Yesterday, I went to the salon to get a relaxer. I was about 5 1/2 months post. I knew I had some damaged ends and that my hair wasn't looking all that great. I don't really spend that much time on my hair. I usually just bun it or put it in a ponytail and walk out the door. I'm always on the go - whether it's my jobs, volunteering, or working out I am constantly moving. Honestly, my hair is very much an afterthought.
I went to a new salon and got a relaxer and a haircut. The cut turned out VERY WELL. I was impressed with the knowledge of my stylist. She showed me where she was cutting and why she was cutting the length she did. She explained her technique to me throughout the cut. I ended up losing about 3 inches all around but my hair looked really nice. I knew my ends were beat up and I don't think it's worth having SL hair if it looks ragged and unprofessional.
After we finished, the stylist sat down with me and had a frank talk about maintaining my hair. She explained that I had a lot of problems with my hair - extreme breakage on one side, product buildup in the new growth, poor technique and little time spent on hair care. The stylist then mentioned that relaxing my hair doesn't mean I get to spend less time on it. She suggested that I spend some time looking at my lifestyle and make some important decisions about what hair styles and routines work best for it. The stylist suggested that I think about transitioning to natural and frequent the salon far more often (every 2-3 weeks) for professional TLC.
At first, I thought the stylist was being greedy but the more I thought about what she said, the more I feel like the stylist is right. For all my time on LHCF, I guess the best hair results when I DON'T handle my hair (when I'm under a weave or go to a stylist on the regular). In fact, my hair problems started when I was younger and started styling my hair. I just feel like an LHCF failure. All the threads I've read and I still can't care for my own hair properly.
It's just so hard. I guess I have to find the time to put myself first and be willing to spend $65-$150/month on my hair. But at the same time, I want to be THAT GIRL and maybe I need to just bite the bullet and accept my DIY haircare days are over.
I went to a new salon and got a relaxer and a haircut. The cut turned out VERY WELL. I was impressed with the knowledge of my stylist. She showed me where she was cutting and why she was cutting the length she did. She explained her technique to me throughout the cut. I ended up losing about 3 inches all around but my hair looked really nice. I knew my ends were beat up and I don't think it's worth having SL hair if it looks ragged and unprofessional.
After we finished, the stylist sat down with me and had a frank talk about maintaining my hair. She explained that I had a lot of problems with my hair - extreme breakage on one side, product buildup in the new growth, poor technique and little time spent on hair care. The stylist then mentioned that relaxing my hair doesn't mean I get to spend less time on it. She suggested that I spend some time looking at my lifestyle and make some important decisions about what hair styles and routines work best for it. The stylist suggested that I think about transitioning to natural and frequent the salon far more often (every 2-3 weeks) for professional TLC.
At first, I thought the stylist was being greedy but the more I thought about what she said, the more I feel like the stylist is right. For all my time on LHCF, I guess the best hair results when I DON'T handle my hair (when I'm under a weave or go to a stylist on the regular). In fact, my hair problems started when I was younger and started styling my hair. I just feel like an LHCF failure. All the threads I've read and I still can't care for my own hair properly.
It's just so hard. I guess I have to find the time to put myself first and be willing to spend $65-$150/month on my hair. But at the same time, I want to be THAT GIRL and maybe I need to just bite the bullet and accept my DIY haircare days are over.