UGHHHH VENT.....DH and my hair style!!!!.....(long)
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; surely he knows how much you are on these boards and that growing your hair as much as you have is progress?? Like the other ladies said, men just don't get it (most of the time).
Hair Iam
Well-Known Member
Your making me cry
..wipe those tears you hair looks beautiful...you are beautiful..Your DH is not good with change..and may even be a bit fearful of you making these kinds of changes. Hair holds a lot of power ..it is our glory and sometimes it overwhelms others..You serve a living God ...He says you are fearfully and wonderfully made. HE wrote your name in His hands....He called you the apple of His eye. Pray for your DH to have a tenderized heart.
MUCH LOVE
Your sister in hair
and in the Lord
..wipe those tears you hair looks beautiful...you are beautiful..Your DH is not good with change..and may even be a bit fearful of you making these kinds of changes. Hair holds a lot of power ..it is our glory and sometimes it overwhelms others..You serve a living God ...He says you are fearfully and wonderfully made. HE wrote your name in His hands....He called you the apple of His eye. Pray for your DH to have a tenderized heart.MUCH LOVE
Your sister in hair
and in the Lord
SparklingFlame
New Member
Men! Such insensitive creatures! I am looking at your pics and I think your hair is GORGEOUS! Especially the 1st pic. Ah well....men dont understand our hair thing so give DH a pass! BUT!!!! Please let him know how he hurt you. Geez you would think men would know a little somethin somethin about us and our hair sensitivities!
Leslie_C
Well-Known Member
I have to tell you. I usually press my hair. I wore my natural texture - air dried - no heat style a few weeks ago and he said my hair looked like crinkly fries. It hurt my feelings. But other people complimented it so I didn't care.
I shouldn't have but in retaliation I told him his butt was the color of soy milk and that he needed a tan.
I don't know why...I guess him being white...I kind of took that as a racial hit even though I know he's not like that. I felt stupid for saying that afterwards. I just couldn't think of anything else to say. So you're better than me cause I would have had to counter with something to make him feel like he was making me feel even though I know that's not the way. God help me. I'm still growing!
Well, he's been to the tanning bed 6 times in the last couple of weeks. So it looks like I'm not the only one with thin skin.
I feel you....I used to wear braids and weaves a lot and just recently started sporting my own hair, which is lightly texlaxed....it took my (white) fiance some time to get used to it and many of his comments pissed me off a few times. I told him he better get used to my hair bc if we have a daughter she may very well have hair just like mine! lol
Once I also had to tell him if he wanted someone with silky flowing locks he better go find a white woman lol
What I want to say to the OP is your hair looks great, I know its a change for your husband to see compared to phony ponies and weaves, but I think they tend to grow to appreciate it over time. My fiance didnt seem to like my hair at first when I started wearing it out, but now he compliments it often and comments on how much its growing all the time.
ETA I made it a special point to embrace my own hair and start wearing it out all the time....I didnt want to run back to wearing braids/weaves just because he wasnt crazy about my hairstyle at the time. Now our only disagreement is my opinion is the bigger the better and he likes it more tamed.....tho he did say it was sexy recently when it was lightly flat ironed but still kinda big and wild.
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Avin'sMom2010
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Your making me cry
MUCH LOVE
Your sister in hair
and in the Lord
Thank you sooo much I really needed to hear this!! He has since apologized and says that he did not mean to hurt my feeling. I am definitely praying for him I always ask him why he is soo negative when he's voicing his opinions on just about anything, why not turn that negative into a positive...I know I try to think positive in all situations, it just feels better in my soul!!
Ladyhenri
Active Member
I agree with this..
When you ask for an opinion, that is exactly what you are going to get...even if its something you dont particularly want to hear. Perhaps he likes your hair length but didnt like the hair style?
hothair
Well-Known Member
ALSO remember this....
You are probably looking SOOO good right now and he is afraid that you will look good to other men as well... Men have VERY fragile egos and many fears...
By telling you he doesn't like it, he'll hope you'll change it back to the way it was...and you tell him....
SORRY!
What she said!!! Girl your mirror does NOT lie, if your hair looks the way it does in the thumbnails I can see why he's worried
Chin up!
Choklatekiss79
Active Member
First of all, CONGRATULATIONS on your progress.
Now, I think a lot of us women have a habit of thinking that men are supposed to think and react the way we do. When they, don't we get let down. Men are not like women. If they were, we wouldn't want them. So, I say, if you love your hair, keep on loving it and rocking it proudly. The more confident you are with it, the more comfortable he'll become with it (especially when he sees other men checking you out). Sometimes change is more shocking than appealing at first.
At the end of the day, no one is responsible for your happiness, but you. So be happy miss thing!!!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Now, I think a lot of us women have a habit of thinking that men are supposed to think and react the way we do. When they, don't we get let down. Men are not like women. If they were, we wouldn't want them. So, I say, if you love your hair, keep on loving it and rocking it proudly. The more confident you are with it, the more comfortable he'll become with it (especially when he sees other men checking you out)
. Sometimes change is more shocking than appealing at first.At the end of the day, no one is responsible for your happiness, but you. So be happy miss thing!!!!
{{{HUGS}}}
Lady Esquire
New Member
Awwwwww sweetums. Your hair is healthy and you're making progress. And next time you wear it out, wear some heels w/some lingerie, do one of them white girl flips, do the naomi campbell walk, and rock his world mami! Trust me, he won't be scrunching up his face then. 
Your hair looks nice, I like the wild lookSimilar threads
