What Does It Mean to be in love?

[JewelleNY]

Just wondering? What do you feel? What is the difference between love and infatuation? What about lust?


I feel so confused

 

[caribeandiva]

i don't know either. i'm guessing love is what's left after the lust and infatuation wears off.

 

[audacious1]

i don't know either. i'm guessing love is what's left after the lust and infatuation wears off.

So what about when you're IN love? vs. Loving someone?

 

[caribeandiva]

So what about when you're IN love? vs. Loving someone?

when you're IN love you know it. you just do. You can love someone without being IN love with them. Being IN love is way more powerful and you feel a very strong emotional connection with that person that you can't explain. For example when you're in love with someone you feel like you can't live without them while there's a lot of people you love but you can definetely live without. I don't know if i'm confusing you or not but this is the best way i can explain it.

 

[caribeandiva]

double post.

 

[GeorginaSparks]

I would like to know too. Im 22 and never been in love.

 

[Extremus]

Love = giving the ability to let him/her hurt you

 

[*Happily Me*]

To me, love is when you feel like this. Nothing less... Anything else is infatuation or lust

I feel this way about someone...

LOVE WITHOUT CONDITION by Sandy Stevenson

I love you as you are, as you seek to find your own special way to relate to the world. I honor your choices to learn in the way you feel is right for you.

I know it is important that you are the person you want to be and not someone that I or others think you 'should' be. I realize that I cannot know what is best for you, although perhaps sometimes I think I do. I have not been where you have been, viewing life from the angle you have. I do not know what you have chosen to learn, how you have chosen to learn it, with whom or in what time period. I have not walked life looking through your eyes, so how can I know what you need.

I allow you to be in the world without a thought or word of judgment from me about the deeds you undertake. I see no error in the things you say and do. In this place where I am, I see that there are many ways to perceive and experience the different facets of our world. I allow without reservation the choices you make in each moment. I make no judgment of this, for if I would deny your right to your evolution, then I would deny that right for myself and all others.

To those who would choose a way I cannot walk, whilst I may not choose to add my power and my energy to this way, I will never deny you the gift of love that God has bestowed within me, for all creation. As I Love you, so I shall be Loved. As I sow, so shall I reap.

I allow you the universal right of free will to walk your own path, creating steps or to sit awhile if that is what is right for you. I will make no judgment that these steps are large or small, nor light or heavy or that they lead up or down, for this is just my viewpoint. I may see you do nothing and judge it to be unworthy and yet it may be that you bring great healing as you stand blessed by the Light of God. I cannot always see the higher picture of Divine Order.

For it is the inalienable right of all life to choose their own evolution and with great Love I acknowledge your right to determine your future. In humility I bow to the Realization that the way I see as best for me does not have to mean it is also right for you. I know that you are led as I am, following the inner excitement to know your own path.

I know that the many races, religions, customs, nationalities and beliefs within our world, bring us great richness and allow us the benefit and teachings of such diverseness. I know we each learn in our own unique way in order to bring that Love and Wisdom back to the whole. I know that if there were only one way to do something, there would need only be one person.

I will not only Love you if you behave in a way I think you should or believe in those things I believe in. I understand you are truly my brother and my sister, though you may have been born in a different place and believe in another God than I.

The Love I feel is for all of God's world. I know that every living thing is a part of God and I feel a Love deep within for every person, animal, tree and flower, every bird, river and ocean and for all the creatures in all the world.

I live my life in loving service, being the best I can, becoming wiser in the perfection of divine truth, becoming happier in the joy of Unconditional Love.

 

[Colliecole]

To me the only difference between infatuation and being in love is that being in love is mutual, vs infatuation you can be the only one...you can easily be infatuated with someone you don't really know.

I fade in and out of being in love with my SO, but I always love him (always accept, honor, respect, adore him....etc) There's days where we're glued to eachothers hips and lips, and there's days where I want to slip a mickey in his juice to shut him up...but it's all love

 

[JewelleNY]

To me, love is when you feel like this. Nothing less... Anything else is infatuation or lust

I feel this way about someone...

Hey D, you're in love I love what you posted and I can see how that can apply to people dear to us not just a loved one.

When I look back on past relationships I find that I am not sure if I was in love or just infatuated.

 

[poetist]

When I look back on past relationships I find that I am not sure if I was in love or just infatuated.

When I look back at past relationships, people that I love, I still care for. If they needed something from me, I would help them out (within reason, of course). Loving them, means that I truly care for them as a person, despite whether we are together or not.

When I look back on people that I was infatuated with, its just that.There are no real lingering feelings or emotions. If they needed something from me, I would not go out of my way to help them...not beacuse I dislike them or because they are unworthy, but simply because I realize that my feelings were based on an illusion, and often marked with a lack of reciprocity.

 

[JewelleNY]

When I look back at past relationships, people that I love, I still care for. If they needed something from me, I would help them out (within reason, of course). Loving them, means that I truly care for them as a person, despite whether we are together or not.

When I look back on people that I was infatuated with, its just that.There are no real lingering feelings or emotions. If they needed something from me, I would not go out of my way to help them...not beacuse I dislike them or because they are unworthy, but simply because I realize that my feelings were based on an illusion, and often marked with a lack of reciprocity.

Yes, I see what you are saying. The guy I am with now, I feel like I would go out of my way to make him feel better or do something I know he likes. I guess it is someone who makes you put yourself on the backburner, even if you are mad, largely because you know they would do the same in return.