[USER=292332]faithVA[/USER];18058731 said:
Why did you add all of those extra words to her sentence. She said it can look wild, not that it had no choice
I didn't realize you asked me a question since you didn't mention me and I somehow missed your post. C'mon nah! If people keep talmbout a length that is apparently when hair can look unkempt or some transition length that seems unruly, clearly there is some consensus that there is some length along the way that is just outta control. She said there was a growing out phase (previously referred to as transition) when hair can look unkempt and this is at least the second time I am encountering this reference. What am I supposed to conclude: that hair can't help but look unkempt at some arbitrary period along the journey. Why? Coz common sense tells me ALL lengths can look unkempt if not groomed so to make the statement that there is a whole phase when hair can look unkempt, then you must mean it just happens; like folks have no control. Otherwise the statement is pretty redundant since all hair can look unkempt regardless of length. Coz if you have a choice, then why is the word unkempt even coming up? Why would any sane person be letting their hair look unkempt unless it was beyond their control? And that to me = no choice.
My hair would be that length now. Its between 3 and 5 inches. Some days it looks fine but many days it looks wild. Of course it can be tamed. It is just harder at this length. It takes a lot more time to tame it. When my hair is out, it looks wild. The only quick option is a wig.
Like I said, she said it "can look wild".
As I said your last line is kinda redundant unless the point you are making is the one you thought I was exaggerating since all hair can look wild. There is no special length that gets exclusivity in that matter.
And this is what makes no sense to me. I went to boarding school and we were not allowed to braid our hair unless you could get your hair in 3 or less plaits. My hair never grew beyond 4 inches--coz I didn't know better than to comb my hair dry. No one showed up to class with unkempt hair or uncombed hair if loose, and there was no time to be messing with hair in front of a mirror for more than a few minutes coz we had a tight schedule. It took us minutes to shower, get ready for breakfast, do dorm duty and be in class by 9:00 AM. And you have to remember we queued for the shower, queued for breakfast, etc so time was not on our side. So I dunno what y'all are talmbout.
Folks are acting as if hair has a mind of its own. If TWA is a style that worked for you, why not embrace shrinkage and enjoy it longer during your transition. In a previous post, I showed you my SL hair shrunked down to a puff the size of my under 3-inch hair. If instead of doing a WNG that leaves you looking cray cray, you used the slip and moisture of the products you use for your WNG and combed through your hair with a pick or wide-toothcomb, you could then pat it down to whatever shape you want. I keep seeing folks saying that you can cut down back or sides. Not necessary. Pat down more the areas you want short or tie a scarf while you have breakfast kinda like
this and you will have your shape. In fact people who CW daily would be able to pull this off so well: comb hair during wash and during rinse, moisturize, comb to style and pat into shape while damp. Voilà!
Honestly I think the problem comes when people try to make their hair do things that are not "normal" to it, or start off wrong. Very straight hair will not make a good afro so if unevenness is the issue, bloody spritz that mane to encourage strands to take their normal circular shapes and pat and you will get the TWA look all over again. Wear a TWA for as long as you need to, get past that so-called transition stage, then rock other dos when you have the length you prefer. Hair is really a breeze when you stop fighting it and work with it.
BTW, in case anyone is gonna suggest that wearing afros and afro puffs daily is why my hair stayed at 4 inches, let me stop you from wasting strokes. My hair stayed that length because I didn't know that 4B hair must be drenched in moisture (aqueous solution) before you pass a comb through it. Since I learned to comb my hair like
this, daily afro puffs are my daily do when wearing my hair out; combed out afro puffs, that is. And I never have tangled hair coz I don't give my hair a chance to tangle by daily combing. My haircare is a breeze because of this.
So yeah, the only pain with having short hair is the many braids before baggying for the night. Styling in the AM takes minutes if you use a pick and aren't trying to make your hair become something it is not. And keeping this regimen means morning styling takes less than 5 minutes, even during the so-called transition length.
