PJ, thanks! At this point in my hair's life it'd be difficult to find a stylist good enough for me in the whole wide world, LOL... There are stylists everywhere, they do a good job with wonderful end results, but they'd tear my hair apart! I've just become very particular about how I like my hair handled.... i don't like hearing
A strand break, let a lone a few. I beat myself up when i do it and just hate it! The lady that did my hair on this occassion really is the best I've found for gentleness and knowledge and is passionate about natural hair but my hair is just too kinky and if I'm honest, were she to handle it the way I do, I'd be her only client for the whole day and more.... I still cannot afford to have her for that, lol, so I'll stick to DIY unless it's a trim. She trimmed my hair in June and was fab. I think the longer my hair gets the harder it will be to let her do it as longer hair takes longer to work with - the tangling is on longer strands, thus it takes more patience to gently pull apart.
I'll have to learn to do my own trims eventually.... I only need a good one once a year really, as I do S&Ds fairly often.
Checking in...
My tiny little twists are done! I intend to keep these going for a while, re-doing them as I go. Pic below... More on fotki if interested.....
I think I've found a very simple ''regimen'' - if it can be called as such - that has worked perfectly for me since April/May...
- If I remember, I pre-'poo' with coconut oil. I seldom do, but I like to do it, just because coconut pre-poos are good!
- I co-wash with a moisturising condish - HE HH, Aussie Moist etc - 1-2x/wk.
- I use AO HSR more as a leave in and seal with shea butter and a heavy oil eg castor oil after every wash - original idea was to DC but I got lazy once and left it in and my hair felt sooo good afterwards! **If I have it, I mix Qhemet's Heavy Cream with my AO HSR - they make a fab combo for me!**
- Spray with water +/- glycerine everyday and seal with a light oil, eg jojoba/safflower/argan/baobab... If hair feels dry, spray with more water. If I wasn't so lazy I'd do herbal teas with sage/rosemary/mint etc, but I've been lazy since April/May and have not used these, sigh... My hair's fared okay though, so I'm not fussed either way.
- Co-wash with a protein based condish whenever I feel hair needs an extra strengthening boost - Mega Tek, AO GPB etc. This must always be followed by a moisturising DC or step 2 above... I find step 2 works really well if I'm out of time for DCing, but I do wonder if it'd qualify to be called a DC if I don't rinse off??
- I randomly clarify with either African Black Soap or Sodium Bicarbonate mixed into a conditioner on an 'As Required' basis, eg after a swim or if my hair feels particularly non-pliable even with my co-washes.
- I do henna, clay, and all else not mentioned on the list very randomly - I let my feelings guide me and hope all I do work well for me and my hair.
- I twist with a whole range of stuff. Sometimes I'll use an aloe based gel +/- honey or glycerine with some oil or plant butter. Other times I just use a moisturising conditioner or even AO HSR and oil, other times I use Qhem heavy as well as or instead of oil. I let the way my hair feels guide me - nothing is set in stone.
The main constant in all I do to my hair is to never ever leave my hair loose while I wash. I learnt the hard way - loose + wet = disastrous tangling.
Twists/braids are my staple style. Hence me loving this challenge as it keeps me grounded
Apologies it's long, just wanted to put it all down so I have a point of reference, lol!