I do much of what Kenyana does. For products, I love Wildgrowth Hair Oil, L'Oreal Unfrizz Taming Creme, and/or castor oil (for some reason, my natural hair drinks up oil more than my chemically altered hair) - and of course, my standby, distilled water. I've found the trick for me is keeping my hair moist and pliable while minimizing manipulation. I really concentrate moisturizing conditioners at my roots, then ends, and then everywhere else (in that order). I detangle my hair in the shower stream. Fortunately, buns don't require a lot of fussing, so that's my #1 style of choice. I put it into a bun, fresh out of the shower and let my hair dry that way (although the ends stay damp).