Spinoff: Do you Google potential mates?

nappystorm

nappystorm

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Do you Google or do background checks on potential mates? Why or why not? If so, which sites do you use?

On the flip side, are you offended when someone Googles you?
 
Yes ma'am... Yes ma'am! I'll google somebody in a heartbeat. I expect people to do the same to me, so I wouldn't be offended or uncomfortable about it. It is a safety precaution.
 
I definately do...even some people I already know. I once googled an ex
I was thinking of getting back with and found out he was listed as a sexual offender in TX....

Gotta watch my back....
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I do too. *** that. I'm always forthcoming and diplomatic but Imma have to be able to independently verify some things before I even consider entertaining the crayon.

I've noticed that some of the same women who Google get offended when others Google them. A potential mate Googled my prescriptions once. My friend went on a rant about it. Personally, though, I didn't blame him one bit. They were sitting out in the open so it's not like he had to snoop to find them.
 
I see nothing wrong with it, unless you have a reason to trust the person 100% <<raising my eyebrow>>

As soon as I woke up one morning, my intuition told me that some guy that was trying to “get with me” and play Mr. Nice Guy had a record. I searched court records and found nothing. I told a friend that is an attorney that never doubts my intuition. He checked online for me and found a list of stuff. I was just looking on the wrong city’s court website. I checked it myself ... boom :nono: . My intuition was right!

When your intuition tells you something about someone LISTEN!!! There is almost always a reason something within you is telling you to google someone or check court websites.

FYI ... excuse the typo's please :perplexed
 
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Yes and expect the guy to do the same. I have nothing to hide and no skeletons in my closet with regards to my past.
 
Chile they didn't even have Google when I was dating. :lachen:(I've been married 19 years) But I would have if it was available.
 
Absolutely. I'm actually considering getting professional investigations on potential mates. Its rough out here in these streets, lol. You never know who is crazy or trying to play your for stupid.
 
Yup. I use google and this other site to see criminal backgrounds. I actually got the sites from here.:lol:

And I don't hesitate to use them on New female friends either. I didn't grow up in this state. Found out this chick had a HISTORY of forgery,bad checks, and few assult cases. :nono:

Sure,google me,im corny and old.:lachen:
 
Heck ya. We have another thread around here with some helpful resources. That's how I learned about spokeo.com and pipl.com
 
I did once last year. I was really into this guy, too, so I Googled his name only to find that he had been married for one year. His poor wife! :(
 
I google everybody :look: One year in college I showed up in a professor's class on the first day like, "oh, and you worked on this project and you were involved with this and this and :blah:......Why yall looking at me? :look: What?"

So, I'm not all upfront with it anymore, but I do Google potential mates because...I Google everybody :look:

ETA: that was all public information available on his website, not stuff that was supposed to be private--I'm not a psycho:drunk:
 
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Yes I do google folks. However, if I find something I don't agree with I will not make screen shots and throw it in said person's face like the man did in that one thread to the woman.

A little back story:

my younger sister met this guy. He said he was 27 and was in a half way way for "something petty." When me and my oldest sister (who just so happend to be a correctional officer) found this out, my eldest sister googled him and then checked the convict site (i think it's called lockyouup) come to find out homeboy was actually 37 and arrested for more than just "petty crime") my sister confronted him and asked him why he lied. He said, "if i would have told you the truth you wouldn't have talked to me." my sister then said, "But you know I don't like liars." he then said, "Well what do you want me to say? I'm sorry? What?" (in a very rude, condesending way)
 
Nope. Never have. Never really though to, either. -shrug-

What are you checking for when you Google somebody?
 
RachelRegina said:
Yes I do google folks. However, if I find something I don't agree with I will not make screen shots and throw it in said person's face like the man did in that one thread to the woman.

