GIRL, you are not the only one............ I too have this problem and would love to figure out Why...but so far I havent figured it out. ( From these posts I can say maybe it is the NO LYE thing because my hair is not bone straight, I have waves all up and down my hair so they get into one another when wet...but anyway back to the topic)
I do however deal with it the following way...
Like ISIS...I try not to comb my hair in between washes ( 1x a week now..LAAAAZYYY I know) but
the first day or two after washing I wrap my hair then next day style so I have to "comb" *it out ( *BTW I take down the wrap with the end of a rattail comb, then style with a wide tooth )....but once I wrap the first time I don't again usually unless I'm feeling poofy...too much breakage from the wrap and unwrap..... so
*I clip my hair up at night, moisturize my ends ( either with Keracare Glossifier or currently Hollywood Castor Oil...both are light and tend not to weigh down my hair)
*I comb from the bottom to the top...THIS IS CRITICAL for me... even when hair is wet try to comb out like this....its so much easier and less hair in the comb.
*I've also learned to brush ( with a really Soft ( boars head)....LHCF secret
brush on the surface....why dig deep when its not necessary to style, my hair looks fine with out all the unnecessary roughness)
Detangling Shampoos help, not only conditioner but the shampoos need to moisturize for me....( Currently using Keracare Detangling poo because of my tangle problem
I HTH a bit....I really would like to know the cause of tangles though.... Take care