The Answer to All Our Woes

[Guest]

We are all guilty of it; obsessing over our hair. We curl, we cut, we color, we cry! Ever imagine how it would be without it?

Could this be the Answer?

End up with a smooth scalp! For the Egyptian ladies the shaved,bright and smooth head was status symbol and the best of smartness. African woman crops her hair to appear very charming, beautiful, fascinating. Bald head is the best of sex-appeal.


If you have a Cone Shaped Head, DO NOT try this at Home... /images/graemlins/blush.gifoo:

 

[beana3]

that's not the answer for me.... heck no!!!! Nothing against the look or the lady, but the satisfaction i'll get once i achieve my hair goals will be so much more fulfilling than "just giving up" and shaving my hair bald.
I would not feel feminine in a cut like that, I like my hair.. i love what it does for my face, i love the confidence i get when its styled, and i look forward to having more of it!

 

[nappi]

you'd have 2 pay me ALOT of money b4 i ever shave my head bald

 

[Guest]

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nappi said:
you'd have 2 pay me ALOT of money b4 i ever shave my head bald

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You Know.. I cry when two strands come out, I can't even phatom doing that.....

 

[ms_kenesha]

Nooooo Waaaay!!!!

I mean more power to the woman if that's what she wanted to do, why would she I mean she didn't even have a lot of hair to be like "Oh, I give up" in the first place. The bald head is not for me and even though Egyptians shaved their heads they wore wigs over their shaved heads, so it wasn't because they loved the bald look.

 

[AmilLion]

Is it just me or she looks like an Alien now ???? /images/graemlins/shocked.gif

 

[Guest]

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ms_kenesha said:
she didn't even have a lot of hair to be like "Oh, I give up" in the first place.

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ROTFLLLL,/images/graemlins/rofl.gif She had more hair than the before pictures, I think she went in stages, those were the last two stages...

 

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AmilLion said:
Is it just me or she looks like an Alien now ???? /images/graemlins/shocked.gif

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Yess. Her head did not look like that with hair on it. She said when she wants a look she can just throw a wig on, no hassle hair, she called it...

I show it to my husband and asked him about the sex appeal, and he said "Somebody done lied to her".. He also said he is not about to rub no woman's "head".

He also told me to stay off this message board LOL, but um, I caint. /images/graemlins/look.gif

 

[adrienne0914]

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He also told me to stay off this message board LOL, but um, I caint.

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girl, he don't know it, but what he needs you to do is STAY on this board, cuz if you do you'll never do what that woman did. i'm sorry but hell naw!! /images/graemlins/shocked.gif

adrienne

 

[sassygirl125]

My cousin used to work with this woman!!!
Everyone thought she was making a statement with her lack of hair. But the real story was that she had some kind of scalp disease and her hair starting falling out like a man. After years of trying to save it, wearing wigs, etc., she just shaved it all off. She wrote an article about it for some website... I'll try to find it.
I couldn't do it, though. I'd have some silly looking wig glued to my scalp...

Here's the article:
Ketly Blaise

 

[Tara]

I remember reading a story about a woman who is completly bald and she had a scalp disease. She was saying that if it's hard for a woman to be bald in society, it's practically a crime in the AA communities since we place so much value on hair.

This other woman though wears wigs and said she was very ashamed of the fact that she did not have hair.

So when I feel like complaining (which I do often, LOL!) I guess it's something to keep in mind, so I can quit whining and be thankful! /images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[Mahalialee4]

Re: The Answer to All Our Woes Fact or Fiction?

