Fine 4s
Well-Known Member
I used to think that starting a relationship without declaring an end goal was romantic. I pictured two people, just friends hanging out who suddenly become overwhelmed by a strong desire to be together to commit to each other and to make that other person the focus in their life. It happens organically...
I now see the danger in this. It is easy for one or both people to feel as though, they were never really CHOSEN, that the relationship changed into a romantic one not on purpose but by convenience. Day-to-day activities lose meaning and going-with-the-flow becomes the norm.
Suddenly it becomes obvious. Situations reveal that one or both members did not enter the 'relationship' with purpose, decisiveness and with equal commitment. How you approach challenges, prioritize, make decisions or demonstrate commitment suddenly is questionable.
Who knew that when a child cried out “s/he hit me on purpose!” actually had value. Now I'll know to answer "At least it wasn't an accident."
Just thoughts...
I now see the danger in this. It is easy for one or both people to feel as though, they were never really CHOSEN, that the relationship changed into a romantic one not on purpose but by convenience. Day-to-day activities lose meaning and going-with-the-flow becomes the norm.
Suddenly it becomes obvious. Situations reveal that one or both members did not enter the 'relationship' with purpose, decisiveness and with equal commitment. How you approach challenges, prioritize, make decisions or demonstrate commitment suddenly is questionable.
Who knew that when a child cried out “s/he hit me on purpose!” actually had value. Now I'll know to answer "At least it wasn't an accident."
Just thoughts...
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