Spinoff: Giving you his card.

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Scenario: Man chats you up and then hands you his card and says call me.

Would you call him? Have you ever called him? Why or why not? If you did how did it turn out?
 
I'm shy and old fashioned when it comes to dating so most of the time I don't. If I like him I will give him my number and wait.

I don't knock it though. My uncle did something similar to his wife and they have been happily married almost 7 years. I did give their "how we met" story a slight sideeye though
 
As much as I can recall, this has only ever happened to me a few times and all of those times the guy was some kind of rapper/poet and some other various forms of homemade career. I don't really expect to be given a card by a guy I'd want to date, lol.
 
mischka said:
As much as I can recall, this has only ever happened to me a few times and all of those times the guy was some kind of rapper/poet and some other various forms of homemade career. I don't really expect to be given a card by a guy I'd want to date, lol.
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:lachen::lachen::lachen:
 
I will accept the card and give him my number. However, I will not call a guy for our initial conversation. If they are sincerely interested in me, they have always called. I'm old fashioned but I think that they secretly like that I expect the man to take the lead.
 
I don't find the card exchange all that unusual- especially over 30. You may meet people at social/ business affairs like at a conference or a happy hour or a fundraiser etc. Men and women carry cards so it's more of an exchange. That way the guy can still make the first move. One of my girlfriends carries personalized calling cards. She created a design and they have her personal number so during the "card exchange" the social goal is emphasized.
 
I was given a card

I did call because I did enjoy our first conversation and he was cute.

So far, we are finding our way through a relationship of sorts (different story for a different day)

I hesitate to say I am OK with the whole card issue. The guy happens to be a rep for a national company that could be easily verified online, so I was a little more comfortable calling. Not so sure I would be if that was not the case
 
hate it.... if i'm out networking, then cool... but if i'm at happy hour and dude gives me a card, then the first thing out of my out after that is, "so am i supposed to be calling you for business or pleasure?" (some variation).... if they clarify "pleasure", then i let them know that it's in their best interest for them to take my number... if they agree, then cool... if they don't, then cool... either way, i don't call....
 
You know I realize I didn't answer the question exactly as you asked. I did call one guy I met at a concert. He looked and sounded well enough but I didn't have any reference (He was truly a stranger) so I accepted the card. I researched the guy and cross checked what he told me. Then I called. We had one date but it didn't go anywhere (but that's another story lol) I would not make a habit of this. I usually carry business cards to exchange.
 
i wouldn't call. you giving me your number is almost a guarantee that we will never speak again.

i just cannot bring myself to call a guy.
 
Hmmm, I don't think I've ever called a guy who's given me his card. I take it as being very formal and that he is not really interested in dating, but more in a business relationship. It also would kind of depend on context...I've had guys ask for my number, then say, "well, how about I give you my number and you can call whenever you want." If he happened to pull out a card because it had his number on there but it was qualified ahead of time, then maybe.

Generally speaking, unless I'm REALLY interested in something, I tend to lose cards in my purse, so it's generally a matter of forgetting. By the time I remember or find the card, I'm not interested or don't want to deal with the awkwardness of trying to explain why I have his card and where I met him.

IDK...it sounds complicated when I type it out, LOL.
 
Eh, I've done it, but I wouldn't make it a habit.

I contacted the guy, but it was after a month and I was thinking "why not?" He was a decent guy.

I typically don't. Guys will make the effort.
 
If we aren't networking I don't need a business card.

I also don't give all the details of my workplace up front. I'll give you a cell number before a work number any day.
 
This has happened to me before. I usually just thank them and politely inform them that I most likely won't call, but they are more than welcome to take my number and call me if they want to. Men usually receive this well. The ones who don't call are the bammas who prob were going to give me the run around anyway had I called them.
 
Phoenix14 said:
This has happened to me before. I usually just thank them and politely inform them that I most likely won't call, but they are more than welcome to take my number and call me if they want to. Men usually receive this well. The ones who don't call are the bammas who prob were going to give me the run around anyway had I called them.
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^^^Agreed. :yep:

Yea, a man handing me his business card or giving me his number and telling me: "Call me sometime" seems waaay too casual and formal. It gives me the impression that his interest in me is VERY lukewarm. :nono:

I would not even bother calling because I know that when someone is REALLY interested in getting something (ie. a relationship, a job, money, info about a new hair salon :giggle: , a new house/apartment, etc.) THAT person will CALL. They will get the phone number and call...NOT hand over their number and sit back passively waiting for a blue moon's chance for that person to call them.


If anything I just take the card and say: "oh, I lose business cards all the time! Here, why don't I give you my number just in case you want to give me a call." :giggle:
 
danibeeja_gyal said:
Well I texted him so he can have my number and he's definitely doing the chasing, albeit too well :look:
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The last guy I dated (prior to current SO) gave me his card after I handed him mine. We met at a networking function. And I was stunned to look down at it and see FBI - Special Operations after we had sat there and discussed his engineering work for 30 minutes. :lachen::lachen:

And on the way out, I texted him saying "engineer eh????". And it went from there.

If he has a legitimate job that provides or requires the use of a business card, it doesn't really bother me, especially if his card is somehow relevant to anything we discussed. My current SO says he still has the business card I gave him. :)

But don't hand me a business card with 97 job titles on it "writer, actor, model and musician" or "entrepreneur" - Entrepreneur is NOT a job title.
 
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R4L said:
LOL, why did I think this was about your Boo giving you his credit card. :lachen::drunk:
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That's what I thought too! :blush: I was ready to start talking about how NOT to fall for that, as when things get 'difficult' he could charge you for credit card fraud, etc. I was ready to preach girl! :lachen:
 
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