ang3lface816
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I have been with Fiance 3 1/2 years. Really good guy. Has been here since day 1, being a father figure to MY son. (real father left me during pregnancy).. My fiance, is pretty much all that you can ask for. His family...![Ohwell :ohwell: :ohwell:](/smilies/ohwell.gif)
He is the youngest of 4, he is 23. His other siblings: a 32 year old brother, 27 year old sister, and a 25 year old sister. 27 year old sister T, is scheduled to be married to her childs father(dating for about 4-5 years) in August. But yet whenever she needs something his mother makes him give it to her. Like today, I had to take him to wrk b/c his sister needed to use HIS car. Not to go to wrk, but to go to her stepdaughters volleyball game. She is going to meet the father there, but he(my fiance)has to be inconvenieced as well as me. I wrk nights, so I sleep during the day. I had to get up from my sleep to take him to wrk b/c of something unnecessary..
Same sister T, added herself onto his AT&T phone contract, under his mother's suggestion, who is also on his contract(not as the acct holder but just using a line under his name). So everymonth his phone bill is about $250 (b/c big sister goes over minutes). Big sister also does not have a job.
What I can not understand for the life of me, is why does she not have a contract with her fiance? Who she lives with? Who she has a child with and has been with several years. Whenever they argue, she either calls me or him to come pick her up. (she lives about 40 mins away from us), just bc she doesnt want to be in the same house as fiance. He doesn't put his hands on her, but they argue a lot.
Other sister S who is 25, also takes advantage of him. He had to give her 300 once for her carpaymentt.. (she doesn't even live in the same state as we do)... But again, she is also married and has 3 children.
Maybe I'm just being mean? But my family is not like this at all. Everybody takes care of themselves and family who lives in same household as them..
I have an older brother who is married with 2 kids, and I do not ever ask him to help me. I don't ask for money or to borrow his car. Why would I?
I just dont understand this concept. If you are an adult and choose to be with someone who cannot take care of you or provide anything for you, why does it automatically become your siblings problem? He doesn't live at home, WE hve bills to pay, and i'm really fed up with what's going on.
He also has various other family members that call him up, req rides and borrowing money. Some even asking to drive his car. His mother rides his back until he gives in.
Maybe I'm just being mean.. what do you ladies think?
Also how do I address this issue delicately? I once made a mention of it not being his responsibility to help everybody, and he got so mad!!
But I'm tired of it, to the point where I am even considering not marrying him b/c I feel that OUR household should come first. Not his FAMILY. When he needs something, the only one who is around is his mom...
I was raised in a religious home, and I take the scripture about leaving your family and cleaving to your wife LITERALLY.
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He is the youngest of 4, he is 23. His other siblings: a 32 year old brother, 27 year old sister, and a 25 year old sister. 27 year old sister T, is scheduled to be married to her childs father(dating for about 4-5 years) in August. But yet whenever she needs something his mother makes him give it to her. Like today, I had to take him to wrk b/c his sister needed to use HIS car. Not to go to wrk, but to go to her stepdaughters volleyball game. She is going to meet the father there, but he(my fiance)has to be inconvenieced as well as me. I wrk nights, so I sleep during the day. I had to get up from my sleep to take him to wrk b/c of something unnecessary..
Same sister T, added herself onto his AT&T phone contract, under his mother's suggestion, who is also on his contract(not as the acct holder but just using a line under his name). So everymonth his phone bill is about $250 (b/c big sister goes over minutes). Big sister also does not have a job.
What I can not understand for the life of me, is why does she not have a contract with her fiance? Who she lives with? Who she has a child with and has been with several years. Whenever they argue, she either calls me or him to come pick her up. (she lives about 40 mins away from us), just bc she doesnt want to be in the same house as fiance. He doesn't put his hands on her, but they argue a lot.
Other sister S who is 25, also takes advantage of him. He had to give her 300 once for her carpaymentt.. (she doesn't even live in the same state as we do)... But again, she is also married and has 3 children.
Maybe I'm just being mean? But my family is not like this at all. Everybody takes care of themselves and family who lives in same household as them..
I have an older brother who is married with 2 kids, and I do not ever ask him to help me. I don't ask for money or to borrow his car. Why would I?
I just dont understand this concept. If you are an adult and choose to be with someone who cannot take care of you or provide anything for you, why does it automatically become your siblings problem? He doesn't live at home, WE hve bills to pay, and i'm really fed up with what's going on.
He also has various other family members that call him up, req rides and borrowing money. Some even asking to drive his car. His mother rides his back until he gives in.
Maybe I'm just being mean.. what do you ladies think?
Also how do I address this issue delicately? I once made a mention of it not being his responsibility to help everybody, and he got so mad!!
But I'm tired of it, to the point where I am even considering not marrying him b/c I feel that OUR household should come first. Not his FAMILY. When he needs something, the only one who is around is his mom...
I was raised in a religious home, and I take the scripture about leaving your family and cleaving to your wife LITERALLY.