SO or EX-SO Stalking You On The Forum????

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Ballerina_Bun

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Has anyone here ever discover that your SO, Ex-SO or ... was stalking you on the forum?

If so, How did you find out?
 
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Not here but my bf made a hairlista page and bothers us in the chat sometimes. I guess that's his way of letting me know he wants attention and I should get off the computer............


Very creepy for your EX SO to STALK you on here!
 
LaFemmeNaturelle said:
Not here but my bf made a hairlista page and bothers us in the chat sometimes. I guess that's his way of letting me know he wants attention and I should get off the computer............


Very creepy for your EX SO to STALK you on here!
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I don't know if he does or not. I was simply asking.

Though I had an ex-SO that did it while we were together.

I apologize for nothing that I have written here. That would be the same as reading my journal. You see something you don't like, shouldn't have been here or read it.
 
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Not yours I meant in general lol But you meant an ex who was a current SO at the time of the stalking? OR he's an ex and he's stalking?

Yup to your last comment. Don't go looking for trouble if you don't want to find it.
 
This is a good topic. Maybe you should have posted it in OT. :yep: I'd like to get more perspectives on this. I've never had it happen to me as far as I know.....
 
gabulldawg said:
This is a good topic. Maybe you should have posted it in OT. :yep: I'd like to get more perspectives on this. I've never had it happen to me as far as I know.....
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I wasn't sure where to post it. I figured since it was "relationship" oriented, it belonged here. But OT has more traffic :scratchch
 
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Wow..this IS a good question! The Ex would always see me on the forums and I always told him it wasn't for you LOL
 
Ballerina_Bun said:
I wasn't sure where to post it. I figured since it was "relationship" oriented, it belonged here. But OT has more traffic :scratchch
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I feel you. Sometimes relationship-type things do end up in OT, though. But I don't know what the rules are around it...
 
I didn't have that happen to me. I do currently have the SO of a guy that likes me stalking me on TWO messageboards. She's seen me in person twice and not said a word. #kanyeshrug.
 
None of my ex bf's knows I am on here. But the girl my ex cheated on me with (I broke it off when I found out about her) started poking me, adding me and sending me messages on Facebook she kept trying to add my friends on Facebook too. I reported her but idk what happened.
 
That actually did happen to someone on this board back in like 2004/2005 IIRC. She was devastated. I don't remember her sn.
 
Yes, but not on this forum, that I know of.

I volunteer with a child advocacy program in DC. The attorneys, family court judges and private investigators always tell me that the information that women put on the internet, naively believing it can't hurt them, has changed the game in many of these cases in recent years. Venting about relationships, the children, their social lives in forums and chat rooms can be used against the women in court. The PIs think Facebook is the greatest thing since sliced bread.

They say women often use the same screen name (and password) on every forum they belong to and they rarely change them. This makes it easy for not only the PIs, but the stalkers as well, to get all of the posts these women considered private. Sometimes they only need the screen name to pull up old posts and to track the IP numbers. These messages along with photographs can be used to paint a picture of the woman that leads to her losing custody of the child(ren).

Sometimes the posts go back 5-7 years to before the woman was even involved with the father of the children.

Word of caution... Be careful what you post!
 
I do remember an ex or would-be-ex who joined the forum to apologize to his girl and ask for a second chance. It was too cute and we had lots of fun trying to figure out who the girl was. Dude wouldn't spill even in PM. It was so funny how folks were guessing left, right and center. Good times!

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Yes i found out my ex was(and still is) stalking me on makeupalley. I use his computer and one day i went to the site on his computer and there was someone signed on called "brightgurl" with NO posts and about a week old. This early in our rel. I didnt think it was big deal because i have nothing to hide.

Then he would start using my posts against me. Stuff that had nothing to do with my rel.....stuff i would say about say: my exes or whatever that had absolutely NOTHING to do with our relationship.

Then one time i did a board search for his username and there was a post about dating older men and he had the nerve to say "well older guy is more stable and provide for the girl and is ready for commitment bla bla bla"

This whole time i didnt say anything to him but i started watching what i was saying on there.

UNTIL recently, we broke up and we're trying to get back together and that didnt work out so i told him i was dating someone but he didnt get the message and kept calling me. I posted on MUA how i was dating a cop and was wondering how to get him to use his cuffs on me. :grin: Why did Steven call me and I didnt pick up, he called me again and sent me a few texts. I guess he was a bit antsy and logged on to MUA to read my posts and sent me all these texts:

"So i guess you are dating someone afterall"
"well i hope you enjoy those handcuffs WH*RE and i dont want to ever hear from you again" :blush::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:

I was ROFLMAO!!!!! I hope he learned his lesson. I know he prob still reads my posts from time to time.
 
shockolate said:
Yes i found out my ex was(and still is) stalking me on makeupalley. I use his computer and one day i went to the site on his computer and there was someone signed on called "brightgurl" with NO posts and about a week old. This early in our rel. I didnt think it was big deal because i have nothing to hide.

Then he would start using my posts against me. Stuff that had nothing to do with my rel.....stuff i would say about say: my exes or whatever that had absolutely NOTHING to do with our relationship.

Then one time i did a board search for his username and there was a post about dating older men and he had the nerve to say "well older guy is more stable and provide for the girl and is ready for commitment bla bla bla"

This whole time i didnt say anything to him but i started watching what i was saying on there.

UNTIL recently, we broke up and we're trying to get back together and that didnt work out so i told him i was dating someone but he didnt get the message and kept calling me. I posted on MUA how i was dating a cop and was wondering how to get him to use his cuffs on me. :grin: Why did Steven call me and I didnt pick up, he called me again and sent me a few texts. I guess he was a bit antsy and logged on to MUA to read my posts and sent me all these texts:

"So i guess you are dating someone afterall"
"well i hope you enjoy those handcuffs WH*RE and i dont want to ever hear from you again" :blush::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen::lachen:

I was ROFLMAO!!!!! I hope he learned his lesson. I know he prob still reads my posts from time to time.
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Your ex must be related to mine :lachen: . He sent me some crazy texts in Feb. 2009 and later asked if I would delete them - NOT.
 
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Ballerina_Bun said:
Your ex must be related to mine :lachen: . He sent me some crazy text in Feb. 2009 and later asked if I would delete them - NOT. Man-o-man ... if I had listened to my intuition, I never even would've met that fool :wallbash: LESSON: ----> Always listen to intuition when it's that's strong :wallbash:
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I actually took screenshots of ALL his texts in case anything goes down. :look:then he texts me last week saying he was going to Hawaii and he's sad that he planned the trip for both of us. Riiiight :rolleyes:
 
shockolate said:
I actually took screenshots of ALL his texts in case anything goes down. :look:then he texts me last week saying he was going to Hawaii and he's sad that he planned the trip for both of us. Riiiight :rolleyes:
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You were smart to take screenshots off his texts. :yep:
 
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Maybe I could find Varg Veum in Bergen :lick:

eta: losers always try to come back. You won't fall for his BS so really, his attempts don't matter... he's past tense at this point.....
 
That guy who posted in ot obviously has an ex that's a member here. I think he admitted it. So the posts about his ex were pretty tacky. I hope that member saved the posts or the mods saved the thread somewhere.
 
My dh wouldn't dare. He has way better things to do. I would think a man keeping up with your posts on a social site is stalking and controlling.
 
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