No, no ... this is not a new hair growth secret ... sorry 
For the few months I’ve been on the board, I’ve seen a couple of threads going crazy, I hope this one is not going to end up like that. Most of the time, people on both sides are just trying to share their opinions but unfortunately the way they phrase them can be perceived as offensive to the other sides who would overreact and so on so forth. That doesn’t mean the first intention was to offend the other OP, but we are all humans and all have different ways to perceive or interpretrate messages from other people.
All that to suggest a simple communication technique I’ve learned over the years that help in being constructive when sharing opinions with others ‘The Sandwich Method’. It’s an excellent way to send a constructive opinion to another OP, whitout being too critical or perceived as being negative. The method is simple 3 opinions : 1 positive+1 constructive +1 positive.
Eg : Lets say, you think an OP is using too much heat in her SO famous regimen. Whether your opinion is right or not, it is another story, but the way you’ll express it to her is very important. Try to avoid the : <<Way too much heat in your regimen, girl, we all know in LHCF that is not good for hair. With a regimen like yours, people can end up baldheaded.>>
Comment >>:Quite right (per LHCF standards)
Communication skills>> :Ouch!!
The Sandwich method suggestion would be :
-1 positive opinion to prepare the field :<<I think your hair is gorgeous, it’s so shiny and thick I really love the swang.>>
-1 constructive opinion to send the message :<<But be careful, too much direct heat can be damaging for most types of hair, so it wouldn’t be a bad idea to ease up on it as much as possible to avoid excessive breakage overtime.>>
-1 positive opinion to close the deal : <<But again, you know your thing girl, maybe your bi-weekly protein treatment really makes the difference. Your hair is so pretty I really need to try a thing or two in your regimen. Keep up the good work, obviously that works for you.>>
This thread is only a suggestion and is not meant to educate people on how to behave. Not at all, I think people on the board are very polite and I really like the atmosphere in general. Communication skills have nothing to do with politeness, they are what makes the difference when you want to close a deal with a difficult client, and let me tell you that method really made a difference in my carreer. Hope the thread is helpful. If it is not, sorry about that and just bypass or ask the moderators to shut it down, I won't take offenseJ
PS : Sorry for the long thread, specially for my english which I know is not on point yet. Let me tell you I am trying hard girls, it’s coming, it’s coming… gimme a couple of months though J
For the few months I’ve been on the board, I’ve seen a couple of threads going crazy, I hope this one is not going to end up like that. Most of the time, people on both sides are just trying to share their opinions but unfortunately the way they phrase them can be perceived as offensive to the other sides who would overreact and so on so forth. That doesn’t mean the first intention was to offend the other OP, but we are all humans and all have different ways to perceive or interpretrate messages from other people.
All that to suggest a simple communication technique I’ve learned over the years that help in being constructive when sharing opinions with others ‘The Sandwich Method’. It’s an excellent way to send a constructive opinion to another OP, whitout being too critical or perceived as being negative. The method is simple 3 opinions : 1 positive+1 constructive +1 positive.
Eg : Lets say, you think an OP is using too much heat in her SO famous regimen. Whether your opinion is right or not, it is another story, but the way you’ll express it to her is very important. Try to avoid the : <<Way too much heat in your regimen, girl, we all know in LHCF that is not good for hair. With a regimen like yours, people can end up baldheaded.>>
Comment >>:Quite right (per LHCF standards)
Communication skills>> :Ouch!!
The Sandwich method suggestion would be :
-1 positive opinion to prepare the field :<<I think your hair is gorgeous, it’s so shiny and thick I really love the swang.>>
-1 constructive opinion to send the message :<<But be careful, too much direct heat can be damaging for most types of hair, so it wouldn’t be a bad idea to ease up on it as much as possible to avoid excessive breakage overtime.>>
-1 positive opinion to close the deal : <<But again, you know your thing girl, maybe your bi-weekly protein treatment really makes the difference. Your hair is so pretty I really need to try a thing or two in your regimen. Keep up the good work, obviously that works for you.>>
This thread is only a suggestion and is not meant to educate people on how to behave. Not at all, I think people on the board are very polite and I really like the atmosphere in general. Communication skills have nothing to do with politeness, they are what makes the difference when you want to close a deal with a difficult client, and let me tell you that method really made a difference in my carreer. Hope the thread is helpful. If it is not, sorry about that and just bypass or ask the moderators to shut it down, I won't take offenseJ
PS : Sorry for the long thread, specially for my english which I know is not on point yet. Let me tell you I am trying hard girls, it’s coming, it’s coming… gimme a couple of months though J
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