Was this girl just hatin or?????

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Okay. My hair in the land of LHCF is NOT long. Im shoulder length but my hair looks alot healthier :grin:

I was at a bbq party and they were about 6 other black girls at the party, all wearing weave. One of them had a blonde weave on and her own damaged black hair out on top :nono: looked a mess.

But so.. this girl with the blonde weave tells me she loved my hair and if she had my hair she would not be getting a weave but use the money for good products instead but then this other black girl went from being friendly to being extremely rude the rest of the evening!

Given me the "b!tch please" stank face when people were complimenting my hair and she bumped into me without saying "sorry" or anything.

Before my hair came up she was smiling being friendly.


/end vent
 
Perhaps she didn't like the attention being focused on someone else for so long:ohwell:
 
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OP. I say as long as she is not yanking at your hair. Ignore people like that.

Her nasty attitude is not making your hair look bad or her hair look better. *shrugs*
 
Over hair? Seriously? Thank goodness the day is over with. Who's to know what she was feeling. You like it, others liked it, KIM.
 
You could have been imagining it, but then again, some bishes are just rude. I tend to ignore people like that and try not to assume it's because they are jealous of me for some reason.
 
Pure jealousy. Seems there's no escape to hatred, it always comes up in some form. Just whip your hair and keep rolling.
 
EllePixie said:
You could have been imagining it, but then again, some bishes are just rude. I tend to ignore people like that and try not to assume it's because they are jealous of me for some reason.
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I could but it shifted right after that... And i wasnt walking around whipping my hair and making people notice it. The other girls brought it up and for that she gave me attitude the whole evening. :perplexed
 
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I could but it shifted right after that... And i wasnt walking around whipping my hair and making people notice it. The other girls brought it up and for that she gave me attitude the whole evening. :perplexed
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I understand what you are saying, and I'm not trying to doubt you - all I'm saying is that sometimes we think that people are more focused on us than they actually are. I know I have had women tell me that they thought I was being stank to them for xyz reason, when in reality, I wasn't thinking about them AT ALL. I could have just gotten in an argument with my bf, got an annoying text, be mad my football team lost, etc etc. And then days later the chick is like..."I thought you were mad at me because I _____" and I'm like yea I didn't even know you did that, sorry.

Sorry I tend to play devil's advocate a lot...
 
EllePixie said:
I understand what you are saying, and I'm not trying to doubt you - all I'm saying is that sometimes we think that people are more focused on us than they actually are. I know I have had women tell me that they thought I was being stank to them for xyz reason, when in reality, I wasn't thinking about them AT ALL. I could have just gotten in an argument with my bf, got an annoying text, be mad my football team lost, etc etc. And then days later the chick is like..."I thought you were mad at me because I _____" and I'm like yea I didn't even know you did that, sorry.

Sorry I tend to play devil's advocate a lot...
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I get what you're saying :yep:
 
I think it's possible that she could've been hating, it's quite fishy that she goes from friendly to rude after the fake blondie dropped her comment. I hope you're not offended by it though because there are going to be tons of people like this, especially when your hair progresses towards longer lengths.

I have a friend that has the same type of weave as the fake blondie and gives me backhanded compliments; I don't care because I like my hair regardless, she's good company in most other ways (or at least in ways I can tolerate for now), what she said that can be percieved as a diss -- I have a good excuse for anyway, and she's said to me she wishes her hair was long like mine before. I just think of it as having to take the good with the bad. :look:

Although, even though this is my personal view that it's suspicious she went from warm to cold so quickly, I do agree with EllePixie's point because I've been in her position in more than one occasion.
 
That's why I'm wary of compliments. I'm learning not to deflect them, but sometimes even a simple, "Thank you", sends some people into some weird jealous land. It's the "You think you all THAT', sundrome when in reality you were'nt flexing a single look-at-me muscle. Your compliments triggered another woman's insecurities so instead of focusing on asking you how you acheived your success, she attacks you because of her own jealousy. Bizzare. Just ignore folks like that and hope they're acting a fool because of some other issue and not you.
 
I agree with everyone, sounds like she started being petty and stank when you and your pretty hair became the center of attention. Yea it happens. Not everyone one knows how to give a compliment, so maybe that was her own stank way lol... or maybe she just didnt agree with everyone for whatever reason but no need for rudeness and attitude tho. Either way, you know your hair looked good... dont dwell on it :)
 
The bumping into you with no apology makes me do the side eye. Petty. I had this happen before at a club because my friends and I decided to dance when everybody else was holding up the wall. The minute some girls saw we were getting the attention now not them they walked across This wide open room and bumped directly into us. They were young petty and jealous.
 
of course she was hating!. Ive had women say dumb **** to me because they were jealous of my hair, this one female tried to embarrass me by mentioning my bad skin because her dude complimented my hair. It kinda backfired because her man gave a look like "I cant your nowhere", ignored her and kept right on talking to me.
 
mannn...she was hatin on you, pure and simple. she wasn't having a bad day, her dog didnt just die five minutes before her friend complimented you. she was hating! some of yall ladies know this happens to you everyday!! its sweet and all to try and give the hater the benefit of the doubt by assuming she's just going through things in life but everything OP described was definitely the other chic throwing shade. girl dont even let that mess get to you! like someone else said, it will happen more and more as your hair journey progresses. some women are just like that and i dont think they can help themselves.
 
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