Bunnyhaslonghair
Ebonics Queen
So I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I also don't want to go into too much detail.
There's this family member that sexually abused me as a small child. At about 8-10 years old, several years later, i finally became brave enough to tell my mom. She basically said sorry that happened and says I'll forget about it. She does nothing.
Time goes on and over the years this person doesn't attend close family functions. He however does attend the family reunion every year. Years up into my early 20s I'm forced to go every year to the reunion and see this person and pretend like nothing is wrong! All while feeling panicked, afraid, and anxious inside. All while my mom pretends nothing ever happened and never addresses it. This person even had the evil audacity to try to hug me one year!
I will no longer subject myself to this as an adult. So I don't go to the family reunion. I still go to Xmas and thanksgiving because the abuser does not go.
Every year I don't go, my mom asks me, “why?”. She already knows why. I've explained multiple times why I don't. She acts like she doesn't know each time she asks. She tries to manipulate me by saying, "so and so is asking if you are coming”. Then I tell her straight up that you know why I'm not going and I don't know why you are asking me. I tell her it's because the abuser is there!
She wants me to live in this fantasy land along with her and pretend like it didn't happen. I refuse now because I'm an adult. I won't subject myself to that trauma. As far as I know she has said nothing to this man. She is even friends with him on Facebook. Fine. Whatever. But how dare you pretend like nothing happened to me and you don't know why I'm not going?! I go through this with her every year. I'm tempted to tell other people in my family. That would probably be her nightmare. We also suspect that he abused a cousin of similar age. The abuser was around him a lot as a child. Ive seen the cousin avoid him at the family reunion and seem uncomfortable too.
There's this family member that sexually abused me as a small child. At about 8-10 years old, several years later, i finally became brave enough to tell my mom. She basically said sorry that happened and says I'll forget about it. She does nothing.
Time goes on and over the years this person doesn't attend close family functions. He however does attend the family reunion every year. Years up into my early 20s I'm forced to go every year to the reunion and see this person and pretend like nothing is wrong! All while feeling panicked, afraid, and anxious inside. All while my mom pretends nothing ever happened and never addresses it. This person even had the evil audacity to try to hug me one year!
I will no longer subject myself to this as an adult. So I don't go to the family reunion. I still go to Xmas and thanksgiving because the abuser does not go.
Every year I don't go, my mom asks me, “why?”. She already knows why. I've explained multiple times why I don't. She acts like she doesn't know each time she asks. She tries to manipulate me by saying, "so and so is asking if you are coming”. Then I tell her straight up that you know why I'm not going and I don't know why you are asking me. I tell her it's because the abuser is there!
She wants me to live in this fantasy land along with her and pretend like it didn't happen. I refuse now because I'm an adult. I won't subject myself to that trauma. As far as I know she has said nothing to this man. She is even friends with him on Facebook. Fine. Whatever. But how dare you pretend like nothing happened to me and you don't know why I'm not going?! I go through this with her every year. I'm tempted to tell other people in my family. That would probably be her nightmare. We also suspect that he abused a cousin of similar age. The abuser was around him a lot as a child. Ive seen the cousin avoid him at the family reunion and seem uncomfortable too.
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