TinyBlu
Well-Known Member
Had this convo with some of my equally successful lady counterparts and wondered what others thought.
We got into an actual debate about "dating down" and what that means. Considering that the women of the group have really great-paying jobs (some six figures) and great educations, I found it interesting that a few of them said they would write off a nice guy/girl that made considerably less than them.
I understand (and have personally gone through) the challenge for some men/women to accept that they may not be able to provide a certain type of lifestyle for the women with whom they've chosen to spend time or feel a bit intimidated in situations where there may be a disparity in education or even culture levels (can't pick a good bottle of wine?), but in the instance that a TRULY hard working, good man/woman came along, how quickly would we turn him/her down?
I, myself, have been guilty of judging men based on grammar, education levels, and paycheck size but would hope that as I have gotten older that I have shortened the list. However, having dealt with the "come up" guy that never actually DID come up, I can certainly understand why a woman would want to level the playing field a bit more.
So, ladies:
1) Would you write off a genuine good guy/girl with a smaller paycheck that treated you well?
2) Is there anyone that has had success with being in a relationship with someone that made considerably less? If so, please share your secrets.
We got into an actual debate about "dating down" and what that means. Considering that the women of the group have really great-paying jobs (some six figures) and great educations, I found it interesting that a few of them said they would write off a nice guy/girl that made considerably less than them.
I understand (and have personally gone through) the challenge for some men/women to accept that they may not be able to provide a certain type of lifestyle for the women with whom they've chosen to spend time or feel a bit intimidated in situations where there may be a disparity in education or even culture levels (can't pick a good bottle of wine?), but in the instance that a TRULY hard working, good man/woman came along, how quickly would we turn him/her down?
I, myself, have been guilty of judging men based on grammar, education levels, and paycheck size but would hope that as I have gotten older that I have shortened the list. However, having dealt with the "come up" guy that never actually DID come up, I can certainly understand why a woman would want to level the playing field a bit more.
So, ladies:
1) Would you write off a genuine good guy/girl with a smaller paycheck that treated you well?
2) Is there anyone that has had success with being in a relationship with someone that made considerably less? If so, please share your secrets.