A little back story:

my younger sister met this guy. He said he was 27 and was in a half way way for "something petty." When me and my oldest sister (who just so happend to be a correctional officer) found this out, my eldest sister googled him and then checked the convict site (i think it's called lockyouup) come to find out homeboy was actually 37 and arrested for more than just "petty crime") my sister confronted him and asked him why he lied. He said, "if i would have told you the truth you wouldn't have talked to me." my sister then said, "But you know I don't like liars." he then said, "Well what do you want me to say? I'm sorry? What?" (in a very rude, condesending way)
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Where'd she meet this guy?
 
All the time and check the inmate records for every state they have lived in. You have to for safety reasons. One friend found out her ex was arrested several times for domestic violence against several ex girlfriends. Meanwhile he told her he never hit any other woman before her. yeah ok.
 
I googled the guy, because he was obviously interested in me. He had asked me out before, but I didn't go out with him. I like him, so I wanted to maybe find his facebook page or something. We were both transplants into the midwest. He was also from a totally different country. I also hoped that he would find my facebook page. :yep:

What I found on him: Some information on him and his business license, which I already knew. I google him later, too, and his marriage record came up. My stomach churned. I couldn't believe this was the same guy who was so free to show interest in front of his boys. He did act differently when his female employees were around, but I just thought he was trying to be professional.

I still thought there had to be some mistake or something, so I googled men from his country. Ouch! Tons and tons of posts from scorned American women and women from the UK came up time after time. :nono:
 
My good friend googled a guy she met and he pretty much lied about his entire life. He told her he was a dentist but he was really an unemployed (fired) school teacher who was being investigated for all kinds of misconduct. She saw the old news reports and everything. I was thinking how did we miss his story.

The funny thing is he didn't have any business cards but he wrote his full name and number on a sheet of paper.

Google is your best friend in the dating game.
 
Aisha101 said:
I was thinking of getting back with and found out he was listed as a sexual offender in TX
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we are living in scary times:nono:

yes i do Google.
why?
because folks put so much out there on the internet.
you can find out a lot about a person just from Google, Facebook, Twitter, and all that other non-sense that people put their business on.

and now it is easier then ever for anyone to find out if somebody has an arrest record. all you have to do is know what state they have lived in and Google that.
some states even have that information on their state web page:look:
 
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Does whether or not you Google someone have anything to do with the circumstances in which you meet them? For example - if you're dating a peer (co-worker, classmate etc), someone that was introduced to you through a mutual friend, is it still necessary to go through the Google strides?
 
When I was dating, yes. I'd search the person & his address, public delinquency listing, his professional license if he claimed to have one, plus I'd run a local court check.
 
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I heard from a friend :sekret: that iphone has an app that allows you to do background checks on person. You just need the name, city and state.
 
When I was dating I not only googled the guy but I would google anyone he is associated with. There are too many crazies out there.
 
Imani said:
Absolutely. I'm actually considering getting professional investigations on potential mates. Its rough out here in these streets, lol. You never know who is crazy or trying to play your for stupid.
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Agreed. I have a friend who got PLAYED by a man that she didn't check up on. Now she's a single Mom and out tens of thousands of dollars. All of that could have been avoided with a few simple searches. It's been 8 years and she's still picking up the pieces of her life.:nono:

I Google everyone that I date and if I become serious with you, I do a full background check. These are not the old days where we all grew up in the same small town and everyone knew everyone's families. You don't know who people are or what kind of past(or present) they have.
 
Thank you ladies! I found out the guy I was seeing for four years married 3 years ago recently. Something kept telling me to check him out, but I only did so on the normal searches..didnt think to check marriage records. So yes, going forward I will do a quick lil search. Google is a girl's best friend!
 
I do searches also. Mostly court records and professional liscences. I met a guy online years ago (we are really good friends now), and we both confessed to looking each other up. I didn't mind one bit that he looked me up and I told him exactly what he found (a speeding ticket from years earlier). We both agreed that people are too crazy and sneaky to not search their records. I also do searches for my friends if they ask me to.
 
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