Tony gaskins mrs right book anyone?

I follow him on twitter and thought about getting it out of curiosity.

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I started reading it and my Church is having a book review and potluck this week..

Its very interesting the part that I have read really hit home on some points. He even discussed about women hair styles...
 
Is it worth reading?

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Yes i believe it is IMO...I haven't read many relationship books, I could hardly stomach Steve Harvey's so his book is ALOT better...
 
tinkat said:
Is it worth reading?

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Yup it's a quick read. But it's really good. I felt like it gave me insight I didn't have and my god brother and cousins tell too much for me to actually pick up.

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I started reading it, and had to give it the side eye.

He says that when women get pregnant, she goes from the woman her significant other wanted to be with to a woman he never thought he would be with. He says men are not attracted to their women when they are pregnant. I guess because they get "fat." He also said that men don't like to have much to do with their babies. He says they'll play with the baby for a few minutes and then give the baby back to the mother.

I was shocked when I read this, so I asked a man, my daddy. He said that it wasn't true, and that if anything when a woman is carrying a man's baby that makes her more attractive to him. But hey, my dad wanted my mom to have like 10 kids, so he may be biased. He also said it was not true about a man not wanting to have much to do with the baby after it is born. My daddy asked me if he thought he played with me for a little while and gave me back to my mom. Of course, I was too young at the time to remember anything, but judging by everything mom my had said, he was a great father and always good with babies. According to him, my mom didn't know anything about babies, so he was extremely involved with our caretaking. I can also say the same thing about my brothers-in-law. They are also extremely involved with my neice and nephew.

After reading what I do not believe to be true for most men, I'll only read the rest of the book when I'm sitting in a waiting room or something. I also have one of his other books, and a lot of the information has been repeated. I think Tony still has a lot of growing up to do. He's only like 27 or 28. I only became interested in what he had to say when he was on a radio show and talked about how he had been engaged several times but had no intent to marry the women he proposed to. He explained that he faked the proposals so that the women would behave the way he wanted them to and never question his behavior, because they thought they were getting married. My ex-boyfriend basically did the same thing.
 
That part of the book actually states:

We see a woman go from the woman we once adored to the woman that we thought we'd never be with. I'm speaking for the majority of men as I know it so please don't be offended. To most men pregnancy isn't beautiful, cute, or adorable. It's rather strange and mind boggling, but we cope with it the best we can. I'm sure as women you've heard horror stories from other women about how their man started cheating on them during those nine months.

The reason is because men are visual creatures and most men do not appreciate the wonders of childbirth so therefore they are no longer attracted to the woman that is in front of them and that can cause wandering eyes.

Then even worse than that is that after you've had the baby and it's time to come home things get even crazier. Your body is tired and need to rest but you have this screaming hungry baby who needs to be fed every couple of hours and a man who is walking around looking like he's from another planet.
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This is my husband's 1st cousin...My DH is about 5 years older than Tony. (his dad and my FIL are brothers) We were home (They're from the Lakeland, FL area) last month for his dad's birthday and my FIL had a copy of the book. I read the title and I rolled my eyes. Then I read the book and was like.....L.O.L. He gives some good advice for people who need it. Not for people already in mature, flourishing relationships. His twitter has lots of little cool sounding sound bites.

He's been through a lot and a lot of the stuff in his 1st book started from seeing some mistakes his sister made and his parents.......But I pass. I gave it the side eye like @MissJ did. And yes he DOES have a lot of growing up to do. Ya'll don't remember he was on Oprah too? The whole family was in an UPROAR!!!! My DH was like ugh....

My last name is Gaskin too. My DH and I have been together since MY freshman year in college 12 years ago, married 5....Trust me. We are good on Tony's advice....lol.
 
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Also, DH's parents have been married 39 years....Yeah, they side-eyed the book too but they are happy for their nephew and I am happy for Tony's success as is his family. Its just some things he says and has done I know they (whole family) are not particularly happy about...Especially when he was on the Oprah show.
 
^ I keep hearing about his appearance on Oprah. Unfortunately, I did not see it that day. I must have been at school. He says that it was live and only aired once. I'd love to see what he and the other guests had to say about domestic violence/Chris Brown/Rihanna.
 
There are some parts of the book I definitely don't agree with ( I kinda smirked at the first two chapters) and some parts that I really liked. The book is not for the faint at heart, some of the things he says are true for many women (not all). He doesn't sugar-coat anything, which might be a little harsh for some.

Overall I found the book extremely empowering to women especially when he talks about vetting a man, respecting yourself and knowing you're a queen. He also devotes a chapter to abusive men, I thought the break down in that particular chapter was good.
 
We just had a book reading discussion tonight on the book and when I found out he is 27 or 28 I started giving some of the information he stated the side eye the more we were discussing the book(we had women of different age groups and 3 men--it was the singles ministry of the Church)...