With all due respect to all: All Egyptians did not shave their heads bald! /images/graemlins/shocked.gif.We have to be careful. /images/graemlins/look.gif Much of the "how blacks lived and did"-we have to check the sources! /images/graemlins/look.gif What about the Nubian Black Kingdoms that supplied Egypt the rival power, with its gold and spices etc. Egypt looked to the Nubians for much of what the Egyptians have taken credit for. We were Nubians first! They had their own kings and "Pharoahs". Egypt was not the centre of all black life. It is just the featured African Kingdom. I am so tired of hearing that the "natural look for black women is bald or knotty and nappy!" /images/graemlins/laugh.gif Neither was our hair originally, hard, tore up and unmanageable.(translated by some critics as brillo pad and ugly!) Our ancient female ancestors took pride in their appearance and were not all born with a natural aversion to having hair on their heads. We did not have to become mixed either to make our hair acceptable!...we just need to know what our hair needs. These type of hair forums helps us to break the cycles of "misinformation and limitations!" Just because some chose to cut their hair off, this is not the norm for all African women (or men). Remember we come from many tribes nations and tongues.(They each had their own customs and perceptions of beauty). I do not accept the stereotype. I do not believe that if you have 4b hair or coarse hair etcetc that you have to relax it, or lock it up. or wear it uncombed and wild or straighten with a straightening comb. And to really solve it all GO BALD! Baldmess was considered a curse, a punishment, or a mark of starvation, SICKNESS or extreme grief in histor.!!! /images/graemlins/shocked.gif This is so limiting and binding on us like a curse!!!!!I believe that if we find what works for our hair, to beautify it, in terms of care and products, natural treatments, all black women have the potential for lovely hair. /images/graemlins/cool.gif I believe that each black woman will find her own look, decide just what she wants to do with her hair and how she chooses to wear it. /images/graemlins/smile.gif No wonder people are shocked when a black woman grows her hair out long and beautiful, /images/graemlins/shocked.gif whether it is relaxed or natural. /images/graemlins/blush.gifoo:Why?...Because you have messed with their stereotype or belief system which for some is a strong mental spiritual stronghold. /images/graemlins/smile.gif Because it says that we can't have it. Then some try to act like you are doing something you are not entitled to...that you must fit into a mythical stereotype. Or that you have to wear arts n craft wild looking weaves...or weaves..anything but your own pretty hair...cause if it is pretty..."it aint yours or it must be a weave...or that to be really black you have to fashion yourself and specifically your hair to fit the stereotype of what is "normal for a real true black woman." People have been MESSING WITH OUR HEADS (literally) for too long. IF A PERSON loses their hair due to medical reasons AND MY HEART HURTS FOR THEM because I know that they would not choose to have their hair fall out /images/graemlins/frown.gif then do what you have to to get through... /images/graemlins/frown.gif but if they CHOOSE to be bald or not comb or groom their hair that is their choice...but I personally believe that hair is meant to be a crowning glory...short or long,and I could not go bald! as a "choice!" /images/graemlins/laugh.gif When some oft repeated stereoptypical MYTH is held up to remind me of my "hair limitations and dictate appropriate texture-length-look for me as a black women...claiming this MYTH is my true heritage...I am very disappointed and I realize that any one who truly buys in to this will have to settle for the myth --in their own hair. Many black women who wear their hair short, they were not born thinking "My goal is to only grow my hair to 2-4 inches and if it grows to or past my shoulders...I will cut it off as quickly as possible...many keep it short because it got damaged...and due to lack of knowledge is not growing! But please do not say that it was meant to be that way /images/graemlins/grin.gif /images/graemlins/laugh.gif/images/graemlins/cool.gif Happy hair growing to all.) /images/graemlins/smile.gif Bonjour.
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[Allandra]

It's not the answer for me either. /images/graemlins/nono.gif

 

[rayne]

No matter how frustrated I get with my hair, I couldn't just go bald! Not even if I wanted to cause for 1) I have a knobby head /images/graemlins/blush.gif and 2) a bald head would not fit my face.

 

[Katrine]

I have had a buzz-cut (1/10 inch long). It looked great and maybe I'll do it again someday. If you look good with a severe bun/ponytail It would very possible look good at you.

I would never go bald though...

 

[Guest]

There is a website, Bald Ladies or something, kinda like our Hair forum and they don't have disease, it's just some kinda club thing.

They actually like being bald..

Go figure

 

[Guest]

Re: The Answer to All Our Woes Fact or Fiction?

Mahailee, we did'nt sat ALL Egyptian Women.

These were too long to post, but check them out when you have a chance..

Hair in Ancient Egypt

by Michael Sones

http://www.anthro.mankato.msus.edu/prehistory/egypt/dailylife/hairstyles.html


*This was despite it being a common practice in all classes of society for the people to shave their heads. While there were social and religious reasons for this the very hot climate of Egypt had a distinct role. Long and elaborate hairstyles are hot and a paradise for vermin. Egyptian women shaved not only their heads but also other parts of their bodies and wore open pleated skirts to reveal this.*

 

[Integrity]

She's a very beautiful lady. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[RUBY]

I read her article and I understand where shes coming from. Sometimes it takes losing and letting go of what we place so much value on to trully discover what is really important.

 

[RUBY]

I read Ketly Blaise's article and I understand where shes coming from. Sometimes it takes losing and letting go of what we place so much value on to trully discover what is really important.

