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THE RIGHT ONE
1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this
man/woman have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus
Christ? Does he/she care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he/she
accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith?
Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a
committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same
family - the family of God?
You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials
of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the
same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like
interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.
You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some
truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better
together.
Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and
your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.
Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married
and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says
he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's
not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.
2. Does this man want you? Is he/she pursuing you? The man who is right
for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be
clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.
Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives
favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).
Note-who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time,
God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them
together.
3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only
into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his
intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take
care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs
to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be
a suitable lover for you.
4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock
together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and
his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you
haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that
might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put
his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the
rest of the body!
5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her?
This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men
who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't
like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son
continue between husband and wife.
6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut.
Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your
life to look like his present family situation.
7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of
drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making
commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always
someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does
he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all
garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin
to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your
life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right
stuff.
8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that
vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING
his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy
doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life
guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to
happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most
miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU
want to go in life.
A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission
statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant
because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of
your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over
his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.
Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get
the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you
and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you
with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ.
Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his
home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and
provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has
ordained for you to complement.
9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his
gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the
two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the
lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your
gifts in an attractive and effective way?
This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts
beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric,
the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a
complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going
to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I
leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the
man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent
yourself, something is wrong.
This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost.
Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically?
Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in
the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in
your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of
you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that
causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that
you have to work for love, is too expensive!
God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially
for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be
richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your
dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart
and spirit, not withdrawals.
10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the
man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has
made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care
for you.
A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself
will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that
you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of
spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he
should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.
If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk,
if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted
from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive.
Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too
high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your
man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is
tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able
to survive.
1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this
man/woman have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus
Christ? Does he/she care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he/she
accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith?
Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a
committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same
family - the family of God?
You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials
of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the
same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like
interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.
You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some
truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better
together.
Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and
your dreamboat isn't interested, don't waste your time.
Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married
and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says
he's not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he's
not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.
2. Does this man want you? Is he/she pursuing you? The man who is right
for you will pursue you, and God's hand in the relationship will be
clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.
Scripture says: "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives
favor from the Lord" (Proverbs 18:22).
Note-who finds whom? THE MAN FINDS THE WIFE. From the beginning of time,
God has transported men and women across the world in order to put them
together.
3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only
into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his
intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take
care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs
to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be
a suitable lover for you.
4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of the same feather flock
together, yet most women fail to see the connection between a man and
his friends. A man's pals tell you a lot about the person that you
haven't seen yet. They reveal things about the guy's character that
might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put
his best foot forward. Don't stay focused on the foot, check out the
rest of the body!
5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her?
This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men
who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don't
like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son
continue between husband and wife.
6. Remember that a man's family reveals the cloth from which he's cut.
Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your
life to look like his present family situation.
7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see repeated cycles of
drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making
commitments --including the job market? Mood swings? Is a problem always
someone else's fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does
he keep his promises? Is he a man of good reputation? Remember all
garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin
to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your
life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right
stuff.
8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that
vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING
his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn't need help until he is busy
doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life
guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to
happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most
miserable person - and you'll be miserable too if you know where YOU
want to go in life.
A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission
statement is clear. He will be your best ally, cheerleader and assistant
because he wants you both to make it! A man who cannot be supportive of
your achievements because he is floundering in a sea of uncertainty over
his own life is not a healthy partner to have and to hold forever.
Creating dependencies or feelings of obligation is not the way to get
the best out of your man. Somewhere along the way, he will resent you
and flee from the smothering burden of obligation he associates you
with. You want a man who is firmly anchored in his identity in Christ.
Remember, we are looking for a man who will be priest and leader of his
home. His first instinct should be to want to cover you, redeem you, and
provide for you. Your job is to decide if this is the man God has
ordained for you to complement.
9. Complimentary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his
gifts, compliment yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the
two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessing to the
lives of those around you? Do your futures mesh? Can you coordinate your
gifts in an attractive and effective way?
This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts
beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric,
the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a
complimentary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going
to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I
leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition.. If the
man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent
yourself, something is wrong.
This is where I ask you to consider the relationship in terms of cost.
Is this relationship expensive spiritually, emotional or physically?
Does your longing for a mate make you willing to forfeit who you are in
the process? Or does he see you as the gift that you are? The man in
your life should consider you a rare find, a priceless jewel-because of
you he is getting ready to get blessed big-time! Any relationship that
causes you to feel unworthy, unlovely, unacceptable, undesirable or that
you have to work for love, is too expensive!
God has called the man to cover, protect and provide not only materially
for a woman, but emotionally and spiritually as well. You should be
richer in mind, body and spirit for your union with the man of your
dreams. The man in your life should make rich deposits into your heart
and spirit, not withdrawals.
10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the
man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has
made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care
for you.
A man's relationship with God is crucial here.. His love for himself
will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something that
you can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of
spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he
should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.
If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk,
if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted
from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive.
Offending the Lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too
high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your
man can't soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is
tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able
to survive.
