So U wanna b white??? Well, come on in!!!!

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I have seen this before

Daeuiel Stop! You took a pic with Jason Mamoa! I hate you (j/k)

Back on topic, I definitely want to be white. I'm already light-skinned now; but, with four more payments, I can be white just in time for the summer! Yay.

But, for real, it's the number one symptom of the crab in the barrel mentality some blacks have toward others.

 

[empressri]

yep!!! white on rice with a paper plate and a glass of milk and a snowstorm!!!!

lawdy jeebus.

 

[BlkOnyx488]

This has been talked about here a lot, but I'm still surprised every time I read posts about it. I've been accused of being white because I go to the gym, watch what I eat with a strict diet, practice alternative medicine, shop at Whole Foods co-ops and farmers markets purchased a practical car instead of one with "bling" and rims, have natural hair (yes, really!)*, spend hours at the library, have a goodreads.com account, love English, have white friends, etc.


*Wear my hair as/in without major altering (relaxing or weaving) is trying to be white, because white people don't have to do any of that unless they choose to. Being able to rinse and wash my hair anytime, wash my hair at the gym without carrying major arsenal with me, sweat freely, walk in the rain without an umbrella, etc is trying to be white no matter how kinky/curly it is.

last January I started buying only organic products even for my hair and skin. in September I decided to stop eating meat.
I went home during the summer to visit family and my father got hot with me because I wouldn't eat at a fast food joint. I told him I feed my kids, my husband and myself real food that crap at McDonald's isn't food. lawd you would have thought I cussed him out. He said, "well what the hayle am I suppose to eat Heather???"

I was said dad chill you do you it's all good LOL. My father has often accused me of actting white. SMH

Daeuiel Stop! You took a pic with Jason Mamoa! I hate you (j/k)

Back on topic, I definitely want to be white. I'm already light-skinned now; but, with four more payments, I can be white just in time for the summer! Yay.

But, for real, it's the number one symptom of the crab in the barrel mentality some blacks have toward others.

I heard they had a two for one special at QVC call now while supplies last that's right you and a friend can be white and right tonight!!!!!

 

[WhippedButterCreme]

Hmm yeah...I figure I'm going to get the 'you're an oreo' or 'you're not black...' spill for life because I went to a catholic high school, do yoga, I'm skinny (I guess if you're not a certain 'size' you're not black? Lol that's the latest one I received), college-educated, love reading, and speak like I've been through grade school

...And this is usually stuff nonblacks have told me. Leave it to a white girl to tell me I'm 'white-washed' Well isn't that the kettle calling the pot black!!

Also with the new hair care regimen and washing my hair 2x a week I've gotten the 'That's not proper care for Black hair' speech. And just the other day my sister said, 'What's your final hair goal? It's long now.' When I told hr mbl she said, 'Ah, you want white girl long hair'

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I heard they had a two for one special at QVC call now while supplies last that's right you and a friend can be white and right tonight!!!!!

Girl, let me get on that now. Oh snap! One of my resolutions was to curb my PJism. Oh well!

 

[WhippedButterCreme]

ha ha
BEAUTYU2U posted in another thread that her mother believes if you want long hair you "wanna be white"

It suddenly occured to me that people who say things like that must believe being white is the ultimate goal to reach, why else would they say it? i mean no one ever says "oh, you wanna be Asian" or "dang gurl why you act so cambodian?"

so i was just wondering how many of you ladies have been accused of wanting to be white or actting white because of your hair, or the way you speak?

LOL

I've got an interesting question...Are the majority of everyone's accusers black or nonblacks?

 

[chrisanddonniesmommy]

I've got an interesting question...Are the majority of everyone's accusers black or nonblacks?

WhippedButterCreme
Sadly, it's been fellow blacks. When non-blacks were involved, my skin tone came into call, which led to other negative connotations.

 

[greenandchic]

I've got an interesting question...Are the majority of everyone's accusers black or nonblacks?

Sadly, it comes from other blacks. I usually get the "articulate" "complements" from whites though. In their defense, most of them actually though I was much younger than I am. Once they realize I'm not early 20 something, they don't harp on it. Actually many assume I have an advance degree of some sort. I'm not sure where they get that from.

