LivingDol1
Well-Known Member
... a mutual respect for each other. right? i mean, clearly i'm no expert on relationships... but in my experience, i feel like this is something that has been lacking. the few relationships i've had has started with physical attraction... putting someone on a pedestal... being enamoured with an idea of being together and sparks and all of that. they weren't "deep".
i've never been friends with any of the guys i dated, prior to dating them. a guy approaches me. he expresses interest in taking me out on dates, getting to know me... but they're infatuated from the get go. based on my failed experiences, i feel like friendship is mandatory for a long lasting relationship.
so i find myself hesitant to date because i assume that the men who approach me are interested in me for superficial reasons and will never appreciate me as a friend/partner in crime/respected individual... i'm just "the girlfriend".
does that make any sense? married/exclusively committed ladies of the board, can you offer any advice? am i overthinking things? or is there something i'm overlooking?
thanks.
i've never been friends with any of the guys i dated, prior to dating them. a guy approaches me. he expresses interest in taking me out on dates, getting to know me... but they're infatuated from the get go. based on my failed experiences, i feel like friendship is mandatory for a long lasting relationship.
so i find myself hesitant to date because i assume that the men who approach me are interested in me for superficial reasons and will never appreciate me as a friend/partner in crime/respected individual... i'm just "the girlfriend".
does that make any sense? married/exclusively committed ladies of the board, can you offer any advice? am i overthinking things? or is there something i'm overlooking?
thanks.