well, if you're gonna twist my arm lol
Anywhoo, I had been chit chatting for a while in the CF about "future husband" type stuff. My husband and I met in 2006 and he told me then that I would be his wife because God had told him. My words. . . ."God ain't told me nothing yet
!" Anyhow, fast forward 2007(I broke up with him(long story, but I was trying to stay on track with school and my Christian walk and I just needed to be single)
fast forward 2010 He's back, trying to woo me, and I'm jus NOT going for it. i knew he had been seeing someone and I wanted to make sure it was dead gone, buried, cremated and redistributed in the earth before I let him in my heart. Well, sept 2010 he called me to meet him at the jewler and I was like ughhhhhhhhhh but but but dang, ok here i come
He asked me to look at rings and pick out one. I picked a small solitair princess cut(just like the one he had put on layaway in 2007 when he first proposed). I wasn't really trying to dig in his pockets so I went small.
So he and the jeweler know each other and are just talking away, then he told the jeweler to have me look at more rings. . .I did. all much bigger and more dramatic. He said to me, if you could have one of them, which would it be? I picked one, he and the jeweler start man giggling and I'm like WHAT?
erplexed Well, he had already picked out the ring. tehehe.
Ok, so the ring is on layaway(we are real people not ballers shot callers and he had to take his time paying for it. and I didn't mind) We began looking at dates and whether it would be destination, church, courthouse, etc. We originally chose July 2, 2011
So in march 2011 there was a HUGE blowout and I just knew it was over for good, cause that's just how I roll(being a single parent for so many years I had the mindset that a man wouldn't ever make me or break me one way or the other. Anywhoo it wasn't over and in the meantime a baby was brewing(I know I know I know. . .don't judge me
)
mind you, the date was already on deck, colors selected, dress chosen, we had just planned to just save up and go buy everything at once and be done with it.
Mother's Day 2011 he gave me my ring that he had been working to pay for.
So there was something else going on July 2 so we ended up moving it to June 23 at the courthouse(cheap, I was already pregnant and my good sense told me that there wans't a pastor alive who would marry us, not even mine, especially since we were also living together, BUT I wanted to make it right. although I couldn't undo shacking and being pregnant out of wedlock(AGAIN). I still wanted to do it right and we were already planning to be married so there was no reason to put it off.
So on a thursday evening in June. . .My family, his family, cute outfits, kids(we have 7 all together, 3-him 3-me 1-us). My sister planned a fantabulous reception the following evening(because we got married on a thursday evening and to avoid inconveniencing anyone who may have had to work in the am we had the reception the next day)
She had it in her backyard which was decorated all purty with tents, cake, family made food, decorations and did i say cake , . . .yeah, me and the boo got to take A bite of the cake, then we looked up and it was gone, so i guess we'll get to taste it on our anniversary when we eat our topper.
So there it is. We've been blessed. I wouldn't change a thing. although my mind told me big dress church, lots of people. The reality is that I don't fool with many people and I couldnt see investing thousands and thousands of dollars into a wedding just for show. All I needed was God, family, and a justice of the peace. Now if we quit being so antisocial, perhaps we'll renew our vows in a huge ceromony one day.