Like the lady stated that was the leader of the discussion take bits and pieces from the book apply it and then take the rest and put it to the side....

There was some parts that I have highlighted and applied to myself and I'm taking it for what its worth...
 
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We just had a book reading discussion tonight on the book and when I found out he is 27 or 28 I started giving some of the information he stated the side eye the more we were discussing the book(we had women of different age groups and 3 men--it was the singles ministry of the Church)...

Like the lady stated that was the leader of the discussion take bits and pieces from the book apply it and then take the rest and put it to the side....

There was some parts that I have highlighted and applied to myself and I'm taking it for what its worth...
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Why? There are some young men who are light years ahead in wisdom than their older counterparts.
 
MissJ said:
He's only like 27 or 28. I only became interested in what he had to say when he was on a radio show and talked about how he had been engaged several times but had no intent to marry the women he proposed to. He explained that he faked the proposals so that the women would behave the way he wanted them to and never question his behavior, because they thought they were getting married. My ex-boyfriend basically did the same thing.
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Men are doing this? Lawd!

Can someone send me a copy of this book? TIA
 
MissJ said:
I started reading it, and had to give it the side eye.

He says that when women get pregnant, she goes from the woman her significant other wanted to be with to a woman he never thought he would be with. He says men are not attracted to their women when they are pregnant. I guess because they get "fat." He also said that men don't like to have much to do with their babies. He says they'll play with the baby for a few minutes and then give the baby back to the mother.

I was shocked when I read this, so I asked a man, my daddy. He said that it wasn't true, and that if anything when a woman is carrying a man's baby that makes her more attractive to him. But hey, my dad wanted my mom to have like 10 kids, so he may be biased. He also said it was not true about a man not wanting to have much to do with the baby after it is born. My daddy asked me if he thought he played with me for a little while and gave me back to my mom. Of course, I was too young at the time to remember anything, but judging by everything mom my had said, he was a great father and always good with babies. According to him, my mom didn't know anything about babies, so he was extremely involved with our caretaking. I can also say the same thing about my brothers-in-law. They are also extremely involved with my neice and nephew.

After reading what I do not believe to be true for most men, I'll only read the rest of the book when I'm sitting in a waiting room or something. I also have one of his other books, and a lot of the information has been repeated. I think Tony still has a lot of growing up to do. He's only like 27 or 28. I only became interested in what he had to say when he was on a radio show and talked about how he had been engaged several times but had no intent to marry the women he proposed to. He explained that he faked the proposals so that the women would behave the way he wanted them to and never question his behavior, because they thought they were getting married. My ex-boyfriend basically did the same thing.
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Wow to the last part. That I didn't know at all,l

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I am looking at some of his YouTube videos and he actually is pretty good. I haven't read the book. He even talked about I guess that one engagement/relationship. I respect his honesty. I wouldn't shut him down bc of his age. He actually gives a great guy perspective. A lot of what he says is what I had to learn the hard way but it's the truth.

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MissJ said:
I only became interested in what he had to say when he was on a radio show and talked about how he had been engaged several times but had no intent to marry the women he proposed to. He explained that he faked the proposals so that the women would behave the way he wanted them to and never question his behavior, because they thought they were getting married. My ex-boyfriend basically did the same thing.
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He sounds like an arsehole.
 
I did get the book on kindle on Thursday and I enjoyed it. No complaints here.

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MissJ said:
That part of the book actually states:
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Quote: We see a woman go from the woman we once adored to the woman that we thought we'd never be with. I'm speaking for the majority of men as I know it so please don't be offended. To most men pregnancy isn't beautiful, cute, or adorable. It's rather strange and mind boggling, but we cope with it the best we can. I'm sure as women you've heard horror stories from other women about how their man started cheating on them during those nine months.

The reason is because men are visual creatures and most men do not appreciate the wonders of childbirth so therefore they are no longer attracted to the woman that is in front of them and that can cause wandering eyes.

Then even worse than that is that after you've had the baby and it's time to come home things get even crazier. Your body is tired and need to rest but you have this screaming hungry baby who needs to be fed every couple of hours and a man who is walking around looking like he's from another planet.

:look: :perplexed :perplexed :nono: .....
 
The commentary he made about pregnancy did not offend me honestly. I don't think all men think like that but some probably do (which who are most likely grown boys as he put it.)

I felt like the book gave honest insight on the mind of men during the different phases.
 
tinkat said:
The commentary he made about pregnancy did not offend me honestly. I don't think all men think like that but some probably do (which who are most likely grown boys as he put it.)

I felt like the book gave honest insight on the mind of men during the different phases.
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It explained some things I didn't realize. And killed my fairytale ending so I still like the book just didn't know much of his background
 
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