Hair

APrayer4Hair

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Ok so my inquiring mind (read: nosey) wants to know

What is your reason for being relaxed, natural, texlaxed, loc'ed, etc?

I BC'ed almost 2 months ago because my relaxed hair was going nowhere :nono: and I decided to try something different?
 
The relaxers and hot dryers damaged my scalp. If I want to have any hair when I'm 60, natural is the best way for me to go. I'm pretty hair lazy anyway, all I want to do is have it long enough to wash and put in a bun on top of my head. That's what i did when I was relaxed and all I really want to do now that I'm natural. :lol:
 
APrayer4Hair said:
Ok so my inquiring mind (read: nosey) wants to know

What is your reason for being relaxed, natural, texlaxed, loc'ed, etc?

I BC'ed almost 2 months ago because my relaxed hair was going nowhere :nono: and I decided to try something different?
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My hair is the longest it's ever been in adulthood but I'm on this long relaxer stretch and I'm thinking I don't want to chemically straighten it again. I want to be 100% before I say I'm transitioning.
 
Laziness and finances. It's cheaper and easier for me to be a natural.

I've recently decided to add color, but it's still cheaper and easier than being relaxed.
 
Being relaxed is much easier for me. I was natural for almost 3 years and it was just too much work for me. It would take 8 hours just to twist my hair.

I have super thick/dense hair and detangling sessions took so long to do, I had lots of SSK's, and breakage. My retention is better being relaxed and length is important to me right now.
 
I like long straight hair. I also prefer straight styles so its easier for me to be relaxed than to always straighten my natural hair. Especially because I work out a lot.
 
It's easier. I've thought about relaxing but I get exhausted just thinking about all the work I'd have to do to look decent. Now if I feel like it I can wash and go and it looks like a hair style. I am not sure I would be able to do that with relaxed hair.
 
I thought it was something to do when you got older, but in reality my hair was almost waist length in the natural state and I thought it would be hard to take care of natural hair, but I see how easy it is and I regret it but o well, I'm on my journey to long relaxed hair :)
 
I am BC'd as of 4/10/12 from APL to nearly a fade. For me, it was the frustration of trying to figure out what my natural hair wanted/needed after moving from MI to AZ. I am thinking of texlaxing (would never purposely relax bone straight because my hair is simply lifeless and too thin) when I decide to grow it out because my coils are tight and even in the best of situations I get lots of SSK and I must be the slowest self hair stylist on earth! After a BC on 9/24/04 (near fade then too) it took me 2 years to get to SL and another 4 to get to APL from SL (can you say slacking/laziness?). It would take me hours to do twists, plaits, cornrows and I rarely ever liked the end results.

This time around with no time between work, school and family (and sudden health issues) I just decided to chop it off and keep it low until I had the time to invest in my hair. After I am done with school and I have worked on my health, then I can dedicate more time/patience with learning about my hair in this environment.
 
I hated being natural. the backhanded comments i got from people combined with how difficult it was to keep it moisturized, clean, and untangled was hell. it seemed to eat conditioner. I had a ton of ssks and i just overall liked the relaxed look better. my hair is also 4a, and has no uniform curl like many of yall. it just looked like a tumbleweed. Regardless, im relaxed now. and thats exactly what i can do now. Relax.
 
I'm still transitioning (only 2-3 inches of relaxed hair left) but every time I had a relaxer, my hair would just break off. Even when I fried my natural hair with color and bleach, it still never broke off like that. Honestly, I wish I never relaxed my hair again last summer and just did a second BC of my colored ends but you live and learn I guess.
 
From being bone-laxed growing up.... To going natural before it was "cool" & staying natural for 8 years... To now being texlaxed... I've found that being texlaxed works best for me. I still have super tick hair, I can enjoy most of my length w/o using heat, and I can actually wash & go. I love having my hair fall on my back after a wash & go.

...And i only have to texlax 3 times a year. Words cannot express how much I love it!!

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being natural was easy at first, until it got passed 6 inches. i couldn't wash and go anymore. i am having fun as a relaxed head right now. if i decide to go back to being natural, i will be loc'ing again.
 
Honestly my momma made me do it.
As an adult I'm now acclimated to my texture and caring for my hair that I don't see a reason to change.

Besides. I have trust issues. I can't fathom having to let someone do my hair with chemicals. I barely trust my momma with with a curling iron, muchless a flat iron lol
 
I am relaxed but sure don;t look it! My hair looks natural but texlaxes from 3c/4a to 3c. Everyone asks me, girl why even bother relaxing? But I do get a curl loosening and softening effect. Less tangles..

It works for me...long before the natural and curly thing were cool, I was a kinky-curly haired girl. So I have my love/hate relationship like most people with curls but I honestly can't imagine my hair without them.
 
I was natural for five years. It was always dry, I was moisturizing two to three times a day. My hair constantly matted and was never completely tangle free, no matter how much conditioner I used. I was waist length, but my hair would shrink to above the shoulder. And the longer it got the more difficult it was to take care off.

So, I telexed in October last year. And touch up every six months. It's made washing so much easier.
 
there are so many reasons lol

I have always wanted to go back natural after my first relaxer (15.)

