Is it possible he might be struggling with depression? Depression doesn't always present itself to others as obvious sadness (though the person may be feeling it and just masking it well). It takes many forms.I need some help ladies. My SO is quite comfortable to sit at home and watch tv 24-7 7 days a week. I would like him to do something with me everyonce in a while. I make suggestions and he may either flat out refuse them or do the activities begrudgingly. What can I do? It has gotten so bad now that even sex seems like a stretch of the imagination for him and he only initiates when he has not seen me for a long time or when I jump him.erplexed
^^This too."Don't Complain About What You Permit" Was he always a home-body when you met him? Or was this all of a sudden? If you knew he was ALWAYS like this and was never really the type to go out and about then you can't complain. You can't change a man.
Just dump him and then come back on the board and tell us what he said.
Tell him just like this: "I've noticed you may be going through some personal issues that I can't seem to help you out with and when I try, you still push me away so I've decided to leave the relationship and let us each have some time apart to refresh our minds and re-evaluate our relationship. In 30 days, we can talk and see how things are going"
Quit hemming and hawwing and just break up with him. I do it to my EX all the time. He acts up, I take a break, don't need someone negative around me for no reason.
I need some help ladies. My SO is quite comfortable to sit at home and watch tv 24-7 7 days a week. I would like him to do something with me everyonce in a while. I make suggestions and he may either flat out refuse them or do the activities begrudgingly. What can I do? It has gotten so bad now that even sex seems like a stretch of the imagination for him and he only initiates when he has not seen me for a long time or when I jump him.erplexed
Is he depressed? Was he always like that? If not then it may be a sign.
Sometimes I feel I cannot talk to him. He is always on the defensive and any conversation ends up in an argument. He can be a very social person but only when his friends are around. He asked if I want to go to the movies tonight...BUT that is the same thing as sitting at home and watching tv...just you have to pay for the entertainment (imo).
He was not always this way....he credits it with that he is getting older and just not so into the social scene.
"Don't Complain About What You Permit" Was he always a home-body when you met him? Or was this all of a sudden? If you knew he was ALWAYS like this and was never really the type to go out and about then you can't complain. You can't change a man. The sex part? Well, unless you do something to spice it up, it won't change either.
Either have a convo w/ him about seperating for about 30 days so yall can figure out if you really want to be together or just leave him. Plain and simple.
Just dump him and then come back on the board and tell us what he said.
Tell him just like this: "I've noticed you may be going through some personal issues that I can't seem to help you out with and when I try, you still push me away so I've decided to leave the relationship and let us each have some time apart to refresh our minds and re-evaluate our relationship. In 30 days, we can talk and see how things are going"
Quit hemming and hawwing and just break up with him. I do it to my EX all the time. He acts up, I take a break, don't need someone negative around me for no reason.
I found out later that my husband was more of a homebody than I was aware of. At first I became agitated with him and I would just not do stuff and stay home with him. Soon I became tired of that and started doing stuff without him. I will get up early on Saturday fix breakfast, and get the kids ready for a fun-filled planned day. I didn't ask him if he wanted to go, because I did not feel like becoming upset and getting into it with him.
Eventually he got tired of us having a ball without him.
Bunk that depressed mess. He just doesn't want to do anything. Sometimes it is not as complicated as we woman make. Either stay with him or roll.