LadyChe
Well-Known Member
Hey ladies -
Soooo... I have a male coworker who got out of a relationship two years ago. As we were both single (not attracted to each other), we've enjoyed a good friendship commiserating over our singlehood. We'd share all the bad dates, the new prospects - everything.
That is - until July. I could tell this woman was different than the others he'd talked about. He went from occasionally moody to ... well, a man in love. The progression from dating to bf/gf was almost instantaneous. The weekends of us hanging out were replaced with their excursions - shopping for bedsheets, painting the house, meeting the parents...
And yesterday he sat me down to ask me a "very important question". He wanted my help to pick out an engagement ring and ideas for how to propose in a special way (not for a few months, for those concerned about timing).
Now, I am HAPPY for him. Honestly, I listened to him when he was so down in the dumps - if this girl makes him happy, I am her #1 FAN. She gets the thumbs up from all of our friendship circle - even though he is MIA now.
BUT. I'm sad for ME. I'm dating occasionally, but jeez, it's slim pickins out there. I found myself picking on him - but really I'm doing it out of jealousy. I'm not doing anything evil like planting seeds of doubt in his mind, but sometimes I have to leave the room or take a break when he wants to share all of his lovey dovey stories about her perfect dimples or how he loves her dad and the special meal he cooked her.
So - can you truly be happy for a friend that's getting what you wish you had?
Soooo... I have a male coworker who got out of a relationship two years ago. As we were both single (not attracted to each other), we've enjoyed a good friendship commiserating over our singlehood. We'd share all the bad dates, the new prospects - everything.
That is - until July. I could tell this woman was different than the others he'd talked about. He went from occasionally moody to ... well, a man in love. The progression from dating to bf/gf was almost instantaneous. The weekends of us hanging out were replaced with their excursions - shopping for bedsheets, painting the house, meeting the parents...
And yesterday he sat me down to ask me a "very important question". He wanted my help to pick out an engagement ring and ideas for how to propose in a special way (not for a few months, for those concerned about timing).
Now, I am HAPPY for him. Honestly, I listened to him when he was so down in the dumps - if this girl makes him happy, I am her #1 FAN. She gets the thumbs up from all of our friendship circle - even though he is MIA now.
BUT. I'm sad for ME. I'm dating occasionally, but jeez, it's slim pickins out there. I found myself picking on him - but really I'm doing it out of jealousy. I'm not doing anything evil like planting seeds of doubt in his mind, but sometimes I have to leave the room or take a break when he wants to share all of his lovey dovey stories about her perfect dimples or how he loves her dad and the special meal he cooked her.
So - can you truly be happy for a friend that's getting what you wish you had?