I did it the first time at 22 and stayed natural for 3 years I think. I relaxed again and the reaction was soo different and I felt inauthentic.. (I know its not that serious for some ppl)

Anyway I am back to natural and I love it. Once i deal with it on my terms and not on anyone elses I am happy.

Sure occassionally I feel like my head is hot mess but then I equate that to the 2 weeks before touch up time any way lol.
Over all I'm happy.. now if fitzy would just hurry up and grow... :)
 
I had my first relaxer when i was 2 years old and had been faithfully relaxed until i decided to try natural at age 20, it was hell!! i couldnt comb my hair, it ate up moisture and started to shed. So now im back to what i know best and what i can handle.
 
I'm natural because I don't like putting those harsh chemicals in my hair. I find my natural hair easy to maintain, I can do it myself, and if I want straight hair I can straighten pretty easily. A relaxer is an unnecessary headache.

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In the begining I stopped relaxing because I have trichotillomania and I didnt want to put a relaxer on the texas sized bald spot that I had. The more research that I did the more I learned about how chemicals are not good for you within that time I also became a faw foodist! But I also dont want to be 65 needing a touch up.
 
I was relaxed for 24yrs, natural for almost 6yrs and now back to relaxed. I really miss my natchal hair but it was high maintenance and I need simplicity. I'm only willing to give my hair 5mins max in the mornings. My natchal fro/puff was beautiful tho, big, thick and red. But once it was past sl, it became something else, (read: alien). So since I was doing a tour in Iraq I decided to make life easier for myself and relax. I'm satisfied for the moment, but I keep trolling natural hair blogs and youtube vids :/
 
I stopped relaxing a year ago bc my relaxed hair wouldn't grow past a certain point! It would break all the time and be so thin looking. It was unhealthy. I think I just really didn't know how to take care of relaxed hair so I went natural. Plus I heard of all the harsh things in relaxers I didn't know about before. With me being natural now I can have the best of both worlds:)
 
I'm natural because I don't like spending my whole Saturday sitting at the dryer station waiting for my stylist to finally finish with all her clients hair so she can get back to finishing my hair. Plus, my hair is fine and did not react well to relaxers. My hair would be thin and flat looking the majority of the time. Now I have big hair that looks thick.
 
I was tired of split ends,dry hard, tangled hair ,i now love curls , waves and everything beyond and between . I think natural hair is healthier .
 
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I'm natural because I ended up only relaxing about every six months anyway. I hated the chemical burns and dry crusty scalp after a relaxer. I just knew that my fine hair would be thicker natural and it is.I'm hair lazy and bunning or wash and goes are perfect for me. I absolutely love my curls and I've learned to love my shrinkage just recently. My hair is almost mbl but shrinks to a large and luscious sl my wash and go is BIG!
 
I was natural for 6 very challenging years. Not because 'everyone else is doing it' but because I was tired of having to rely on an unreliable stylist to do it and because I have 3 different mixtures of natural hair types on my head: 2c,3c & 4a. This made simple wash-n-go styling or curl definition IMPOSSIBLE. Then when I moved to FL in 2010 that humidity declared war on my hair and won. So, I texlaxed to manage my tresses better and more efficiently and I'm loving it.

My hair was growing very healthily while I was natural and it's growing equally as healthily in it's texlaxed state because I know how to take care of it regardless if I'm natural or texlaxed. I dunno if I will be tlxed for the rest of my life but if I do decide to go natural again at least I know what I will have to put up with. Their are pros and cons of both. :yep:
 
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SN: Am I the only one side eyeing folks saying they were natural before it was cool?

Anyway. I was natural before it was cool (heheheee). No but seriously. To me, I only cut because my hairdresser was charging me the price of a full relaxer plus dye and then my barber was charging me to shape up the rest. I had the Cassie shaved sides thing...before it was cool lol. And I dyed the top different colors. I was in high school and paying for my own hair with a small side job. Couldn't afford it. So barber chopped off the relaxed patch and I stated natural for a few years. Then I hit a really broke period where I couldn't go to the barber and ended up letting it grow. Four months in, I relaxed. Now I'm natural cuz my relaxed hair was shedding something crazy
 
kupenda said:
SN: Am I the only one side eyeing folks saying they were natural before it was cool?

Anyway. I was natural before it was cool (heheheee). No but seriously. To me, I only cut because my hairdresser was charging me the price of a full relaxer plus dye and then my barber was charging me to shape up the rest. I had the Cassie shaved sides thing...before it was cool lol. And I dyed the top different colors. I was in high school and paying for my own hair with a small side job. Couldn't afford it. So barber chopped off the relaxed patch and I stated natural for a few years. Then I hit a really broke period where I couldn't go to the barber and ended up letting it grow. Four months in, I relaxed. Now I'm natural cuz my relaxed hair was shedding something crazy
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kupenda I'll take the side eyes. Anyone who was natural before it was popular is used to getting side eyes anyway :lol: Going natural when it wasn't popular was not easy. It's easier to go natural these days and that's a great thing :up:

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