No matter what you're [sic] strategy is, I believe God is going to lead you to Mr. Right. As a woman of faith I have to believe that if things aren't going the way you want it's because God is in the process of alerting you to Mr. Wrong. In the mean time there's nothing wrong with putting yourself out there.
I agree with this. I believe that generally we are not going to accidentally miss marriage. For me, faith in God means that I look at my life thus far and see that things have continually worked out for the best even with my mistakes (He's never failed me yet as they say), so I believe the same in this regard.
I think the issue is that we don't like the "best" that is for us--it's not necessarily what we want when we want it. I look around the world and people suffer from so many serious illnesses, tragedies, pain, etc. No one (or very few) is exempted from their own personal struggle or hurt. People have all different kinds of blessings in different measures, and some people have to wait or work harder than others to receive them. It's just life.
But regarding a strategy, so to speak, you can only do so much. I don't see a difference between exercising patience and being a "go getter" as she calls it. Having a life, going places and meeting people naturally, responding to those who are interested in you, etc. is just a normal part of life. I could go to a happy hour just to socialize and have fun, or I could go with the mentality that I'm looking for a man, but I don't think either mentality will make the outcome any different. And I think sometimes women have success just "letting go" is that they've taken the pressure off of themselves and so are more positive and give off that vibe. But still, I don't know if women don't do
enough so much as do the
wrong things--like entertaining go-nowhere relationships, tolerating things that will ultimately be dealbreakers, rejecting the nice guys, etc.