 

[BlkOnyx488]

I've got an interesting question...Are the majority of everyone's accusers black or nonblacks?

it depends on the day of week! I have to say I am blessed to be surrounded by some very intelligent sistas in my life, that live a healthy natural lifestyle and workout daily and they get it. but then I have family and well they need prayer. And a few lily friends who say stupid things like " you don't act like any black people I know" :eyeroll:

 

[Spongebob]

wanting to be white is not all together an exaggeration. why do you think black women burn their skin and scalp. bleaching and relaxing is all too common in our communities, and although non black communities curl their hair and fake tan, it is certainly not because they aspire to look like us.

 

[CurlyMoo]

So do black chicks who wear weave down to their butt want to be white too? Or is fake long hair ok for black girls?

Only real Black girls do weave, if it's real you are white! YAY! Party like a White girl! Party like a White girl!

 

[Evolving78]

i talk like i'm white, i eat food like i'm white, etc.... blacks folks get real mad when i it flip it back on them. like,"wow you are really talking black right now!"

 

[DDTexlaxed]

yep!!! white on rice with a paper plate and a glass of milk and a snowstorm!!!!

lawdy jeebus.

And I bet the same chicks ask you how you grew your hair and what products you used. These are the ones who ask a million times what you are mixed with. We still haven't risen above this crap.

 

[Embyra]

DAMN IT!! I thought this thread was going to detail where i could sign my name to become white what a waste of time me clicking into here

 

[bedhair29]

Lol i've been called an oreo by my white friends and wanna be white by my black friends because I happen to enjoy classical music, jazz and symphonic metal. I still listen to urban music but not as much as some people would like me to. I've even been asked why I don't have many black friends more than once -sigh- lol. Im still growing out my hair and I occasionally wear lace fronts as protective style (trying to pass the shoulder length hurdle), boy do I get so much crap from people because of it

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[MrsJaiDiva]

I've got an interesting question...Are the majority of everyone's accusers black or nonblacks?

Majority has been from People of Color, but I've caught it from White people as well...teachers would always ask me "Where were you born?", and when I'd say the Bronx, they'd say "No, not where do you Live (as if I were slow, or hard of hearing ), where were you Born??". SMH!

 

[Southernbella.]

I'm amazed. I managed to get through life reading, using proper grammar, getting good grades, going to college, growing my hair long, etc., and not once have I been accused of wanting to be white, talking white, acting white, or anything of the sort.

Why oh why can't I be a magical negro?

 

[Ogoma]

Lol i've been called an oreo by my white friends and wanna be white by my black friends because I happen to enjoy classical music, jazz and symphonic metal. I still listen to urban music but not as much as some people would like me to. I've even been asked why I don't have many black friends more than once -sigh- lol. Im still growing out my hair and I occasionally wear lace fronts as protective style (trying to pass the shoulder length hurdle), boy do I get so much crap from people because of it

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WTH! People are crazy!

 

[MissAlinaRose]

I'm amazed. I managed to get through life reading, using proper grammar, getting good grades, going to college, growing my hair long, etc., and not once have I been accused of wanting to be white, talking white, acting white, or anything of the sort.

I second that. I remember having a conversation with a guy in college and he said that he avoided an HBCU like the plague because he was teased in high school by other black folk for being smart. He said because of his "geekish" ways, the black folks said he was "acting white". That was so foreign to me. I grew up in a predominately black area and it was not cool to be dumb. Most of us were very competitive academically and athletically.

Now if you had long hair and were black you were either labeled as having "good hair" or being "stuck up" erplexed But, it was never "white" to want or have long hair. That's new to me because so many people of different backgrounds can have long hair.

 

[Ogoma]

I'm amazed. I managed to get through life reading, using proper grammar, getting good grades, going to college, growing my hair long, etc., and not once have I been accused of wanting to be white, talking white, acting white, or anything of the sort.

Why oh why can't I be a magical negro?

I think it depends on your crowd. I have never had anyone say any of this to me, but the people around me are all similar to me and being second (first?) generation Canadian, I don't think people know what box I should be in to start judging me by its standards.

 

[Honey Bee]

Majority has been from People of Color, but I've caught it from White people as well...teachers would always ask me "Where were you born?", and when I'd say the Bronx, they'd say "No, not where do you Live (as if I were slow, or hard of hearing ), where were you Born??". SMH!

Honestly, I rarely involve myself in the 'acting white' threads (because I don't have the patience for the subtext of the discussion, I don't care, etc), but ^^^ this HAS been happening to me quite a bit lately (to my frustration). I think it's because of all these 'new folks' floating around through Harlem. Old-timers meet me and automatically assume I'm not from here, so do the new ones. It's very odd being in the middle of gentrification, your people id you with the gentrifiers, and the gentrifiers think you're one of them. I use it to spy. I joined one of the Yahoo groups once and tried to convince them to let the drummers in Mt Morris Park stay (white folks was annoyed ). It worked for a while, but I think they eventually moved them. Million dollar brownstone owners apparently hold more sway than the pulse of a venerable old NYC neighborhood.

