The men on Eharmony???

StarScream35

StarScream35

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They seem to have this strange aire about themselves. Like they want little perfect princesses or something. I've met some okay men on e-harmony but it never went anywhere. Seems the majority are out of touch with reality. What's been your experience with e-harmony?
 
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I read the article and I see what you are saying and I am not on eHarmony or on any dating site, so I am trying to look at this objectivly.:look:

Is the "can't stand" list that women are not liking?
 
RegaLady said:
Is the "can't stand" list that women are not liking?
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I think it has more to do with the fact that most of these men online are looking for Barbie doll (slim, d cup, glam, blonde) types when more than half of them look like Peter Grifin, have 3+ baby mamas, and ritE lIk Diss.
 
I've never been on Eharmony but I can tell you that this is one major complaint people have when it comes to dating sites. Unlike "real world" dating, you now have instant access to numerous single people and the "dream girl/dream guy" syndrome kicks in. None of these people would be that picky when it comes to "real world" dating, nor are they that vocal, or vocal at all about their wants. Often, they fall in love with someone that probably isn't really their normal type, but in online dating they wouldn't give someone who isn't their type a chance. I guess with the way Eharmony works, it's even more obvious that this is what's going on.
 
I think EHarmony is a horrible site. I tried it once or twice in the past as a non-paying member (thankfully so I never lost any money) but it seemed like a waste of time. I'm on a Christian site that I think has a similar vibe to EH and the men are passive, they are holding out for a non-existent perfect woman, and many are over 40 and have never been married which is a HUGE red flag to me. :nono: IMO, online dating is dehumanizing and although I know success can happen, it's better to be detached. If you find a good guy on there then it's great but it's better to not think any particular site is a magic bullet.
 
I'm on another dating site, but I noticed that too. Guys I come in contact with will interrogate me, asking me question after question just to see if I fit their idea of the perfect woman. "Do you have any tattoos? Do you cook?, Do you like to party a lot?". This one guy actually gave me a series of scenarios in which I had to choose what I would do in each case.
 
NaturalEngima said:
I'm on another dating site, but I noticed that too. Guys I come in contact with will interrogate me, asking me question after question just to see if I fit their idea of the perfect woman. "Do you have any tattoos? Do you cook?, Do you like to party a lot?". This one guy actually gave me a series of scenarios in which I had to choose what I would do in each case.
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SMDH :nono: People just don't know how to interact anymore and the internet has made men even more passive than ever (although a man in the post office today told me I have nice legs :rolleyes:). When they log on, they have endless options so they never actually choose someone.
 
NaturalEngima said:
I'm on another dating site, but I noticed that too. Guys I come in contact with will interrogate me, asking me question after question just to see if I fit their idea of the perfect woman. "Do you have any tattoos? Do you cook?, Do you like to party a lot?". This one guy actually gave me a series of scenarios in which I had to choose what I would do in each case.
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Ummm.....no......goodbye
I have been on e-harmony and it was the worst.
I never got any real feed back from anybody and when they did send me matches why were all of them shorter than me. I'm not picky but i'm around 5'10......without heels i would feel funny around someone who was 5'6" which was mainly what they sent my way. It was a waste of money.
 
None of these people would be that picky when it comes to "real world" dating,
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this is exactly one of the reasons why I removed myself from that online dating stuff. Amongst other reasons. But I really didn't like how critical i was being on there. I knew i wasn't THAT critical IRL and it bothered me.
 
I had some moderate success with online dating but I believe that the majority of men on dating sites aren't really trying to make a real match. They just want to play around with as many women as possible(whether online or real life) and aren't serious about anything long term.
 
MizAvalon said:
I had some moderate success with online dating but I believe that the majority of men on dating sites aren't really trying to make a real match. They just want to play around with as many women as possible(whether online or real life) and aren't serious about anything long term.
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i learned that earlier and started telling them upfront i wanted a long term serious relationship.
 
MizAvalon said:
I had some moderate success with online dating but I believe that the majority of men on dating sites aren't really trying to make a real match. They just want to play around with as many women as possible(whether online or real life) and aren't serious about anything long term.
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This has been my experience as well. Even the ones who state in their profiles that they are looking to settle down. :rolleyes: Players definitely exploit those sites.
 
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