 

[pebbles]

Oh Boy!! You really have to have guts to remove all of your hair. I don't have that much nerve. /images/graemlins/crazy.gif

 

[Mahalialee4]

Mindymouse: /images/graemlins/wink.gif My contention is with the so called "experts on black people, Indian people etc"...the one liner statements that have been placed in history books, science books, reference material etc. that people grab on to and use against us and allow us to use self fulfilling propheces against ourselves. They also said we went naked and ate bugs...so now what? These "quoted" people are not the Bible or the mouth of God or the spokespersons for all the "thems". We have had the "your brains are smaller...you cannot excel academically...your bodies are not symetrically beautiful...you cannot play hockey because you cannot stand cold...you cannot swim well...and you cannot grow hair..."scientific fact" aimed at us for too long. some have been long and elaborately developed theories and some have been ONE LINERS! And they were biased!!!! I have a question: Will generations down the road the "facts be"?... that African American males have short broken hard hair that they cover with woolen caps and the Females have blue pink and purple weaves and feathers woven into short stubby hair or long extensions with beads... As we scientifically know,... blacks do not produce hair that attains length nor is their texture manageable." Now many shave their heads today, red and yellow and black and white...so what will history say about this? This is my contention. I have read the source of the "Egyptians and shaved heads" and many like it. I have read the "Indians greased their heads with bear grease."..etc. And their point is...??? Fortunately, I am an avid student of history and of our people, so I personally do not swallow "their findings" just because they say so. And Mindy: I knew when I was reading the posts that this was not your statement nor the stand of anyone on this board so my reply was not directed at YOU ANY OF US HERE!!!!/images/graemlins/cool.gif /images/graemlins/smile.gif Happy hair growing.Bonjour.

 

[HoneyRockette]

My mother is bald by choice and my grandmother and three of my aunts have alopecia. I can't say much. I feel for her. It might be me one day. It could be any of us. She is not ugly or crazy or even brave in my eyes. To me it's like a woman who lost her breasts to breast cancer and opting not to get reconstructive surgery. She is just making the best of her situation.

 

[Guest]

Yeah, i'm not talking about those that have not choice. Of course they can't help it and it could be us one day cancer or whatever.

I am talking those that do it just becasue they think it's a fad. Or dont want to style their hair. It's kinda drastic don't ya think..

 

[HoneyRockette]

My mother is bald by choice. She thinks too much emphasis is placed on hair and I agree with her. My mother has been shaving her head since her late teens. Every once in a while she gets a fade or a Cesar (though I think for women they have different names). It is a style like any other. It is no more a big deal than going natural. Anything that strays from societal norms is considered unusual. Unlike Ketly, if we shave our heads it will grow back. When Michelle N'degegocello did it, I thought it was cool. When Erykah Badu did it, I thought it was cute. How can anyone say a bald head wouldn't fit their face? Has anyone here ever been completely bald before? I have always wondered how my head looks under all this hair. Would I do it? I can't say. I have to make it to my Monica cut first. I don't think it is something ugly though. Like I said, it is just another style. I would consider it as I would coloring my hair or dreadlocks. But I have to agree that a bald head would be the answer to my hair woes. Not even wash and go, just go!

 

[pebbles]

Hi HR,

I have shaved off all of my hair to a slight fade on a couple of occasions. I mean it was flat, and I looked bald. It was drastic, but I really wanted to get rid of the chemical in my hair on those occasions. It was the closest to bald you can get, and I definately did not like the look for me, but my hair was breaking so badly, I didn't think I had a choice. Fortunately, my hair grew out pretty fast when it was down that short. /images/graemlins/smile.gif

 

[Guest]

**. How can anyone say a bald head wouldn't fit their
face?**


Now theres a point.

 

[Guest]

Pebbles, I can't believe you had hair that short.

Wow, your hair really grows...

 

[pebbles]

Hey Mindymouse, /images/graemlins/wave.gif

Yes girl!!! I didn't have a choice. I had a bad relaxer in my hair on two occasions and my hair was breaking and falling out so bad. I had bald patches /images/graemlins/blush.gif and I did not know at the time what to do, so I shaved it off! Not what I wanted, but the breakage stopped. The 3rd time was to get rid of a curl perm. I'd had enough and just wanted it out of my hair fast, so I shaved it off again. /images/graemlins/tongue.gif That last time was about 5 years ago. Unless my hair is breaking badly, I won't do that again. /images/graemlins/look.gif