 

[Eisani]

Now see, this child's mother has the vision! She's starting her early so by the time she reaches kindergarten, she'll be Edward Scissorhands white.

Sorry, I'll just see myself out now.

 

[BlkOnyx488]

Even the baby looks like she saying "Can you believe this s**t"

I truely believe we need to pass a standardize test before we are allowed to procreate

Now see, this child's mother has the vision! She's starting her early so by the time she reaches kindergarten, she'll be Edward Scissorhands white.

Sorry, I'll just see myself out now.

 

[CurlsBazillion]

Omg that phrase "you tryin to be white" has been said to me sooo many times as kid. I moved down to a very small town in Ga from the south Bronx and the kids down here obviously never watched a movie or t.v because my heavy accent came across white to them. Never heard that as far as my hair expect about the products I use.

 

[CurlsBazillion]

i talk like i'm white, i eat food like i'm white, etc.... blacks folks get real mad when i it flip it back on them. like,"wow you are really talking black right now!"

Oh wow, my boyfriend just told me I eat like I'm white because I like bagels for breakfast lol!!

 

[PittGirl06]

My godmother was perplexed as to why I washed my hair daily with conditioner when I was a loose natural....said only white people wash their hair that often. Lol. My mother once said that white ppl have to wash their hair daily because they're nasty...LOL wtf

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[CurlsBazillion]

^^^my grandmother told me the samething back in my high school days when I was relaxed. I liked washing my hair 3-4 times a week and my grandmother used to get almost mad and say "you washing your hair almost as much as white people do and your gonna wash out the relaxer" smh...I did it anyway.

 

[LadyRaider]

The whole "acting white" deal was a term coined at first by Ogbu, who was a non-African American person looking at African American culture. In a lot of ways he was examining "our" culture with an outsider's view which can be problematic. Ogbu was either Caribbean or African, I forget which.

Fordham, an African American who worked with him on the same research, seemed to have some disagreements on what "acting white" actually meant.

1. She claims that being smart was not what was being criticized in African American culture. It was okay to be smart, but you had to figure out how to do it without the outward evidence of working at it - ie being a teacher's pet, or reading in public, or publicly doing homework. I know a small difference, but significant. Being smart is not considered acting white; but doing the work of being smart was.

2. The idea of acting white, is bigger than just what we see in matter of schools. There were so many things that were uniquely African American that were considered bad. So in the 60s black people started to embrace the African American Vernacular English... simply as a backlash to the hate piled on the way of speaking for so long. Similarly, our hair... in the sixties Blacks began to glory in the afro as a way to negate centuries of hatred toward our hair. So the "acting white" thing came out of that instinct... to defend what has been denigrated for so long... the African American way of being.

Now it's not an Ogbu/Fordham theory... this is one of mine: In the last decade there was this huge push for long straight hair, right? I think that style was what pushed many African American women to see it as a last straw and start the natural movement in protest.

Anyway... the "acting white" thing isn't totally a negative part of our culture. It can lead to us appreciating and celebrating what is considered ours more. But it can be problematic because for most kids, being smart is hard to do without revealing the outward characteristics of the hard work that accompanies being smart.

So those kids who teased you for "speaking white" were wrong to do so, of course. But their drive to do so was in response to centuries of hate piled upon all things African American. And in a lot of ways it's a healthy response.

 

[phillycocogirl]

Majority has been from People of Color, but I've caught it from White people as well...teachers would always ask me "Where were you born?", and when I'd say the Bronx, they'd say "No, not where do you Live (as if I were slow, or hard of hearing ), where were you Born??". SMH!

I've gotten this too. I wouldn't say that I speak perfect English but I usually don't use slang. When I tell people I'm from Philadelphia, a few (white) assumed I meant the suburbs of Philly. When I tell them I'm actually from West Philly, they were in shock as if its impossible for intercity black people to standard English.

 

[LadyRaider]

I had a white boyfriend once. I bought a new Sony television and I was so proud of it, I didn't take the plastic sticker off of the tv. Just left it in the corner of the screen forever and ever.

My boyfriend saw it and told me I was "so white trash."

I still giggle at that.