What do you think?

[LiftedUp]

Thank you ladies for letting me vent/share. Thank you for your kind words and insight

 

[Katrice]

I'm guessing she is responding to something she has "heard" about you or who she thinks you are, or your appearance. Whatever it is I suggest praying for her and about your response. Then keep it moving. Unless God says otherwise this is more about her than you.

 

[LiftedUp]

^^^

So she was directing it at me... I told her my name when I came in and I was the first to arrive. The thing is, there is absolutely nothing "bad" that she could've heard about me from anyone unless they're outright lying. I try my hardest to live an upright life and to do the right thing. I'm very active in my church and volunteerism etc. (it's the same denomination but we do not attend the same church). I'm thinking about meeting with another minister and talking about it because it was truly hurtful and embarrassing. I was wearing a dress and a cardigan and had my hair in a ponytail. Nothing outlandish.

The thing is, my mother told me not to accept and not to go. Up to yesterday she told me that. That's the ironic part about the entire issue. I should've listened to her.

 

[Katrice]

I think it was directed at you.

 

[LiftedUp]

smh this is not the first time. I just didn't expect it in that forum (church). Thanks for your response Katrice. I'm actually supposed to attend my church this evening for a service so I don't know if I will speak about it there or just let it go.

I'm PMSing as well so my left eye is literally swollen from crying lol and I think I have an eyelash stuck somewhere int here lol.

 

[blazingthru]

I believe that some of the very worst things that could have ever been said mean about me or to me was said at church. Those folks who claim to be walking with God don't seem to have that agenda at all when they open their mouths. You have to take what folks say with a grain of salt. Sometimes it seems mean or directed to you personally and it may or it may not. What I have learned is if I can help someone I will help them as best I can but I am not there for the folks they are extra. I am there to continue to build my relationship with Christ to be apart of the body. I am going to get some dings an jabs here and there after all its building with folks walking faster or slower then others and gaining or not gaining understanding. if you feel that you cannot grow there then its time to move on. Really life is to short to be forced to deal with nonsense that is something that you can control. Plus people are weird. Folks don't like you because you talk funny, or you walk funny. Or you think you better, how they know what you be thinking I don't know. Or you dress better and carried yourself better, but in actuality your only doing what you have always been doing. People call me a snob, I use to laugh now I could careless, you just can't please everyone. What is important to me is my relationship with God and my standing with God. That's what is important and I will eat humble pie everyday to insure that. Don't pay that mess no attention. Because that is what it is mess. The devil is going to magnify everything just to keep you off focused.

 

[JaneBond007]

^^^

The thing is, my mother told me not to accept and not to go. Up to yesterday she told me that. That's the ironic part about the entire issue. I should've listened to her.

Then your mother heard something others have said about you. Maybe ask your mother.

 

[felic1]

I am sure that you are a nice looking lady. We all try to look our best. If you are pretty and like to coordinate, people can become resentful. A class about godparents accusing volunteer god parents of trying to harm the lives of new children? Some people need opportunities to accuse people that do not try to look like them. I went to church Wednesday night. I wore a jogging suit with some upbeat green color in it, foundation, powder, some light blush and light lipstick. I felt really pretty. I said hello to someone I went to high school with. She said hello like it was killing her to be civil. I left thinking that I did not have one friend in the church after being on the membership rolls for 17 years and fraternizing for thirty. I went out the door happy. God is your champion sweetie. You are no one's dart board. When I leave that church, I am going somewhere where people are not afraid of lipstick. Be blessed!!

 

[LiftedUp]

Then your mother heard something others have said about you. Maybe ask your mother.

It was nothing said about me. My mother told me not to do it because she felt that I was being used to provide expensive gifts for the child not for the true meaning of it all. She has been in that position before.

 

[LiftedUp]

I'm not fabulously beautiful or drop dead gorgeous lol! I've calmed down now. It's just an issue that I have had with 95% grown women and 5% grown men. They look at me and come up with a slew of random assumptions because of how I carry myself and how I speak. It's only grown people, not my peers. I just came to the conclusion that people feel intimidated by persons who are not like them. But I've been raised a leader and never a follower so I never let it get to me. I was just extremely hormonal and the comment came very unexpectedly at an unexpected time and place. I usually brush it off and keep going.

So I spoke with my mother last night on our way to our church and she was understandably upset and told me that it's not new and she has had mean comments said to her when she was younger and that "not everyone is going to like you". She reiterated that I not go to the follow up meeting and not go to the service. She said that the woman may say negative things to me and about me again in front of more people. I'm don't make it a habit to be afraid of persons and I want to go because I made a commitment.

I also feel as if God has warned me about her before. She hosts a worship group close to where I work and I've been meaning to join their lunch time meetings but for the past 3 weeks I've been bogged down at work. Then this morning I woke up with extremely painful cramps and did not want to go but I went anyway and was insulted. I thought about complaining because there is a governing body. It's not an independent church. If she comments about me again I may have no other choice but to do so.

Thanks for the comments. I wrote this post about 5 mins after it all occurred so I was still feeling very upset about the whole thing.

 

[India*32]

Mom knows best!

Sorry you've experienced such nonsense. God knows your heart.

 

[LiftedUp]

Mom knows best!

ikr!

How many times does this lady have to tell me not to go for me to listen